OrdealByFire Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 This could be sort of long. I met this girl in mid-December on a website called Tworl. I had no intentions of ever getting anywhere with her. As the title suggests, we wound up in a long-distance relationship. After a little over three months, she decided to break up with me, with her excuse being, "I want to be able to just concentrate on my classes." I thought it was a pretty stupid excuse, told her so, and she agreed. I had asked if we were going to see anyone else - several times - and she said no. The following week, she went to the beach with just one of her friends, that was a girl. I believed her. While she was there, she hardly texted, and told me her phone was dying. A week later she went to the movies - she said she was, again, going with a friend, and I believed her. When she got back, she had told me she went with her friend Natalie. Being the creepy person I am, I looked up her friend's Facebook, looked at her wall, and SHE had gone to the mall, not to the movies. I knew she was lying, and pretty much just said, "Bye." to her. One of the first things she asked was, "Who told you?" I soon found out that when she went to the beach, she went with this guy, AND her friend. She claimed the whole day was awkward for her, and she felt like a third wheel, but a few days after the beach - I wasn't her friend on Facebook at the time - she had "in a relationship" with him and I didn't know it. This whole post is getting kind of disorganized. Anyways, she explained that all she did with him was hold hands and kiss - once - and she did both at the movie theater. She tells me now that she doesn't even talk to her friend that she went to the beach with, because she "pressured her" into dating the guy. This all happened just about a month ago now. Since, she's sent me two letters, a package which is currently on its way, cried several times on the phone, has randomly sent me a nude picture which she said made her extremely uncomfortable but she wanted to do "anything" to get me back, and she plans on fully paying for me to see her this summer. I really don't know what to do here. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Have you actually met her face to face? Link to post Share on other sites
purplepanda Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Sounds like the long-distance thing is confusing for her. How far apart are you two? Link to post Share on other sites
Author OrdealByFire Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 She's paying for me to see her this year. Why SHE'S paying? I have no idea, all I do know is it would cost a hell of a lot, and I know she doesn't have much money to spend. We haven't met, but she's basically been saying things like, "Don't give up yet... just wait until Summer." And so I'm trying to. She lives on the west coast, I'm midwest. Link to post Share on other sites
CandyHeart Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 So everytime she feels unsure or confused about the LDR is she going to jump at the next guy and tell you a lie about concerntrating on school? I don't know if I would give someone like this a 2nd chance especially if she is so unsure and is up and down she will lie to you about it... But at the end of the day its your choice what you decide you want to do. It sounds to me she has already lost your trust and a LDR wont work without the trust. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OrdealByFire Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 I don't know.. she's even offered to stay home on the weekends, and prove it by webcamming with me, just so I'm not paranoid, until I can get back to trusting her again. Any time I remind her I don't trust her, she gets agitated and says, "I have to talk to you later." and things like that. I can't even think straight. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted May 5, 2011 Share Posted May 5, 2011 Is this the underage girl? If the answer is yes, then keep far away from her. That's my advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted May 5, 2011 Share Posted May 5, 2011 If this girl is underage you should have her arrested for sending you child porn. Also, you really shouldn’t be getting into committed relationships with girls you’ve never met. You’re setting yourself up for waking up in a bath tub of ice with a note explaining missing organs and how you should go to the hospital. Don’t call yourself a creep, that’s a girl thing. You were crafty my friend. Please, go meet girls in person. I promise convenience of location is of the purest kinds of love. Link to post Share on other sites
Pianiste Posted May 5, 2011 Share Posted May 5, 2011 I wouldn't say it's a good base for a second chance. She is obviously very impulsive at the moment: telling you she'll pay for your trip, sending a package and nude pictures... Besides that it's not a good sign she told you she would stay home during the weekends so that you two can webcam. Sure it solves the "where are you? With whom are you there?" question but it isn't a good way to generate trust and it also isn't a good way to develop yourself as a person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OrdealByFire Posted May 5, 2011 Author Share Posted May 5, 2011 ...she's 18. Link to post Share on other sites
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