Is it over?

[robf1971]

I have taken the morning off today and tomorrow to speak to a few people, like solicitor, the kids school, social services etc.

 

Excellent, the more documentation and case numbers etc you have, the more it helps you and shows what a responsible parent you are being. Roll on July 12th!!

[robf1971]

15/06/11 cancelled her surprise 33rd birthday party and a weekend trip for us to a spa. Had been planning it since Christmas with a friend of hers, totally forgotten all about it. The spa comes highly recommend and is a very romantic weekend for couples. Have to save that for someone more deserving.

 

Indeed, one day my friend one day..

[robf1971]

21/06/11 18:45 Came home and bathed the kids before starting to get ready to go out - was going to see BIL first wife. w asked me about some DD that weren't set-up, I said she needs to give me the details. Then she told me she was out Monday, Tuesday and Thursday next week. I stupidly said she cant have Thursday as I have already got plans, she went mental and stormed out of the house. She already had an over night bag packed so I am suspicious that she was deliberately looking for a fight to justify her leaving.

 

21/06/11 19:20 had to text BIL 1st wife and say I couldn't make it. Hopefully have a chance to see her Wednesday or Thursday instead.

 

21/06/11 20:00 Spent time with kids and read them a story before putting them to bed.

 

Nice to see you are documenting everything, hmm wonder if your wife is doing the same. Watch Judge Judy, it's always the ones with proof and documentation who win every time!!

[jaymz]

23/6/11 Spent the day in police custody:

 

08:15 w sends me a text asking if I will be back by 08:30 as she

needs to take kids to school in the car

 

08:20 Arrive at house but am locked out

 

08:30 Eventually the kids remove the key and I can get into the house.

The mother-in-law turned up around the same time. w

tells me that I have to take kids to school as she is not ready, i

refused as she was going to take them and I had a busy day and then w said to mil who was behind me "did you

witness that?". So I agree to take kids to school as its now obvious

that w has not got ready (she was in her underwear), get the kids ready and take them out to

the car. w then follows me out and opens the car door and asks

if I am coming back, I said "maybe", this is then repeated several

times before she grabs my bag (which she knows is full private solicitor

correspondence, evidence, recipts etc), runs into the house and then

locks the door. I bang on the door and ask to be let in, mil lets

me in and w is opening up my bag to go through my stuff saying "

i wonder whats in here?". I ask for the bag back but w runs into

the front room, i follow her and grab the bag back, she refuses to let

go and shouts that "half of this is mine" and laughing about it, mil

tells her to let go but she refuses. Eventually i do get the bag off

her and go to leave the house. I see a key in the front door and

knowing that she will lock me out again I take the car with me. mil

then comes charging out while I am getting into the car and starts to

grab at me and the key, I eventually managed to close the car door and

get in at which point she then climbs in the back with the kids so I

am left with no choice but to throw the keys out of the car into the

grass (which is very short), so she will leave the car and let me take

the kids to school on time. Once i leave i believe she called the

police.

 

09:20 I come home after dropping kids off at school, as I walk into the house w & mil are saying "i cant believe he just come home" I'm like of course i have, this is my home.

 

09:30 Police turn up and question me over this mornings events

 

10:00 I am arrested and taken to police station

 

10:20 Arrive local police station

 

11:50 Finally processed and put in a cell

 

18:00 Police come to collect me for questioning, I ask where my solicitor is and they tell me I have refused one. I told them it was a mistake and to get them here now. I get taken back to the cell while they contact my solicitor.

 

19:30 Speak to my solicitor, initially he was advising that I admit the assult and get a caution. After i explain everything that has happened today plus all the emotional, physical and financial bullying i have recieved at the hands of the w and her family he advises me to tell the truth and the police will either drop it or it will go to court.

 

20:00 Have police interview where I tell them exactly what has happened and also throuw in the w recent behaviour, the affairs, scumbag being on drugs and coming to the house etc.

 

20:30 interview terminated and passed on to CPS to review

 

23:00 Released with no further action as there is no evidence of assault.

