heartbreak

[sexy]

I met this guy about three months ago we get on really well we've even been out a couple of times before but recently i lost my aunt and he was there for me the whole way through

 

the trouble is i think he's leading me on and playing with my feelings because he tells me he likes me but is'nt ready for a relationship we've also kissed and slept together and now i've fallen in love with him and i don't know what to do

 

the reason he says he's not ready is because he had a bad experience with he's last relationship and he classes all women the same please give me some advice! how do i make him understand that i ain't the same and that i ain't going to hurt him.

[Paulie]

You can't convince him you're not going to hurt him. But it might be helpful to try. Even you don't know for sure that you won't hurt him. Basically, pour your heart out to him, and hope that he gets over his last relationship soon. Furthermore, I would give you the advice that this man may not be ready for a relationship with you yet. Understanding that has more to do with him, and not you, will be extremely important for you, and helpful for your understanding of the situation. If you explain your feelings to him, and then give him time to heal, if he valuesa relationship with you, HE can seek YOU out. Any forcing him on the issue will only be counter-productive.

 

[Taressa]

Your friend has gone out of his way to NOT lead you on. He's been honest in declaring he's not ready for a relationship. Your response to that has been to kiss him and offer more yourself in sex to him.

 

If you want more from the relationship it's going to take change on your behalf. If the man cannot offer you 100% of himself stop offering 100% of yourself. Set limits on what emotional and physical part of yourself you are willing to invest.

 

Your friend's emotional distrust is not yours to resolve. Let him suffer the consequences by losing the intimacy of a mature relationship. You're a fine woman; make him work for you. That delayed gratification may be enough to motivate his trust.

 

As far as showing him you are different from other women, take advantage of that sweet gift named time. Only time proves character.

[Deejette]

I think that if someone classes all women the same, they are not very emotionally mature. It is insulting for a person to lump you along with all the other women in his life in the past. I think it is a lame excuse for commitment-phobia.

I met this guy about three months ago we get on really well we've even been out a couple of times before but recently i lost my aunt and he was there for me the whole way through the trouble is i think he's leading me on and playing with my feelings because he tells me he likes me but is'nt ready for a relationship we've also kissed and slept together and now i've fallen in love with him and i don't know what to do the reason he says he's not ready is because he had a bad experience with he's last relationship and he classes all women the same please give me some advice! how do i make him understand that i ain't the same and that i ain't going to hurt him.