Found Out Tonight My Fiance is Having an Affair With Her Married Boss What do I do?

[geegirl]

Well, I hope the two wonderful days you had with her turn into months and years of blissful happiness and we won't have to read about her maipulating and disrespecting you anymore. God knows, it's hard to see someone destroy themselves for someone else all because they're afraid of being alone and barelling through the discomfort and coming out to the other side with the prospects of finding a caring, loving and nurturing relationship. I wish you well. This thread can go on for another 20 pages, and the tune will still be the same. No one can help you but yourself.

[heartt]

man man man look dump her what do u have to prove she knows what she did she took it off . and if you are saying that you recognize the behavior even more reason to drop her. both of you know what going on and think about this more can you think about how long its been going on and you accepting it is not going to stop her she will just keep hiding things but just better . man run away from that girl

[EnterTheWILLderness]

Man! am I the only one on here who wants to see a photo of this girl?!? If she is insanely good looking i.e. "Victoria secret" or "playmate" good looking I will forgive the OP.

 

So to redeem yourself, even if the face is blurred out, let's see the type of response the male readers on here will give you. Honestly, for all the sh*t you put up with this girls picture better make me pass out from sensory overload, she better be that good looking.

 

Heck, if she's that good lookin I'll travel across the world to let her cheat on me!

 

I'm not even joking, if the picture doesn't blow my mind, your a sucker! Sorry OP - it's the truth.

 

Listen closely my friend, let me enlighten you with all the possible outcomes:

1) if she is in fact mind-blowingly attractive, you must be a decent catch yourself, (attractive girls don't date toads) You'll find another attractive but sane girl if you put in some effort. She is not the last single lady on planet earth.

 

2) Continue dating this poor excuse of a human being (I hear genital warts is on the rise)

 

3) Girls like that need to get taught a lesson. I think you should be the one to teach it to her. Keep her on the backburner, don't let her know your doing this. You were able to get a girl of this pretty you can find others, let that be your confidence to meet other women. Turn her into your booty call .

^______I know this is such an ******* move but hey, some people need a taste of what it feels like.

 

 

I feel like you are shy to meet other women and this is what is holding you back. Once you meet other women who are intelligent/beautiful/loyal/honest, you'll understand why number 3 would have been the funnest choice.

 

Quit talking like your old and "woe is me, I've invested 5 years I'm too committed now" You'll find another (more sane) girl OP. Disconnect yourself from this crazy broad emotionally, let her unknowingly be your FWB and take off when you find a sane girl! You only live once.

 

Fella's am I right? She's heartless anyways, when she figures out your just using her for a roll in the hay, I doubt she'd shed a tear. If anything it will be an ego boost for her, she'll think she's even sexier.

 

Show us a photo! And let the readers decide!

Edited July 12, 2011 by EnterTheWILLderness

[Angelic Resolution]

I've just registered just to respond to you BPA.

 

First off, Pics of this girl.

 

Secondly: Show her this thread. Make sure she understands that whilst she was having a fun and dandy time, she made and treated you disrespectfully and horribly.

 

If other boyfriends buy their girls everything, she should try and be with someone like that. Stop worrying about what others have and be greatful for the catch she does have.

 

Unfortunately it sounds like you've gotten with a Hot Crazy -

- but she does have her higher points that you're obviously not telling us about.

 

Tbh you don't need therapy or some book to cope with this. You both need to go see a therapist and make sure it's one you choose. If she gives you any lip, tell her it's because you feel it's a love hate relationship and that you both have issues you'd like to work out together in a safe, health environment with an unbiased opinion in the room.

 

If she can't accept that, you need to decide: Can you take another 5-10 years of this. Risk bringing kids into it. Risk a divorce in which you lose a lot.

 

For the record though; relationships these days are about Equality. Last 3 I've been in, girls have wanted to pay their own way constantly - I haven't let them, chivalry isn't dead - and it's just made me respect them more.

 

If it's too late and you two are on the outs again though, go completely NC, move on a bit but don't sleep with anyone for a few months. Get a plant, take care of it and make sure it grows. Then start a real relationship again. If you don't the anxiety will cause you pain for years - trust me on that.

 

And as an extra note to all those posting in this thread, kudos to you all. Some great responses. It's good to see people caring about a fellow human being.