 

00:00 Get picked up by my dad and go to my parents house where I have a large glass of wine, a sandwhich and explain the days events

[jaymz]

22/06/11 Scumbag come to house while I was out for the evening

[jaymz]

23/6/11 Spent the day in police custody:

 

08:15 w sends me a text asking if I will be back by 08:30 as she

needs to take kids to school in the car

 

08:20 Arrive at house but am locked out

 

08:30 Eventually the kids remove the key and I can get into the house. The mother-in-law turned up around the same time. w tells me that I have to take kids to school as she is not ready, i refused as she was going to take them and I had a busy day and then w said to mil who was behind me "did you witness that?". So I agree to take kids to school as its now obvious that w has not got ready (she was in her underwear), get the kids ready and take them out to the car. w then follows me out and opens the car door and asks if I am coming back, I said "maybe", this is then repeated several times before she grabs my bag (which she knows is full private solicitor correspondence, evidence, recipts etc), runs into the house and then locks the door. I bang on the door and ask to be let in, mil lets me in and w is opening up my bag to go through my stuff saying "i wonder whats in here?". I ask for the bag back but w runs into the front room, i follow her and grab the bag back, she refuses to let go and shouts that "half of this is mine" and laughing about it, mil tells her to let go but she refuses. Eventually i do get the bag off her and go to leave the house. I see a key in the front door and

knowing that she will lock me out again I take the car with me. mil then comes charging out while I am getting into the car and starts to grab at me and the key, I eventually managed to close the car door and get in at which point she then climbs in the back with the kids so I am left with no choice but to throw the keys out of the car into the grass (which is very short), so she will leave the car and let me take the kids to school on time. Once i leave i believe she called the police.

 

09:20 I come home after dropping kids off at school, as I walk into the house w & mil are saying "i cant believe he just come home" I'm like of course i have, this is my home.

 

09:30 Police turn up and question me over this mornings events

 

10:00 I am arrested and taken to police station. I take my bag with me.

 

10:20 Arrive local police station

 

11:50 Finally processed and put in a cell

 

18:00 Police come to collect me for questioning, I ask where my solicitor is and they tell me I have refused one. I told them it was a mistake and to get them here now. I get taken back to the cell while they contact my solicitor.

 

19:30 Speak to my solicitor, initially he was advising that I admit the assult and get a caution. After i explain everything that has happened today plus all the emotional, physical and financial bullying i have recieved at the hands of the w and her family he advises me to tell the truth and the police will either drop it or it will go to court.

 

20:00 Have police interview where I tell them exactly what has happened and also throuw in the w recent behaviour, the affairs, scumbag being on drugs and coming to the house etc.

 

20:30 interview terminated and passed on to CPS to review

 

23:00 Released with no further action as there is no evidence of assault.

 

00:00 Get picked up by my dad and go to my parents house where I have a large glass of wine, a sandwhich and explain the days events

[debtman]

unbelievable...at least you have a record of this and that you are not the hothead here...way to keep your cool ...

 

Good luck and keep posting...

[jaymz]

23/06/11 She had scumbag over for the evening while I was rotting in a police cell on their trumped up charges.

[robf1971]

23/6/11 Spent the day in police custody:

 

08:15 w sends me a text asking if I will be back by 08:30 as she

needs to take kids to school in the car

 

08:20 Arrive at house but am locked out

 

08:30 Eventually the kids remove the key and I can get into the house. The mother-in-law turned up around the same time. w tells me that I have to take kids to school as she is not ready, i refused as she was going to take them and I had a busy day and then w said to mil who was behind me "did you witness that?". So I agree to take kids to school as its now obvious that w has not got ready (she was in her underwear), get the kids ready and take them out to the car. w then follows me out and opens the car door and asks if I am coming back, I said "maybe", this is then repeated several times before she grabs my bag (which she knows is full private solicitor correspondence, evidence, recipts etc), runs into the house and then locks the door. I bang on the door and ask to be let in, mil lets me in and w is opening up my bag to go through my stuff saying "i wonder whats in here?". I ask for the bag back but w runs into the front room, i follow her and grab the bag back, she refuses to let go and shouts that "half of this is mine" and laughing about it, mil tells her to let go but she refuses. Eventually i do get the bag off her and go to leave the house. I see a key in the front door and

knowing that she will lock me out again I take the car with me. mil then comes charging out while I am getting into the car and starts to grab at me and the key, I eventually managed to close the car door and get in at which point she then climbs in the back with the kids so I am left with no choice but to throw the keys out of the car into the grass (which is very short), so she will leave the car and let me take the kids to school on time. Once i leave i believe she called the police.

 

09:20 I come home after dropping kids off at school, as I walk into the house w & mil are saying "i cant believe he just come home" I'm like of course i have, this is my home.

 

09:30 Police turn up and question me over this mornings events

 

10:00 I am arrested and taken to police station. I take my bag with me.

 

10:20 Arrive local police station

 

11:50 Finally processed and put in a cell

 

18:00 Police come to collect me for questioning, I ask where my solicitor is and they tell me I have refused one. I told them it was a mistake and to get them here now. I get taken back to the cell while they contact my solicitor.

 

19:30 Speak to my solicitor, initially he was advising that I admit the assult and get a caution. After i explain everything that has happened today plus all the emotional, physical and financial bullying i have recieved at the hands of the w and her family he advises me to tell the truth and the police will either drop it or it will go to court.

