hello34 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 To start, my parents are overbearing, never stop talking, and are devout Catholics who are very closed minded to new things. My wife is Lutheran, we were married in a Lutheran church, and baptized our daughter Lutheran. My parents made very inappropriate comments regarding baptism and the wedding. The comments about baptism filtered back from my siblings "we asked our priest if it would even count." "Are you sure you won't reconsider and baptize Catholic?" etc. I confronted both my parents, and said that if they don't support us, don't come. It's never ending. My wife resents my parents for the comments from a year ago. I'm the youngest son and she feels that my mom wants to control my life. We live 3 hours apart, I talk to my parents once a week, and see them once every few months. Now her parents. They just moved across town. Her mom is bossy, always right, and very un-intelligent. Her father is an a$$. He's got a temper, has been abusive to my BIL and MIL in the past, and is just an unfriendly person. I try to keep my conversations with both of them limited, and have told my wife that if he ever loses his temper in front of my daughter, it will be the last time he ever sees her. And my wife has been supportive of that...thankfully. I could go on for hours with their stupidity, but I've lost the energy. Let's just say, the continuously make bad decisions with their life, and then blame my wife. Now that they live across town, we see them ALL the time. I've had to tell my wife to ask them to not come around so much (which she has, but throws in my face later). So our daughters first birthday is upon us. My wife is EXTREMELY upset with me because I offered my sister (husband and 3 young kids) and parents to stay at our house (WE HAVE 3 SPARE ROOMS AND A HUGE FINISHED BASEMENT) We had a big fight. She said some nasty things about my mom, which I responded with nasty things about her dad. We're nearing an impasse. It's obviously a long term problem. Does anyone think counseling will help? If I told my parents everything, they'd be crushed. They have no idea how rude they sound sometimes. I'd like to just not be around them, but I also don't want keep our daughter from her grandparents. They're not all bad. My wife holds grudges and I don't think she'll ever forgive my parents for what they said last year. We've been married 2 1/2 years and have been fighting about this stuff since before the wedding. 12 months ago, we were in a hospital room getting ready to welcome our baby. Now she's been in bed all night mad at me, and I'll likely be in one of the spare rooms. Link to post Share on other sites
dongkong Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Her parents are jerks and your parents are jerks. Why dont you two just agree that both your parents are jerks and are causing you two to have problems. To be honest i dont know why your two are allowing your parents to ruin your lives. It is really not worth screwing up your marriage because your's and her parents have issues. BTW counceling could def help. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Set the guidelines for visits and make it clear what will and WILL NOT be tolerated under your roof or around the grandchildren. Speak up, you both have voices and have IQ's that can overcome this matter. You are allowing someone to rule your happiness, big mistake. This is a time to ENJOY your child . Link to post Share on other sites
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