sporteguy03 Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 Hi, I am 23 years old and a pure virgin no sex of any type with the opposite sex. I am the type of person who waits a month or two before I would even consider jumping into bed. I never really met a girl I would want to have sex because after a while I find out how they truely are and realize they are not the one for me. I have been asked by some girls at the start of talking to them about my sexuality. I tell them I had never had sex before, no oral even none of that or even making out with a girl. They then give me this label of being weird or homosexual because "I should have by this age." Most of these girls tell me they are very sexual and I am just trying to be honest with them because I'm not trying to be something I'm not. Have you guys ever met a girl who says she likes baseball or hockey andd you will watch a game and say look at that fast ball or high stick and the girl says what?! As in they were just saying that to get your attention and really did not have an interest in that sport. I'm sure the common response is to explain to someone what a fastball or high stick is so they understand. Going back to my situation why is it that sex is something we are suppose to know? Is being honest wrong should you lie to someone about having sexual expierience? I just feel thats misleading. Is there a nice way to say this to someone without the 20 questions coming up about your sexuality? Link to post Share on other sites
Sundaymorning Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 You should be honest and tell whoever you date, when you feel ready, that you have no sexual experience. If she is a good person, she will not care. She should even want to guide you along. Perhaps, in ideal, you will meet a girl with the same experience and values as yourself. I have teased a few friends of mine who are your age and are male as well as virgins...but it was only once per guy....girls just do that, cause what else are we going to say when you tell us that? I Dont know, if it bothers you, tell them to stop. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 If a woman does not appreciate or respect your honesty....she isn't worth fooling with. You don't owe anyone apologies or explanations. You haven't met someone you were ready to have a sexual relationship with yet. I think that's very admirable.....and the right female in your life will also feel that way. Never judge youself by the 'supposed performace' of you male counterparts. Link to post Share on other sites
Dreqqus Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 I would wati till you have been with a girl for a while before bringing it up. I mena if they ask you directly don't lie, but there's no real reason why you should tell all your secrets when you first meet a girl. I am 20 and am a technical virgin(i have had oral but thats it) My current girlfriend knows this and is completely comfortable with it. When sex started to come up(no puns intended) i just explained to her that i have never had sex before and that i wouldn't until i was absolutely sure that it was the person i was meant to be with. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 You're holding out for someone with whom the experience will be emotionally enjoyable. If a girl is preoccupied, I doubt she fits your criterion. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 I am 23 years old. If a guy like you told me the truth about no sexual experience I would think I was the luckiest girl in the world to have such a great guy who is more intrested in getting to know somebody than jumping in to bed with me. Don't kid yourself your a real catch. and some lucky girl will show you the ropes. just the way she likes it. Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 I think it's awesome that you are waiting for the right woman to share that with. Be honest about it when you do find a special person. Anyone who does not think it's wonderful that you want to share your first experience with them is not worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
nikkilove Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 I dont' think it's necessary to bring up on the first few dates. If you find someone you are attracted to and get along with....it will come up later........and she will like you for who you are. I think it's admirable you want to wait for the "right" one, but I don't think it's something to be brought up on a first date either. And if anyone of the girls who are all interested in your sexlife on the first date bring it up and find you "weird" because of your choices, then they are not worthy of going out with you anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sporteguy03 Posted April 9, 2004 Author Share Posted April 9, 2004 Thanks for the help, but is there a way to answer someone who asks for your sexual expierience? I mean some girls might want to have sex with me and innocently bring it up? Is there a good way to respond respecting what they are asking and seeing if they look beyond that? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted April 9, 2004 Share Posted April 9, 2004 "I adore women, and I am not very experienced. I would love it if you show me how you like to <fill in the blank>." You know, even the concept of female virginity is seeming passe to me. What the heck is a "male virgin"? Someone who has never given himself an orgasm??????? Link to post Share on other sites
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