Never thought I would be doing this

[AbeNormal]

Hm. Are you sure?

 

I have a different theory.

 

I believe that our Mr. Froggy is really a married, very angry and isolated middle aged man. His wife, I imagine, is disinterested in having sex or much else to do with him - she might be happily engaged elsewhere, maybe having an exciting sex life or just enjoying social times with friends and family, maybe working at a stimulating job, or pursuing hobbies - traveling - whatever. So frustrated, lonely Froggy sits alone at the computer, spinning these romantic cliches and spewing venom at anyone who does not play along with his sad, transparent fantasies.

 

He's been here quite a few times under different guises. All the stories are quite similar, and the disintegration of the threads identical.

 

I've called him out before for his recurring theme of being entitled to "happiness" via an extramarital affair because his wife has neglected him so badly and now some delectable woman is panting after him. He invariably responds by belittling me for my past addiction, etc, which I have spoken about over my time on these boards. Clearly he's read all of my posts for "ammunition." I find that creepy.

 

An interesting feature that I'm eagerly awaiting this time is when the "friend" shows up with a separate identity to share "her" side of the tale.

 

It's really just a very half-baked virtual style of having a mid-life crisis.

 

This is all just conjecture, of course, but I would be willing to put big money on the fact that there is no 22 year old hottie just dying to jump on this old fella's bones in the real world.

 

There is one aspect of all his tales that I do believe to be true: he isn't having any sex, except maybe with himself.

 

That's my theory.

 

I subscribe to your theory (with some minor modifications).

 

I think the "she" has already been here. In my opinion it's not the wife or OW, it's simply someone who can empathize with foggy and provide "moral" support (and even take a swipe at foggy's detractors – albeit in a gentle manner since she is, after all, a gentle sole).

 

She has never cheated or been cheated on (nor does she seem to have a pressing issue to deal with), yet she finds herself at LoveShack making contributions in the Infidelity and OM/OW forums. She happened to join the same day as foggy. She offers sage advice (at least in threads other than foggy's) and is very kind and well mannered - exceptional maturity for a young women. She has offered kind and supportive words to foggy about how exciting things could/might be in his new relationship, but she has also put forth a bit of caution in a concerned/caring way. She is a young women who herself is involved in an "age gap" relationship, so she understands foggy's situation and thinks it can work.

 

I believe there might be a third "person” - an antagonist. This person joined a couple days after foggy, and was compelled to do so to lecture foggy about being docile and "unman like" - of course this person is a brute who doesn't properly respect or care for women the way foggy does. Naturally foggy was enraged by this person's post. It was nice that the young woman could post to provide a bit of support to foggy...

 

It seems clear that foggy has spent a LOT of time on LoveShack. After all, it was not only you for which he was quick to have “ammunition” for an attack. It would seem that he simply cannot stand strong women - it causes him to rage.

 

While this is just a theory (that builds upon yours), it is inconceivable to me that the tale appearing on these pages has a basis in reality. If the theory is correct, the underlying psychology is not simple.

 

By the way, I like strong women! I listen to them ... at least as best I can (being a man, after all).

[John Michael Kane]

Really when was that???? Last I checked, I divorced him. :lmao::lmao:LMAO!!!!!!!! EPIC FAIL! Come back at me again, ok. And you shouldn't talk, after all you are the one cheating on your sickly wife. Such a good samaritan you are! Smooches. YOu sound like a 40yr who has not left the yard. Good luck honey!

 

He did have a point about the "22-year-old" comment.

[Mimolicious]

He first said that his wife would be ok if he shacks someone else. Sooooooo WTF is really the problem then?

 

Besides, he keeps on talking smack. Name calling and acting like a little b*tch to half the people on here. Talks about "you must have a lot of free time to post here" yet he had a little "free time" himself to search old posts. Suspect?!!?!!??!?!

 

faker than a three dollar bill.

 

Bless your A already and welcome to hell. The end!

Can't wait till your soon to be xW turns into psycho lady.

[Garrgoil]

Well foggy is out on a date with his lady friend right about now.

 

Wonder what he'll taste on her lips when he gives her the good night kiss.

 

Or who.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Well foggy is out on a date with his lady friend right about now.

 

Wonder what he'll taste on her lips when he gives her the good night kiss.

 

Or who.

 

He'll taste that Brill Creme, sweaty flavor of his own dirty pillowcase!

[Garrgoil]

He'll taste that Brill Creme, sweaty flavor of his own dirty pillowcase!

