Darkangelism Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 I have a problem with my date. As most of you know I have a date on friday, but well the time was originally a group meeting that only me and her could make, so we added to it and made it a date. Well the other girl in our group, who i think likes me even though she has a bf found out that just me and this girl are meeting and now she wants to come to, i think she is gonna try and take me away from my date, the project does need to be done, but i want this to be a date. What should i tell the other girl? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 hmmmm...just: "we have previous plans, sorry. why don't we all get together saturday afternoon and work on the project then" make sure you have something specific planned for friday - like a movie, or play, or dinner. my friends are perpetually trying to horn in on things. you just have to be firm. don't even use excuses, you don't owe them to anyone. good luck sweety! i'm so happy for you! she is a very lucky girl! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 keep your original Friday night date alone with the girl as planned and set up a second, separate attempt for a group study. That way you get to go on your date AND you can arrange to work on the project with everyone who wants to work on it at a later time. if the second girl (the one with the boyfriend) gets pushy, just tell her you have other plans for Friday night that are not alterable -- you don't have to let her know what exactly what you're doing (i.e., going on a date) Link to post Share on other sites
bella8464 Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 I think you should tell the other girl the truth. Tell her you really like girl #1 and you would love to go on a one-on-one date with her. Reschedule the date of the project for another day if possible. She has a bf so you don't need to explain anything. Link to post Share on other sites
MarKus Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Politely tell her she aint welcome..... or say you are making this a date....anyway how do you know this other gal likes you Link to post Share on other sites
dolphinsunshyn Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Well, didn't you say before that after the "study date" you were going to take her to Chinatown? If this other girl is insisting on being a part of the study group, then let her. After you have all worked on the project, then take your date out as planned without the other girl. Just make sure you don't let the other girl know of your plans for afterwards, she may, again, try to invite herself along. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 see, this is what happens when you try to cash in on a dating loophole. make friday more officially a date. get *two* tickets for something ahead of time; plan to go after chinatown. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 ... and if the second girl asks, tell her you've got other plans for the night of the original study date. If you guys honestly need to get to work on the project as a group, you can schedule another date to do just that -- study date should not interfere with date with girl, nor should you have to explain yourself past "I've got other plans that night, sorry." Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted April 7, 2004 Author Share Posted April 7, 2004 Markus, im not sure, but i catch her looking at me, and she tried to hide the fact that she had a bf. Then when i found out she said she wants to break up with him. I would do what jenny said, but well this was supposed to be casual, i didnt want to push it if i didnt have to. dolphin's idea is probably what will happen, ill just be extra flirty with the girl i am going on a date with, maybe touch her on the arm or something, try to send a signal. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Tell the first girl, who obviously wants you now because she sees that you've moved on over her, that it is no longer a study group. Be honest, and tell her that it is a date. Since this project needs to be worked on, make another arrangement for the group, but be firm and let her know that this thing on Friday has now become an exclusive thing. Link to post Share on other sites
priscilla Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 Just tell the girl with the boyfriend to back off. She likes you but she is still in another relationship. If she wants to break up with her boyfriend, then why hasn't she? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 i always liked it when a date stormed normandy, rather than took normandy and the paris basin out, but touched normandy more. i might disagree with the strategy, but more power to you, babies! (if you end up in a menage a trois, you must dish details.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted April 8, 2004 Author Share Posted April 8, 2004 Originally posted by jenny (if you end up in a menage a trois, you must dish details.) Dont even get me thinking like that. But it is the safest way, no relationships and not total strangers either. Link to post Share on other sites
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