Anyone out there Jewish or know @ the faith, if so, I have some questions for you?

[fool4love]

In terms of relationships or marriage, how important is it for someone of the Jewish faith to be with another Jewish man/woman? My b/f of 1.5 years recently broke up with me, and I feel as though his family did not except me, largely b/c I'm catholic and they're Jewish. Does the faith determine who you can or cannot be with, and why does this have to dictate love?

[tattoomytoe]

it is more the family traditions...some families are very devout to their chosen faith and follow the teaching to the tee...some are a little less strict, some are liberal...etc..

 

a lot of things can dictate who your parents want to be their in law, sometimes wealth, occupation, family , social ties, does he even have a car..... and a lot of the time it has nothing to do with the person, or who their child loves.

[Arabess]

It's not so much of it dictating your love.....as dictating the way you run your life. There is a wide gap between the Jewish and Catholic faith. Without a lot of compromising....it has the capacity of really being a mess...especially if his family is not tolerant of your Christian based faith.

 

Couples DO manage to get through religious differences. It depends on how staunch they are in their beliefs. My Mom was raised in the Jewish faith and married a Baptist. She chose to make the conversion to Christianity based on her heart though....not just because she loved him or wanted to appease my Dad's family.

 

The same is true for you. You need to know how your heart feels about your faith. You should make this decision whether or not you are in a relationship.

 

Once you've determined that choice....only then will you understand why his family may very well be hesitant and non-supportive of their son having a relationship with you.

 

Above all, talk to HIM about this. Religion may have nothing to do with the break up.

[wideawake]

Originally posted by fool4love

In terms of relationships or marriage, how important is it for someone of the Jewish faith to be with another Jewish man/woman? My b/f of 1.5 years recently broke up with me, and I feel as though his family did not except me, largely b/c I'm catholic and they're Jewish. Does the faith determine who you can or cannot be with, and why does this have to dictate love?

 

Which sect?

 

Conservative, Reformist, etc..????