 

No he strikes me as a VO 5 man.

[foggyandconfused]

There is one thing about this thread that is correct.

 

I am a 22 year old college student. I am working on an extensive research project. It is a detailed analysis of internet "self help" and "advice" forums and those who frequent them, especially those who frequent these forums the most and for the longest period of time.

 

I have a meeting with my professor Friday morning and will present him a written copy of this entire thread. He has glanced over it several times over the last several days and we are both amazed at what we have found, not only in this forum, but in others.

 

The extreme psychological dysfunction present in forums like this make it an extreme detriment to anyone mistakenly finding a discussion forum like this and expecting rational, logical, advice.

 

Forums like this and about a dozen others I have frequented in the last several months show a disturbing, mentally unstable, mob of self-righteous, delusional, individuals. Part of my summary will be how you react to my analysis in this posting.

 

To anyone visiting forums like these, please seek professional help and disregard the comments made by betrayed spouses, drug addicts, sex addicts, those afflicted with extreme sexual dysfunction and mental illness. The majority of these people are in no position to offer sound advice and only use these forums as a way of feeling powerful in their otherwise unsatisfying lives.

 

Forums like do harm not only the regular "experts," but those who may take any advice given by these people. The "experts" get a false sense of unnatural worth by the power and and anger they wield and their misguided and biased advice could be extremely damaging to anyone with the belief that these people have any advice worth following. Extreme bias, misappropriated emotion, and anger, most often discriminatory in nature toward the opposite sex, would lend to a high probability that many of the regular posters in forums like these use them as an escape for real life situations, which they are afraid of, can't adapt to, and cannot integrate themselves into successfully. I would be extremely cautious of those who disclose the use of hard drugs and recommend violence, as research shows these people can especially be prone to violent outbursts, many times toward their own children.

 

This last forum experiment here on Love Shack is being approached in a different manner, with disclosure of the post as a fraud and analysis of the resulting responses.

 

Keep posting your thoughts, reactions, and feelings about spending so much of your time talking to an anonymous individual and being drawn in to a fantasy world, taking you away from real life responsibilities. I will keep reading, printing, and analyzing.

 

This post will be part of the final research paper. You involvement, although involuntary in some ways, could be very helpful, as I am hoping for this paper to be published in one or several journals, studying the personality traits present when someone cloaks themselves behind the anonymity of the internet.

 

It has been nice meeting all of you. I hope you get the professional help many of you desperately need.

[vsmini]

You involvement, although involuntary in some ways, could be very helpful, as I am hoping for this paper to be published in one or several journals, studying the personality traits present when someone cloaks themselves behind the anonymity of the internet.

 

Hannibal please. Your "research topic" has been exhausted more than this thread has. Journal bound? I doubt it.

 

Besides - your second part of this thread's experiment is flawed being that you've throw in insults to your "confession" which makes it biased and throws off quite a few things that would make any respectable publication turn you down right off the bat.

 

Don't forget to quote me!

-Yenta #4

[Mme. Chaucer]

Oh, Foggy! I thought we agreed that you wouldn't reveal our important research until AFTER you had these misguided losers all riled up about your faux "date" tonight.

 

Yep. It's true. I am Foggy's professor. We two have been in league this whole time, all in the name of academia. Haha. Fooled you!

:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

[vsmini]

I'm also the TA for this class and the 18 year old that's sleeping with Foggy. What can I say - I'm a sucker for an older man that has the hookups to all the good psych internships. Hey Dr. Chaucer! SUP?!

[Mme. Chaucer]

In this class, my dear students, T & A is what it's all about!

[Mme. Chaucer]

Who's Hannibal?

[AbeNormal]

Nope – you've simply been exposed. It stings and now you have been compelled to come back with your "disclosure" – yet rife with (uncontrolled) further insults of people here.

 

What you write about "research tactics" is nonsense (believe me, I know).

 

You are obviously intelligent.

 

You need to gain some control by properly sticking with your medication regimen, etc. I sincerely wish you the best.

Edited May 10, 2011 by AbeNormal

[betterdeal]

To anyone visiting forums like these, please seek professional help and disregard the comments made by betrayed spouses, drug addicts, sex addicts, those afflicted with extreme sexual dysfunction and mental illness.

 

So avoid the entire population of the world, basically. Rather like you do. You have cock-rot or some equally curable and simple condition that makes you so scared. It is this combined with a lack of skills and experience in being assertive and defending yourself without resorting to aggression that is hurting you and those you encounter.

