Author justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 exactly...if someone really wants you, they will make time for you no matter what. i'm trying to come to terms with that Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 at least your realizing all this now so you don't have to go through it in your 30s like i am Link to post Share on other sites
Author justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 it sucks at any age but let's just stay NC! we can do it Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 day two staring after i get up from what little sleep i get! Link to post Share on other sites
Author justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 yes...im about to fall asleep on the keyboard actually Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 im very jealous of that, at least i ate a full meal tonight,my sleep patterns will come back eventually Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 NC is a stranger in the beginning but has time goes by, NC will become your buddy. Do things to distract yourself not to contact him. - Such as, put your mobile phone far away from you. - Have a reward system for yourself, 5 days NC, treat yourself good meal or buy something for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 NC is a stranger in the beginning but has time goes by, NC will become your buddy. Do things to distract yourself not to contact him. - Such as, put your mobile phone far away from you. - Have a reward system for yourself, 5 days NC, treat yourself good meal or buy something for yourself. Thanks! that's a good idea, i can do this Link to post Share on other sites
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Day 10 of no contact. It's killing me. I don't know how three weeks flew by for you. I feel so hurt that he hasn't contacted me. I don't know that he's thinking of me. Of course I don't know that he isn't but after 2 1/2 years I just want this settled and him back . I am struggling so badly. Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 be proud of yourself for the 10 days...im at day 2 and its no fun...just think about how you were at two and then now Link to post Share on other sites
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Can I be proud of myself and contact him ughhhhh how long should I wait?!?!?!!??!?! Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 haha...i asked the same thing yesterday if in two weeks i should contact and the resounding answer was no. he hasn't sent you anything in the last 10 days? Link to post Share on other sites
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 no It's so hard. I know he doesn't want to hurt me... I"m scared he was just giving me hope by saying he hopes we get back and that he still loves me. The weird part is all year long I havent passed him on my way to work and the past 2 weeks I've passed his truck 4 times... He always beeps and waves but it just makes me even more upset because of course no text comes after I just don't want it to be out of sight out of mind. I'm also scared he has someone else Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 what if he does? would you be cool with that and be willing to get back together? Link to post Share on other sites
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Yes most definitely yes. We did not break up bitterly. We both had personal issues that were making it difficult to work. I took time to work on me and he gave me that time. Now he wants it. I pray and pray and pray he comes back like I did. and I didn't ruin the best thing that ever happened to me Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 well if he gave you the space you needed you should give him the same respect Link to post Share on other sites
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 I know I know. It's just the fear that he won't come back like I did. He won't miss me like I did. I think he's already talking to someone else. :/ I have a lot of anxiety issues and overthinking... It's just so hard... I'm sorry to complain so much. Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 haha thats all ive been doing is complaining on here the last few days so i understand.im in the same boat, kinda lost as to what to do.but im gonna tough out the NC at least until next week, then ill see how i feel. i really want to ask her to go to a sick place that we talked about going to when we were together,actually only a few weeks ago. don't know if thats the best idea but again im going to wait until at least the end of next week to decide Link to post Share on other sites
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 How long has it been for you with NC?? Yah this has kind of been therapeutic for me, writing on these posts. I guess it helps me see that I'm not alone. I am definitely not ready to give up but I'm scared that once I contact him I'll push him away so much more. I don't really know what to do. He knows how much I struggle with the NC so I hope he's a little understanding. I was thinking 2 more weeks and then a friendly contact to show that I'm moving on (yah right) and that I want to stay in contact. :/ I just don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 stay NC! you know you're going to cross her mind! let it bother her that you're not chasing after her...it's gonna bother her eventually and she's gonna miss all the attention you gave her. I thought about texting him today because we usually hangout every thursday because we both don't have class on Friday...maybe if he sees that i'm not hitting him up tonight, it's gonna bother him. I know he's gonna think about me tonight when he's doing nothing...or maybe he really is busy like he said he was...we do have finals next week, and I really should be focusing on that more than him. i'm sitting in sociology class right now and look what I'm doing!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 a mere two day of NC. this being the second. i understand the pushing away thing. i think the last straw was when i left the flowers at her door and she got mad. what im not doing though is using this period of NC to show her anything. i really want to try and get a better understanding of myself and the relationship. of course i want her to try and contact me. if she will i guess only time will tell. and if shed be willing to start fresh i would be willing to as well. the not knowing if she still even cares is one of the hardest thing to deal with as well or has she taken all the feelings for me and pushed them all aside Link to post Share on other sites
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 yea im the same way, i should be getting ready for my finals and instead im on here day and night reading this stuff. i really have to get my mind back on track but its hard as hell Link to post Share on other sites
Author justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 seriously, just bury yourself in your homework and writing papers...now is the best time to do this. it takes up so much time...i was back and forth last night on here/doing homework from the moment i got home from work (5pm) until i went to sleep at 2!!! it makes time fly and you get a good feeling of accomplishment! Link to post Share on other sites
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 good luck guys... I hope they miss us. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 they will...it may take longer than we want....but its natural to look back on things and miss them, its bound to happen Link to post Share on other sites
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