Green_eyes Posted April 22, 2011 Share Posted April 22, 2011 I am searching for some more words of wisdom, because I am pretty confused. I am 38, have a son who lives for half of the week with me, and I have been divorced for almost a year now. My ex-wife moved out about two and a half years ago, having told me she didn't love me anymore. She has bounced back, didn't seem to have any trouble finding somebody new and lives with a new bloke - who actually seems to be a great guy. I took me a long time to get to where I am now, I can honestly say it was the blackest period of my life. I dated a few girls, but for various reasons things went wrong - primarily I think because it was too soon. I have come to realise that I am over my ex-wife, but the feeling of loneliness won't go away. I met a really super person a few months ago and developed a massive crush on her. The trouble is that she doesn't feel the same way "You're a really nice guy, but..." I can't really get her out of my head, but I reluctantly realised that I had to move on, I decided to try Internet dating. That hasn't worked either. There was an initial flurry of interest, but nothing that has led to so much as a single date. "I really liked your profile - you look like a really nice guy" "I liked your picture, I thought you looked really nice." Then, the other day I was chatting to an acquaintance and got told: "I can't believe you haven't met someone yet - you are so nice." The wretched "N" word again - I hate that adjective. I realise that I probably won't find my soul mate immediately, but there hasn't even been a fledgling relationship. I am starting to think that I may actually have to face the prospect of being single for the rest of my life. Where on earth am I going wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
soulm8 Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 I have no idea... because I have the same problem/label. I suppose we should actually be grateful that most recognize this quality in us, and avoid the temptation to exploit it. It's really just a "nice" way of saying that they WISH they could overlook whatever it is about us or our circumstance that they find to be a turnoff. (I've even used it to gently turn someone down) We just haven't found the right match yet. Link to post Share on other sites
ALonerAgain Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 Yeah, I hate that word: "nice". It's so...vanilla! Have you tried anything other than Dating sites? What about hobbies? Do you have any? Have you tried meeting women through them? What about through Meet-Up? Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 Women think they can "friend zone" men. It's really bad when a guy does it. Link to post Share on other sites
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