HalfAlive22 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 The other night I went out with some friends, and we ran into some other friends my soon to be x h went to high school with, well I consider them my friends too..since we all kept in touch over the years. Well one of them is the only other man I ever dated, it was in high school we went out together for about 1 and half years before H and I got back together. we were very close in that time, we even almost had a baby together, he treated me like gold. I decided not to have the baby, he was college bound and I did not want to trap him..we went our separate ways, but saw eachother every so often at mutual friends parties ect. I got married a couple years later, but I always thought about him and how he was, anyway he is married now with a child and does very well for himself, we got to talking the other night about our lives and how different they were, he married a woman that is very successful as well, and seems happy, although after a few drinks he said how he thinks of me often and hopes I'm ok, especially since he knew what happend with my marriage, I felt very peaceful around him, it was nice to talk with him again, things could of happend but you know what, we both would never do that, I'm separated but I'd never be the OW, and he is happy and to good to ever do that to his wife, it just goes to show, all this bs about old boyfriends and bad marriages and affairs happening is crazy, people can have feelings and not act on them, we are proof of it! it just goes to show you don't have to be selfish and ruin peoples lives because your in a "moment" just thought I'd share that Link to post Share on other sites
dream2nite Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 That is great for you and the kind of person you are to think before a mess is created. It's a terrible situation for anyone to be in. But on the other hand, every situation is different and you never know for sure about anything. We all make mistakes in different areas where others would think how absurd and terrible, but only we know why? Or at least trying to. The main thing that really counts is what God knows in our hearts because ultimately we have to live with ourselves until he determines our fate. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HalfAlive22 Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 That is great for you and the kind of person you are to think before a mess is created. It's a terrible situation for anyone to be in. But on the other hand, every situation is different and you never know for sure about anything. We all make mistakes in different areas where others would think how absurd and terrible, but only we know why? Or at least trying to. The main thing that really counts is what God knows in our hearts because ultimately we have to live with ourselves until he determines our fate. you are right about that, everyones different, but with all the pain I've been through, I could of easily found out what it would of been like to be the ow for a change and how it felt, but I would'nt do that, and neither would he. well I should'nt say easily, cause he would'nt of, alhthough our friends think otherwise, and your right we do have to live with ourselves, and i'm not goin there .. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Some people simply have no impulse control whatsoever. Animals in the wild can control themselves better. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Some people simply have no impulse control whatsoever. Animals in the wild can control themselves better. The seagulls at McDonald's have better self-control then my H. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 The seagulls at McDonald's have better self-control then my H. My cat in front of a plate of chicken has better self control than a cheater. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 My Xbox has better..... Ok, I think we're flogging it now...... Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Some people simply have no impulse control whatsoever. Animals in the wild can control themselves better. Here....here Wogs. Link to post Share on other sites
allie_lgh Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I think that's great-and even better that you posted it. Some people think that because they get a chance with the "one who got away" or because their lives are ****ty that they are entitled to live in the moment. But that moment fades and once it does and reality settles in people don't want to deal with the consequences. I'm not stating if cheating is right or wrong, but it is always selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
bloppy Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Good for you for you being the better woman not the OW! Link to post Share on other sites
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