Is he playing mind games with me?

[Foreveryours10]

I have been "seeing" this guy for about a month now and we haven't had sex and were not dating so lets clear that up. I try to push the sex thing but he tells me i have to wait.....i feel like he is the girl and i am the guy. Anyway i go to college 3 hours away so ive been home about 3 times in the last month and we will spend the time im home together. When im back at school we will text or call not a super alot but a good amount. Needless to say this last weekend i was home i didnt get back to late he seemed excited that i was coming and kept texting me to see when we were going to hang out we did and everything was fine then the next day i waited all day for him to text me he didnt so i gave up texted him and then we hung out but he seemed a little distant he did tell me he wasn't feel too good but i don't know. Either way i gave him a ton of hickeys on his neck and we were at the same place. On sunday as i leave he had to come into work and people noticed i try not to tell people its me because it would be nice to be able to work together but people ask and he goes and tells them. Either way he was engaged and the girl cheated on him and then he dated another girl and she cheated on him so i know he has some problems with insecurities and it def shows. To get him to open up to me its like pulling teeth i try not to push it but its like well what the hell are we doing here. I tried to go around with it and said to him you don't want to have sex with me or date me what are we doing here are we cuddle buddies? and he told me i never said i didn't want to date you i just haven't asked you yet. he tells me he is in no rush...ok.....well i am starting to become inpatient i know his mother and i know he tells his mother EVERYTHING so i asked her and she told me he does like me and she just thinks he is nervous becasue he has been hurt so many times and wants to make sure i am the one.....and in my mind im thinking i am the one when they hell did it go from wanna date to were getting married now...what the hell i am in college then going to graduate school i wont be getting married for sometime here so i think we need to date before anything else...idk its like he tells me he loves me and is really sweet to me and then the next thing you know it is like he acts distant. look i know he has been hurt but am i them....no! so stop punishing me! either way i dont know if i should be like look we need to have a chat here or just keep riding this like emotion wave till he realizes i am trust worthing. its like everytime i go back to school i feel like he is testing me to see if ill do **** with other guys or something idk how to describe it...either way whats your whole take on this situation.