 

20:00 Have police interview where I tell them exactly what has happened and also throuw in the w recent behaviour, the affairs, scumbag being on drugs and coming to the house etc.

 

20:30 interview terminated and passed on to CPS to review

 

23:00 Released with no further action as there is no evidence of assault.

 

00:00 Get picked up by my dad and go to my parents house where I have a large glass of wine, a sandwhich and explain the days events

 

Wow what a piece of work your W is,

 

It is good in a way, almost like the boy who cried wolf, she can only call the police out so often before they realise whats going on. They probably realise already but have to go through procedure.

[robf1971]

23/06/11 She had scumbag over for the evening while I was rotting in a police cell on their trumped up charges.

 

Next time she calls the police I wouldn't be surprised if she gets arrested for wasting police time. The police know when someone is being truthful, they do however have to stick to procedure.

 

However here's what i think

 

Get a safe deposit box and make copies of everything, also scan them onto a secure computer storage service. That way she's welcome to grab your bag as you have copies

 

DO NOT do anything like snatch things from here. She is looking for ANY opportunity to have you arrested.

 

Please get the cameras sorted, I wouldn't put it past her and OM to plant drugs and blame it on you, get a camera in the front entrance, and in other rooms. Please do this.. ASAP.

 

The recorder, as soon as she starts talking to you. You to wife

 

"Just to advise I'm recording this conversation"

 

Upload all conversations to secure computer storage service.

 

I know this sounds paranoid, but you need to be prepared for anything. The woman is bonkers and stupid, your MIL is bonkers and clever.

[Binster]

Just want to second all the above.

 

If it's a recorder that sends to the internet it will stop it making a diferance if she snatches it off you.

[Surfer203]

Yikes man.. this is getting in to soap opera territory. What a piece of crap this woman is. Man, if you needed proof that she was not worth a second thought then this is it! Good for you, you are a lucky guy getting out of this mess of a marriage. I have other choice words for people like her but I will refrain.

[BetterDays]

Wow. She's nuts.

[trippi1432]

Jaymz - Wow!! I agree with others here, get a lock box or something for those papers and yes, if she wants to discuss anything, tell her to talk to your lawyer. Turn the tables, if she ever does something like that again, call the police on her. For her to stir up all the drama in front of the kids too..that's just over the top.

[russell1968]

Jaymz, that is shocking!

 

I thought my wife was bad! My heart goes out to you.

[willowthewisp]

Jamyz,

 

If you were left in a police cell for no good reason for over 6 hours and were not asked if you required legal representation and not provided with a telehone call within a short space of time of arrival at the police station and the duty solicitor did not attend but gave telephone advise so did not actually review your custody record, seek legal advice on the treatment you received at the police station.

Edited June 24, 2011 by willowthewisp

[jaymz]

Jamyz,

 

Why were you left in a police cell for over 6 hours? Were you asked if you wanted legal representation? If so did you decline it? Did your duty solicitor attend the police station and review your custody record or did you only receive telephone advice and assistance?

 

I had to wait for the police investigation to be concluded before they could interview me with a solicitor. I was told they could keep me for 24 hours so I wasn't going to complain too much with just 13 hours!

 

My solicitor came to the station to advise me once the investigation was completed and the police were in a position to interview me. I had spoken to my solicitor before hand over the phone and they explained everything that was happening.

 

I have no idea why it took the police soo long to interview two people, it was ridiculous.

[willowthewisp]

I had to wait for the police investigation to be concluded before they could interview me with a solicitor. I was told they could keep me for 24 hours so I wasn't going to complain too much with just 13 hours!

 

My solicitor came to the station to advise me once the investigation was completed and the police were in a position to interview me. I had spoken to my solicitor before hand over the phone and they explained everything that was happening.

 

I have no idea why it took the police soo long to interview two people, it was ridiculous.

 

Ah I see, sorry it sounded from your post that you had been left for 6 hours and not offered any legal advice.

 

I take it that there was no basis for the assualt and that your stbx made the whole thing up in order to cause trouble? If this is the case then perhaps you should think about discussing an injunction with your solicitor again? Surely this amounts to harrassment? In any case, it is clear that continuing to live with the stbx, even for a couple more weeks, is not a viable option, it must be affecting your health? Maybe there is something your solicitor can do to get a hearing in Court regarding your living arrangements?

[jaymz]

The police gave me the "6 hour check in" which consisted of them still investigating the alleged crime - so pretty pointless.

 

My solicitor sent w and mil a really ****ty letter today, when i got home from work, the w was super nice.

 

Waiting for camera to arrive still.

