Head Games or what please everyone help me I going crazy!!! I cant take it no longer

[Ms.Confused1]

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Here is my story guys. Yes I still am young only 16 years old. I dated a guy that I knew and talked to for a few months before we got together. When we got together we hit it off great. we were always together .. always romantic .. he was soooo sweet and finally we even told each other we loved one another .. this been about a month :-( ... well shortly after that He comes to me saying he heard I went to spend the night with one of his friends at a hotel .. which I didn't do...

 

I tried to explain to him I didn't do it .. I love dhim .... and etc. but he decided we should end the relationship. At first I tried every day to get him back. I wrote him letters expressing my love and etc. He dated another girl but she broke up with him twice in like two weeks.

 

After about three weeks him and I started to hang out again. I go to his house and etc. He told me that he still loved me but wasnt in love with me anymore. Although when I would hang out with him he want to lay up with me and kiss on me and hug me. Just liek we were dating.

 

about a week ago I had sex with him which I didnt even do when we were actually in a relationship. That night he said he wanted to get back with me but the next day he changed his mind. I let it be because he said he just wasnt looking for a relationship.

 

we were still hanging out together and when I go see him he'd still be all lovey with me. I tried to talk to him about us for the first time in a few weeks and the most I got was he still didnt want a relationship .. but did believe we would get back together in the future. We even spent the night together a few times.

 

Now I completly upset and confused because he got together with this girl .. he semi talked to for the past few weeks. I dont know what to think of this.

 

Is he playing me or what????? I decided once I heard this news that i was no longer going to speak to him what so ever!! I hurt by the fact he would tell me these things and do the complete oposite.

 

Does anyone think there is a chance for us any longer???? what should I do to possible win him back or get him interested or should I even do this ... Should I just try no matter how hard it is to just let go???????

 

PPPPPPPPPPLLLLLLLLLEEEEEEEassssssssseeeeeeeeeeee HELP I AM VERY MCUH IN LOVE!!!

[uriel]

Sorry you're going through this. The guy is being a complete jerk. It was very disrespectful of him to believe a rumor about you, one that you've denied. No doubt he's very attracted to you, maybe had a crush on you. But love? That means not only attraction and enjoyment, but really caring about someone else's welfare, admiring her character, and behaving honorably to her.

 

Your guy fails on all three counts. He hasn't cared about your welfare by playing this push me pull you game. He obviously doesn't admire your character. And, he's not treating you honorably, the way a man treats a woman when she's girlfriend or wife material.

 

For some immature men, when a woman's a prize (hard to get), they put her in the girlfriend category, which includes admiring in love talk. When a woman's considered easy, they put her in the hookup / easy lay / one night stand category. I hate to say this, but as I was reading your post, I felt like this guy might have reassigned you to the latter when he broke up with you. He misses the physical contact, he's still attracted, but he doesn't consider you worthy of girlfriend material. You've only made that worse by having meaningless sex with him (from his point of view). You weren't even a couple at the time.

 

Get mad, girlfriend, and get over it. Cute and fun and whatever as he is, this guy's not worth it. Show him you are a prize and stick to your guns from now on. No loose behavior with him or any other guy (that's how men like this see it, even if women are making fine distinctions -- like you were still in love with him when you slept together). Be girlfriend material and show him what he missed.

 

--uriel