hope224 Posted May 1, 2011 Share Posted May 1, 2011 What do you think a good/fulfilling/happy marriage looks like? Feels like? Do you think most happy/good marriages have feelings of love? Or do you think they are simply just a glorified friendship? Where does sex and attraction fit in? Do most happy marriages have that connection feeling? Emotional intimacy? Or is that too much to ask for? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 1, 2011 Share Posted May 1, 2011 Dual threads aren't allowed, no matter how you phrase them, or where you put them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hope224 Posted May 2, 2011 Author Share Posted May 2, 2011 Oh, um, sorry. I realized that the first place I posted might not be the best place to discuss this topic, thought this was a better choice. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 What do you think a good/fulfilling/happy marriage looks like? Everybody's idea of this is going to be slightly different but most would agree there has to be a common level of love, mutual respect, honesty, and trust. Allowing your spouse to have his/her own space to do what they choose to do, whether it be a hobby, go out with friends, or just be alone in the house.. Each person still needs to live their own life, to an extent. Humour, having fun, having sex, making time for one another and really just enjoying eachothers company is important for a long lasting marriage. ofcourse there's going to be bumps in the road, arguments, fights, stressful times, but those low moments don't last forever, the key is to stick it out and work through it. Communication and listening, compromise.. Do you think most happy/good marriages have feelings of love? Yes. Even long lasting marriages. It takes effort to keep the flame alive sometimes! Especially during the low bumpy times marriages can have, don't lose the humour and remember things will get better, but effort has to be mutual. If my dad were still alive today, my parents would still be together and inlove and very happy. Or do you think they are simply just a glorified friendship? Depends on one's view of marriage and relationships, their expectations. Though most don't look at marriages as a glorified friendship. I don't. Where does sex and attraction fit in? It has to be there otherwise the roommate sydrome happens, the brother/sister (I care for you, love you, adore you, want to cuddle with you but don't have passion for you) can happen. Sex and attraction is one part of the glue that keeps the intimacy going and the marriage too. Do most happy marriages have that connection feeling? Yes. Emotional intimacy? Or is that too much to ask for No it isn't much to ask for, but over time it can change. it's an effort for some to keep that part up and going. It's easy to get too comfortable in a marriage and take advantage. It's so important to make time for your spouse and make them feel loved, appreciated and special. And vise versa.. Hope this helps for what you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 Dual threads aren't allowed, no matter how you phrase them, or where you put them. TM, I'm not understanding this? She isn't allowed to ask a question? Unless she put this particular question in other sections, double or triple threads that are of the same content. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 yup. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3376180&posted=1#post3376180 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 Congratulations, TaraMaiden, on being made a Love Shack moderator. One Question: How come your avatar doesn't say "Moderator" yet? Thank you. Modesty forbids..... I thought it would be a kind gesture to advise the OP. They may not know the rule. It's called courtesy..... or does that rub you up the wrong way....? Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 It's called courtesy..... or does that rub you up the wrong way....? I don't think that word is in his dictionary. Link to post Share on other sites
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