 

All my papers are kept at my parents house, i had some as I needed to talk to solicitor about them.

 

The solicitor advised me to let w read the papers but to photograph or video her doing it, there are very sever epenalties in uk law for look at private legal correspondence - i wish i knew this yesterday morning!

 

Thanks for all your kind words, cannot wait to rid this woman and her family from my life.

[jaymz]

24/06/11 19:30 w left for weekend. Bathed kids, put them to bed.

 

25/06/11 Rained in the morning so couldn't go to park, w text me to ask if i was taking kids to the school fete - i ignored her. Asked kids if they wanted to go to school fete or go to the military museum I had planned with their grandfather and uncle. They wanted to go to the museum! Went to museum then back to my parents for the night, want to see what it would be like in the future. A friend came over and we spent the night drinking - went to bed around 3am

 

26/06/11 06:30 Kids wake me up! We are all in one room together at my parents house. My dad fed them breakfast and we played games around the house until lunch time. Went to the beach where I met my sister, her fiancé and her eldest. Kids had a great time. Went to pub for dinner and let kids run around in play park. Went home, bathed them and they went straight to sleep. w text me wanted to know what time to come back in the morning, I said 06:30 as usual

 

27/06/11 06:50 w turns up, I take a photo of her arriving late.

[Le Corb]

Keep all of your paperworks safe at a friends place, and make duplicate copies. Thats what I am doing.

 

My wife called police on me too, on the day she left with no reason, I went to her brother and sisters house, hoping to speak to her, there was no violence, she called the police, when I was leaving she was laughing inside and playing cards with her sister.

 

Sorry to read your story Jay, I dont know how they can be so heartless sometimes. Hope everything works out for you.

[robf1971]

24/06/11 19:30 w left for weekend. Bathed kids, put them to bed.

 

25/06/11 Rained in the morning so couldn't go to park, w text me to ask if i was taking kids to the school fete - i ignored her. Asked kids if they wanted to go to school fete or go to the military museum I had planned with their grandfather and uncle. They wanted to go to the museum! Went to museum then back to my parents for the night, want to see what it would be like in the future. A friend came over and we spent the night drinking - went to bed around 3am

 

26/06/11 06:30 Kids wake me up! We are all in one room together at my parents house. My dad fed them breakfast and we played games around the house until lunch time. Went to the beach where I met my sister, her fiancé and her eldest. Kids had a great time. Went to pub for dinner and let kids run around in play park. Went home, bathed them and they went straight to sleep. w text me wanted to know what time to come back in the morning, I said 06:30 as usual

 

27/06/11 06:50 w turns up, I take a photo of her arriving late.

 

The more often your wife calls the police and you've done nothing, the less they will do. I think the police don't look kindly on peolple who waste their time.

[robf1971]

24/06/11 19:30 w left for weekend. Bathed kids, put them to bed.

 

25/06/11 Rained in the morning so couldn't go to park, w text me to ask if i was taking kids to the school fete - i ignored her. Asked kids if they wanted to go to school fete or go to the military museum I had planned with their grandfather and uncle. They wanted to go to the museum! Went to museum then back to my parents for the night, want to see what it would be like in the future. A friend came over and we spent the night drinking - went to bed around 3am

 

26/06/11 06:30 Kids wake me up! We are all in one room together at my parents house. My dad fed them breakfast and we played games around the house until lunch time. Went to the beach where I met my sister, her fiancé and her eldest. Kids had a great time. Went to pub for dinner and let kids run around in play park. Went home, bathed them and they went straight to sleep. w text me wanted to know what time to come back in the morning, I said 06:30 as usual

 

27/06/11 06:50 w turns up, I take a photo of her arriving late.

 

 

Is she really leaving July 12th? Is she allowed to legally take the kids with her if she does? Can you stop this happening?

[jaymz]

28/06/11 19:00 Bathing kids - they tell me that it was school sports day today and w went with scumbag. I am so upset that she would do something like this to me. i cannot believe she would use the kids this way, what totally and utter scum. I had no idea it was sports day.

 

28/06/11 22:00 Have a friend over for the evening, his kids go to same school. None of the mums talk to w as they don't think much of her.

[worlybear]

28/06/11 19:00 Bathing kids - they tell me that it was school sports day today and w went with scumbag. I am so upset that she would do something like this to me. i cannot believe she would use the kids this way, what totally and utter scum. I had no idea it was sports day.

 

28/06/11 22:00 Have a friend over for the evening, his kids go to same school. None of the mums talk to w as they don't think much of her.

Hey Jaymz, that really sucks!

What an absolute cow! Suggest that you ask school for a list of all events at school so at least you know what's happening.

Hugs:bunny::bunny: