Need Advice

[Wertha]

My girlfriend came to school with me this semester. She transfered from another school in Kansas, and we had been together for about 2 years. When she got to my school, we began having tension, and fighting a lot. I told her I wanted to back off and relax a little with the relationship. She was upset, and she cried, but we still talked everyday, and I saw her all the time, it was like nothing had changed. A week and a half later, I wrote her a letter telling her I loved her and I wanted to get back with her. She told me it was too late, and she already had another man in her life. I know I made a mistake, but I can't believe how after two weeks she forgot about me, moved on completely and hasnt spoken to me for two months. We havent talked since the end of January, and its crushing me. I've thought about calling her, but I can't, I have to move on. Pleae give me some advice, if I should call her, or just completely cut her off and move on.

 

Jim

 

Salina, KS

[Girlie]

I would advise you to continue to move on. It sucks right now, I'm sure. We've all been there. But talking to her will probably just set you back and make you feel worse. Don't risk that on a woman who has already moved on. Move on with your life. I'm sure eventually you will find something better, even if it doesn't feel that way now.

[Arabess]

Since it was only after 2 weeks, it's POSSIBLE she was just trying to get a response from you in order to see how you really feel. There are times when a girl DOES want a guy to step up to the plate and try to win her back. Expecially, since at one point you were uncertain about the relaitonship and left her feeling insecure.

 

Give her a 'hello, how are you....I'm sorry I screwed things up' call. If she isn't interested, she can tell you then.

 

Normally I wouldn't give that advice. It was based on the reason you broke up and how fast she 'said' she had someone else in her life. It doesn't ring true.