robf1971 Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 . Am arranging to get the locks changed. Excellent news, I bet she tries to come back with OM to rub your face in it. Now she can't get in what a shame.. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Excellent news, I bet she tries to come back with OM to rub your face in it. Now she can't get in what a shame.. Ohh and if she comes around kicking up a fuss either with or without OM, call the police to have her removed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 Excellent news, I bet she tries to come back with OM to rub your face in it. Now she can't get in what a shame.. Did you win the lottery? Because again your spot on. 13/07/11 19:00 I get home and 2 minutes later wife turns up with scumbag and a removal van to grab some more stuff she had left behind. She had all day to get it but decides to do it when I get home, totally rubbing my face in it. Well i said hi and ignored her, scumbag stayed in his car as she brought out some clothes and then went. Feeling odd today. Its weird. Have to get some basic stuff at the weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
debtman Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 Did you win the lottery? Because again your spot on. 13/07/11 19:00 I get home and 2 minutes later wife turns up with scumbag and a removal van to grab some more stuff she had left behind. She had all day to get it but decides to do it when I get home, totally rubbing my face in it. Well i said hi and ignored her, scumbag stayed in his car as she brought out some clothes and then went. Feeling odd today. Its weird. Have to get some basic stuff at the weekend. It's going to be great to have her out of there and, as much as it will suck, once you've sold the house, gotten a new place and gotten settled, you'll start feeling SOOO much better and will be set to really start moving on, rebuilding your life and the ONLY times you will have to deal with her will be when the kids are involved and she will start realizing that she no longer has the power to push your buttons the way she is now. Stay strong...you're doing amazing. Good luck and keep posting... Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 Did you win the lottery? Because again your spot on. Actually I bet they were waiting round the corner for you to get back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 14/07/11 no dramas today which is great 14/07/11 19:15 call kids and talk to them, they seem upset they are living with mummy and scumbag, i try and take their minds of it. 14/07/11 21:00 out playing snooker with a friend, he tells me that stbx wife and scumbag picked up kids from school today, the boys both ran off and had to be dragged out of school, they did not want to fo back with scumbag to the new house. He also told me that the mums down the school do not talk to stbxw and also see that my kids do not like him at all and he doesnt do anything with them. interesting. stbxw tells me a different story. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Hang in there man you're doing great! Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 , the boys both ran off and had to be dragged out of school, they did not want to fo back with scumbag to the new house. . Because what your wife is doing is downright cruel to them. I'm telling you this OM is in for a whole load of trouble from your kids. I think people who do what your wife has done should be thrown in jail for cruelty to kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 (edited) My friend also told me that stbxw was wearing a rather short skirt yesterday and high heels and was tottering around trying to get the boys back, esp the middle child who had gone into the classroom and didn't want to come out. Previously they were "making out" up against the school railings before the school closed. I'm not sure what kind of "show" they were putting on but it certainly wasn't appreciated. When i called the kids to talk to them (it was about 19:15/19:20 and after their bedtime when i finally got in touch with them), they were still in McDonald's with stbx and scumbag - so I guess after today's performance another "treat" to buy them happiness was in order. As i wrote earlier, the kids were not happy about living with scumbag or going back to the new house, they absolutely hated it. My friends wife and her friend were discussing why the other parents down the school don't like her anymore and also that none of them believe the relationship will last. They said scumbag shows no interest in the kids, the kids show no interest in him and all he does is be all over the stbxw all the time like an octopus or something. I was also told that there was an open day yesterday for parents to meet the teachers and class room at the pre-school. My daughter will be moving to that pre-school in September and it would have nice to go along. stbxw did not tell me about it and went with scumbag instead. When i text her later about it she denied all knowledge. Its things like this that are done to really annoy me and to remove me from the kids lives. She only goes on about money, when I'm having the kids (*) and what I'm doing about the house. (*) She has caused me alot of trouble at work, with being late, the accusations she has brought up, me losing days work by being locked up etc. I may lose this job and have to take a contract working in Germany for 6 months to keep all finances going. All she has cared about is if I am going to have the kids for a week over the summer holidays so she can go away with scumbag again and when i go to Germany if I am still having the kids every other weekend and if not will my parents have them instead? un-f**king-believable. This woman is just not real. Edited July 15, 2011 by jaymz Link to post Share on other sites
