LK30 Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Hey all, I think I'm going through one of those reflective periods of time as every day I just seem to think 'where is my life going' whilst if feels others around me are just getting on with it. Being 31 going on 32, I'm single and have done the same job for about 5 years. Don't get me wrong, I have great friends, lovely family, job is going ok (altho few promotion prospects!) and I'm in good health. You may've noticed the one thing I've missed here is lovelife! I've read lots of self help books, been on an assertiveness course, and tried to change my personality a lot to attract someone. I'm a really helpful person and although I'm not spiritual, I do honestly believe I'm on this planet to help others. I do really enjoy it, and I hope good things will happen to me if I do my best to help others. Strangely I'm happy at work, get on well with people and feel like I play an important role at making others feel happy. I thought being happy, having good humour and helping others would helpy attract someone into my life. To be honest I've never felt in love, nor met someone I feel I could spend the rest of my life with. I keep thinking I need to change something, despite many of my factors being in balance and going well. Perhaps travelling, moving jobs, changing my appearance, I just don't know. I'm starting to think it's some sort of sign that my special person won't come into my life until I physically change something in my life - I just don't know what and why! Not sure if I'm asking a question here, but perhaps I need a life coach?!! Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Try turning the question around: why haven't you found anyone attractive enough to give them the pleasure of being your lover? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LK30 Posted April 24, 2011 Author Share Posted April 24, 2011 I love that response betterdeal, thank you - that's a good question. Just wish I had the answer!! Link to post Share on other sites
Datura Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 You aren't living for you. These assertiveness courses, changing your personality, being helpful, etc. are all done in hopes you will find a partner. You do need to change something and that is: be authentic. Link to post Share on other sites
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