Author PinkChic Posted May 3, 2011 Author Share Posted May 3, 2011 Child support is your child's right, not yours. You actually have no legal right (or moral right IMO) to renounce support of one parent on behalf of your child. No matter what you or the F or both decide, if a court is ever involved, all your private agreements will be entitled to zero weight and the court will act in the best interest of the child. A guardian ad litem might be appointed and I can guarantee you, it is 100% certain that the guardian would move to have the child supported by both parents. Anything else would be legal malpractice. I'd like to advocate on behalf of your unborn child. He/she deserves the support of both parents. There are only 2 people on earth from whom any child can legally demand support. Don't throw that away. I understand the X may be hating on you for requesting support, but tough for him (and you :-( ). Legally requesting/demanding support on your child's behalf, even in face of the father's rejection and anger, is just ONE of the many tough, demanding, draining tasks you will be called on to perform again and again for the benefit of the helpless child. Thank you for your opinion. I must ask (as I am of course new to this) if we had a mutual agreement outside of court, under what circumastance would we end up in court where they "would act on behalf of the best interest of the child". I would like to make it clear, as I think I have done. My ex and I are genuinely trying to build a very stable co parenting relationship. He has made leaps and bounds lately and there is zero doubt our child will be financially and emotionally taken care of. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted May 5, 2011 Share Posted May 5, 2011 This matter could come to court through the actions of: * You * The F * Social Services * Welfare * Medicaid * Hospital, doctor, teacher * Concerned bystander etc. The above is unlikely to happen if the child is always well take care of. Do keep in mind that you don't know what the future holds. If you and both your children are always healthy, with no special needs, and have health insurance, and you stay employed, and make as much money as is needed by your growing family, you have no more children, your children don't have needs at home that interfere with your employment, and your expenses don't increase beyond your income, etc. then it is possible that your child will never "need" child support. However, if something (anything) goes wrong, your child and you will benefit from a safety net (which after all is nothing more than you child's right). Two children is a lot more work and $$$$ than one, especially if you want them to have a materially comfortable life. Even if you were quite well off, I wouldn't attempt to renounce C/S because it may prove of psychological value to your child, that her/his father acknowledges the r/s and provides support, even if only through a check and not through warmer and loving ties. Link to post Share on other sites
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