soresoul Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 I have a problem with the man that I live with and really love. He corrects me constantly. He asks me questions and then tells me he disagrees with everything I say. It's actually pretty crazy. If I relent and say whatever fine I agree he says he doesn't agree with himself. There have been times he has been dead wrong about something and still insists that he is right. I don't know how many times he has blamed me for something that I didn't do or something that he controls such as his feelings. He claims that I make him feel guilty. I told him that only he can determine how to feel and he corrected me and compared my comment to being "sociopathic". I have talked to him about this but he shoots me down, gets angry and says I'm blaming him for something he's not doing. I back down because I don't want to argue and that makes him angry too. I am older than him by 5 years and I have a 3 year old little boy. I am more educated than him. I don't bring it up unless he backs me into a corner. Lately, he has been jumping down my throat for perceived wrongs such as "glaring at him" when I've just woken up or "having an attitude" or a "tone" when I say something straight forward and honest to him. Maybe I do have a "tone" sometimes. He drives me crazy. I don't know when he's going to be upset about something. The smallest weirdest thing will upset him and I have no earthly idea what has crawled up his behind. He's insecure about my past relationships. He's insecure about his body and blames me (I'm being serious). He calls me crazy and acts normal around other people so they think I'm the one who is out of my mind and paranoid. I honestly don't think anyone has made me more angry than him. I'm not going to blame him for this but I have had nervous breakdowns and he's a bit hard on me. He breaks up with me every time I breakdown but demands that I fix the relationship. I'm so confused and I feel like I don't have a friend in the world. I thought he was my best friend but he's not being a very good friend to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Far&Away Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 He is abusive. Leave him. Link to post Share on other sites
lordWilhelm Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 When he breaks up with you and expects that you fix the relationship, why do you go back to him? You haven't said a single good thing about him... when the negatives outweigh all the positives so much, is the relationship really something you want to hold on to? Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 He is abusive. Leave him. This here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author soresoul Posted April 27, 2011 Author Share Posted April 27, 2011 I find it hard to leave him and most of the time I feel like it's my fault. I've never felt so stupid with anyone before. My self-esteem is at an all-time low but he needs me and I feel like I have to be there for him. Link to post Share on other sites
lordWilhelm Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Sounds like he manages to off-load things onto you somehow. Have you talked to him about how this makes you feel? If you tried and there's no communication or effort to change things from his side, there's absolutely nothing you can do other than move on and spare yourself the abuse that he's dishing out... Link to post Share on other sites
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