willowthewisp Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 (edited) Jaymz, if your employer fires you over anything that has happened due to your divorce, whether you have been late due to childcare issues or because of your reduced performance due to the emotional stress, or because of your stbx's actions (coming back late, getting you unjustifiably arrested etc) make sure you go striaght to an employment solicitor and speak to them regarding unfair dismissal. In the mean time, it may be a good idea to see your GP and get something on record about your emotional state and the stress that you have been and are under, just in case you end up having to take your employer to tribunal. Don't worry it is unlikely you would have to go back to work there but they wcould be fined heavily and you could recieve compensation if it is found to be unfair dissmal. As for missing school things, you need to contact the school secretary directly and inform them of the situation and that you will need to recieve seperate communication from them regarding parent evenings, sports days, plays, etc etc. Edited July 15, 2011 by willowthewisp Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 This times a million Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 My friends wife and her friend were discussing why the other parents down the school don't like her anymore and also that none of them believe the relationship will last. They said scumbag shows no interest in the kids, the kids show no interest in him and all he does is be all over the stbxw all the time like an octopus or something.. Man she is poisoning her own kids against herself big time. My prediction for the next 6 months?, OM drops or cheats on your W. (Can you really see the guy wanting to take responsibility for kids that aren't his?). Your wife has slung everyone under a bus, she will have no one and will either blame you for everything or try to worm her way back into your affections. Take a look at Russell 1968's thread, she's thrown him under a bus with some loser( Why are OM's always such sad sacks). Now Russell wants nothing more to do with her, and his wife is trying to wriggle back. Pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 OM's are losers.. they can NEVER turn out to be a good person. They have chosen to be involved with a married woman and ruin the marriage they are in. Which ruins, the husbands life, the children and the extended family some times too. Causes major problems for many people involved. Also, harms the cheaters family and potentially the OM's family. It is ridiculous if you think about it. Takes a real piece of s*** to be the OM. F them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 Jaymz, if your employer fires you over anything that has happened due to your divorce, whether you have been late due to childcare issues or because of your reduced performance due to the emotional stress, or because of your stbx's actions (coming back late, getting you unjustifiably arrested etc) make sure you go striaght to an employment solicitor and speak to them regarding unfair dismissal. Its the sort of company that will ask you to resign, give you a great reference and a compromise agreement to sweeten the deal. I have to take it because otherwise I wont be able to work in my field again and I really love what I do. In the mean time, it may be a good idea to see your GP and get something on record about your emotional state and the stress that you have been and are under, just in case you end up having to take your employer to tribunal. Don't worry it is unlikely you would have to go back to work there but they wcould be fined heavily and you could recieve compensation if it is found to be unfair dissmal. I have thought about this but haven't done so yet. I don't want drugs etc. I just want to move on As for missing school things, you need to contact the school secretary directly and inform them of the situation and that you will need to recieve seperate communication from them regarding parent evenings, sports days, plays, etc etc. I have the newsletters etc sent to my email, but it doesn't always cover everything. Hopefully this will be the last time. Not looking forward to turning up to one of these and scumbag is there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 Had a great weekend overall. A friend come down and helped me tidy up house, get washing machine & vacuum cleaner and also pick-up my bike. The weather was awful so didn't get out too much. 17/07/11 10:50 get phone call and text from stbxw, my eldest wants to talk to me. I call back in 10 minutes and talk to the kids. The wife keeps asking me questions so I am a little suspicious if my son wanted to call me or she put the idea in his head. She only wanted to know what money i was going to give her (wants it in cash!) this month and until i sell the house. I told her what i could afford and was going to pay direct to her bank account. I also took down the photos still up of me and stbxw. This really did get to me. I feel awful again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 OM's are losers.. they can NEVER turn out to be a good person. They have chosen to be involved with a married woman and ruin the marriage they are in. Which ruins, the husbands life, the children and the extended family some times too. Causes major problems for many people involved. Also, harms the cheaters family and potentially the OM's family. It is ridiculous if you think about it. Takes a real piece of s*** to be the OM. F them. I dont understand it either. I guess it takes a certain type of selfish and immature person to be the OM/OW. Personally I am glad i dont understand and I hope i never will. