This is a strange one to me, but ok....

[Wheresthecorporal]

Alright,

So i'm about to get into it here,

This is strange to me,

 

 

I'm 19

I suffer from depression, and recently got put into a psychiatric unit,

Where i met this girl, at first we jus talked while we where in there, but when we both got out, we where phonatically texting, until eventually we both admitted to each other that we some feelings for each other,

 

She did have a boyfreind, but after she told him what was going on, he went nuts and started traeatin her like ****,

 

So we both came to the conclusion that after a while we had actually fallen in love with each other,

 

Now about 2 weeks ago I went over to her place,

We stuck around talked and stuff,

And we made out that night,

 

The next day we went out to the city and got told off by some coppers for kissing,

 

We got her brother to buy us drinks, we both got ****faced,

And threw up (not drinking smokey joes ever again)

 

The next day she was very withdrawn,

It wasn't a hang over, i think she wasj ust having a bad day like you do when you have to cope with depression.

 

So the next day after I went home,

We just started chatting as normal,

 

And I asked if i'm ever really annoying,

She said no, and apologized for no always cuddling up to me,

and apologized for not wanting to be in a relationship with me because she wasn't ready after breaking up with her boyfreind (they where together 2 years, I felt like such an *******) I'm understanding, and told her its okay, she was really happy that i understood, but today she mentioned that she wanted to have sex with me,

She wasn't kidding around,

But she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me because she gets confused,

 

I really honestly don't know,

I know that sounds like i'm being a dick,

 

But unless your looking at FWBs I dunno how two people have sex,

With out being in a relationship, especially when we have feelings for each other.

 

Can someone help me out here, I dunno what to do.

[BiscuitXOXO]

If she wants sex w/o the relationship and you want sex only with a relationship...that is a fundamental difference in values and views. This isn't basis for writing her off yet tho, imo. After all, you really like her. Just watch out

 

Also keep in mind she left her xbf somewhat easily. Once again, be careful!

 

But otherwise, why not have some fun dating her, getting to know her better?

 

Only you can choose whether to sleep with her or not, we're not you.

[oldguy]

If she wants sex w/o the relationship and you want sex only with a relationship...that is a fundamental difference in values and views. This isn't basis for writing her off yet tho, imo. After all, you really like her. Just watch out

 

Also keep in mind she left her xbf somewhat easily. Once again, be careful!

 

But otherwise, why not have some fun dating her, getting to know her better?

 

Only you can choose whether to sleep with her or not, we're not you.

 

I agree with biscuit but need to add, if you, (& her), suffer from depression right now, & I'm assuming you may be medicated, you know drinking & other drugs are a bad idea, to be honest it is dangerous.

[dreamingoftigers]

Oh jeez, I did the psych ward relationship kick-off too. Wait six months until you are both stabilized, she may not get stabilized even!

[Ross MwcFan]

Picking up chicks in psych wards? I never thought of that.

[dreamingoftigers]

Not uncommon either.

 

Everyone thinks it will be "cute"

[Ross MwcFan]

Everyone thinks it will be "cute"

 

Everyone thinks it's cute for a romance to happen between two people in a psych ward?

[dreamingoftigers]

Well not everyone but usually the temporary residents do.

 

I am glad my little flirtation didn't go far. I thought it was weird anyways.