Sex Addiction?

[higherground5]

Hi Forum,

 

Not sure if this is the right forum for my situation, but I just wanted to get some opinions. Here's the quick summary...

 

I've been in and out of relationships for about ten years. Some good. Some bad. Well, many were bad! I was in a series of rebound relationships, almost about three times in a row so it made me somewhat insecure about myself for a while because I was being terminated in so many relationships. After some counseling and time away from the dating scene, I got my act together and figured it was time to date again, but slowly. I actually met this beautiful girl and we hit it off. Well, it's been about two years since we've been together and it's been great so far. However, within the last two months or so we haven't been having much sex (me not initiating it at all) so I'm questioning whether or not I'm falling out of love with this girl, or I'm just not physically attracted to her anymore, or I'm just not used to being in a normal relationship with a girl that I don't have to worry about, which is making me unattracted to her. Does that make sense?

 

Anyway, I do love her, a lot, but I find myself looking at women and fantasizing about them. I have never cheated on her, nor do I want to, but I'm starting to not trust myself. I do think that I might just be a sex addict because I did date around for a while before I met and had casual sex with females who were quite attractive.

 

Any thoughts?

Thanks.

Forbin

[dreamingoftigers]

I commend you fully for seeking answers for this, welcome to LS.

 

You may very well have an attachment problem:

 

If you suspect Sexual Addiction, I strongly recommend that you be very proactive about this a nip it right away, as in yesterday.

 

If you do have a sexual addiction, they are progressive and absolute Hell on wheels for your SO. No one deserves to be put through it, including yourself.

 

In situations like this, it may seem like an overreaction, but I suggest you drop a nuclear bomb on a mosquito and book an appointment with a CSAT and get assessed right away.

 

My husband didn't think he had a problem and that he was the "average guy" that played around when he was younger. His addiction ate his brains for breakfast, I swear, he became and completely different person and is now at treatment.

 

The chemical reactions caused by sexual addiction in the brain are very heavily judgment impairing and if you even slightly suspect that you have a pre-disposition to it, do not expose yourself to stimulating material.

 

I am not a prude by any stretch BUT I have been painstakingly researching the Hell out of this and brain function for over 2 years (although I had a background in learning about brain function for other reasons).

 

I don't want to scare you into avoidance or anything else. Just to be completely honest with you, I would not hesitate to get assessed.

 

Best of luck to you.

 

If by chance you do have a sexual/pornography/masturbation addiction, I am aware of a very wide range of treatments/options for you to pursue. Sometimes certain CSATs and ATSAs are not aware of all of them.

[shadowofman]

In man-world, you got a very common problem. And there is an acceptable cure for your ailment.

 

It's called, "getting some strange". Your body knows this. And you will eventually do so, whether or not you sabotage your current relationship or try to keep it.

 

Sometimes, "getting some strange" is exactly what you need to get the taste back in your mouth. Two years of the same cereal for breakfast every morning will dull anyones taste buds.