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 Man she is poisoning her own kids against herself big time. She is being really stupid here. She just buys them anything they want to keep them happy. I was on the phone to the kids today. I could hear the house in the background and it was in uproar, I mean 6 kids running around and the stbxw and scumbag letting them do whatever to keep them happy. cant be a good. My prediction for the next 6 months?, OM drops or cheats on your W. (Can you really see the guy wanting to take responsibility for kids that aren't his?). Your wife has slung everyone under a bus, she will have no one and will either blame you for everything or try to worm her way back into your affections. This is what makes me really sad. She never really tried to mend the marriage and I truly believed that we could have worked on our issues and got back on track. To throw it all away. to not really have tried. to leave for someone else who is much worse. cause so much pain and upset to the kids, me, family etc. for nothing? Take a look at Russell 1968's thread, she's thrown him under a bus with some loser( Why are OM's always such sad sacks). Now Russell wants nothing more to do with her, and his wife is trying to wriggle back. Pathetic. I hope i am as strong. The desire to get everything back, mend it and move on is at times very overwhelming. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 18/07/11 07:15 The kids swimming gala had been cancelled today, so I text the stbxw to let her know. nothing back Feeling very down again today. Those goddamn pictures & gifts she left behind have really gotten to me. Apologies to those suffering in the coping room with my sad tone Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 . Those goddamn pictures & gifts she left behind have really gotten to me. Apologies to those suffering in the coping room with my sad tone Text to wife " Come and pick the rest of your stuff up, If you don't want them I'll give them to the charity shop" Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 I have kept that stuff, put it in a box. I will also put in there all the divorce stuff and my evidence of her behaviour. When its found again by the kids they can see for themselves what she is really like and i put them first at all times. 18/07/2011 20:30 Out to play touch rugby in the rain, not a great game and i didn't really run that much. I came home and went for a run, first time I ever voluntarily did that :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 18/07/11 23:30 I don't know why i did it but i ran past the new house stbxw and scumbag are renting. The house looks nice (her taste), both cars on the drive, no lights on and in a nice area. Stood outside for a few minutes, everything I love was in that house. Ran home, feeling weird. 19/07/11 Felt rough so worked from home. Stbxw came round to pickup a jumper she left. She text me 10 minutes later and asked if i wanted the kids for the afternoon seeing as I was home all day. I told her i couldn't as i had a date (i meant appointment), she just sent back "lol". 19/07/11 20:00 Went out for a bike ride with a friend, got home around 22:30, had a shower and went to bed. 20/07/11 So sore! Have loads of housework to do tonight to get house clean for another viewing over the weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
russell1968 Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 18/07/11 23:30 I don't know why i did it but i ran past the new house stbxw and scumbag are renting. The house looks nice (her taste), both cars on the drive, no lights on and in a nice area. Stood outside for a few minutes, everything I love was in that house. Ran home, feeling weird. Jaymz, I know the feeling so well! I'm having to deal with the fact that my STBXW will probably go on holiday with my daughters and the OM. there is nothing a can do to stop this! It's ****ty, but i can't stop this. Jaymz, Don't run past that house anymore, you can't do anything about it! You can walk away with your head held high! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jaymz Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 Ah yes, holidays. She had great delight in telling me a few months ago that the family holiday we booked for october? She had me taken off and scumbag put on already. I was like, how can you think of these and replace me so quickly? I hadn't even thought about holidays. I was too busy fruitlessly trying to save the marriage and then dealing with each revelation that came up afterwards. The holiday in october was with her parents and her brother and his family. I'm not too upset about them but its with stbxw and scumbag pretending to be my kinds parents. I guess that is something she will need to deal with when eventually I do the same with the kids and future partner. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 oh yea man.. she holds all the cards with OM and is obviously trying to stick it to you. like laughing at you for saying you have a date, like you're beneath meeting anyone else. such immature high school bitch behavior. you know what? one day you're gonna meet a woman who blows her doors off in every way. smarter, nicer, cooler, hotter.. everything. and you seem like a good person so you won't feel the need to flaunt it in her face like your ex. the tables WILL turn.. she's not always gonna be on top and you're not always gonna be in this vulnerable position. she's taking advantage of it now because she can. I can't even tell you how disgusting this type of behavior is, as you know my exB is doing the same thing to me. its gonna be a long fall for her one day. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 but its with stbxw and scumbag pretending to be my kinds parents. Let 'em pretend all they want.. that's all it is Link to post Share on other sites
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