 

Maybe get some Viagra, watch some porn, and acknowledge any pain you feel when you get excited. Then see your doctor if you feel pain when erect and discuss options with her or him for treatment.

Edited May 10, 2011 by betterdeal

[RRM]

First off, I can't say I saw that coming. Whether or not it's true or not, who knows and really who cares?

 

Now, I wanted to clear up some misconceptions made in a veiled post that was about me.

 

I subscribe to your theory (with some minor modifications).

 

I think the "she" has already been here. In my opinion it's not the wife or OW, it's simply someone who can empathize with foggy and provide "moral" support (and even take a swipe at foggy's detractors – albeit in a gentle manner since she is, after all, a gentle sole).

 

She has never cheated or been cheated on (nor does she seem to have a pressing issue to deal with), yet she finds herself at LoveShack making contributions in the Infidelity and OM/OW forums. She happened to join the same day as foggy. She offers sage advice (at least in threads other than foggy's) and is very kind and well mannered - exceptional maturity for a young women. She has offered kind and supportive words to foggy about how exciting things could/might be in his new relationship, but she has also put forth a bit of caution in a concerned/caring way. She is a young women who herself is involved in an "age gap" relationship, so she understands foggy's situation and thinks it can work.

 

I believe there might be a third "person” - an antagonist. This person joined a couple days after foggy, and was compelled to do so to lecture foggy about being docile and "unman like" - of course this person is a brute who doesn't properly respect or care for women the way foggy does. Naturally foggy was enraged by this person's post. It was nice that the young woman could post to provide a bit of support to foggy...

 

AbeNormal, while I do appreciate the kind words, even if you may have been being a bit facetious with them, I can assure you I am not the same person as F&C or in any way connected with him or her.

 

I'm actually a gay guy who is having issues with his boyfriend and his boyfriend's best friend.

 

I am currently crushing on my boyfriend's friend, so I don't have very good advice on how to get someone out of your mind either.

 

I'm 25 years old, so I am actually a relatively young guy and my outlook on relationships may be unorthodox.

 

I'm not perfect, but no one is.

 

I'm not ready for advice yet, but at some point I will share my story.

 

I do admit it was kind of funny that people may have thought I was another persona of F&C. I simply say how I feel and I'm used to going against the majority opinion at times if I feel that my advice is solid.

Edited May 10, 2011 by RRM

[Garrgoil]

There is one thing about this thread that is correct.

 

I am a 22 year old college student. I am working on an extensive research project. It is a detailed analysis of internet "self help" and "advice" forums and those who frequent them, especially those who frequent these forums the most and for the longest period of time.

 

I have a meeting with my professor Friday morning and will present him a written copy of this entire thread. He has glanced over it several times over the last several days and we are both amazed at what we have found, not only in this forum, but in others.

 

The extreme psychological dysfunction present in forums like this make it an extreme detriment to anyone mistakenly finding a discussion forum like this and expecting rational, logical, advice.

 

Forums like this and about a dozen others I have frequented in the last several months show a disturbing, mentally unstable, mob of self-righteous, delusional, individuals. Part of my summary will be how you react to my analysis in this posting.

 

To anyone visiting forums like these, please seek professional help and disregard the comments made by betrayed spouses, drug addicts, sex addicts, those afflicted with extreme sexual dysfunction and mental illness. The majority of these people are in no position to offer sound advice and only use these forums as a way of feeling powerful in their otherwise unsatisfying lives.

 

Forums like do harm not only the regular "experts," but those who may take any advice given by these people. The "experts" get a false sense of unnatural worth by the power and and anger they wield and their misguided and biased advice could be extremely damaging to anyone with the belief that these people have any advice worth following. Extreme bias, misappropriated emotion, and anger, most often discriminatory in nature toward the opposite sex, would lend to a high probability that many of the regular posters in forums like these use them as an escape for real life situations, which they are afraid of, can't adapt to, and cannot integrate themselves into successfully. I would be extremely cautious of those who disclose the use of hard drugs and recommend violence, as research shows these people can especially be prone to violent outbursts, many times toward their own children.

 

This last forum experiment here on Love Shack is being approached in a different manner, with disclosure of the post as a fraud and analysis of the resulting responses.

 

Keep posting your thoughts, reactions, and feelings about spending so much of your time talking to an anonymous individual and being drawn in to a fantasy world, taking you away from real life responsibilities. I will keep reading, printing, and analyzing.

 

This post will be part of the final research paper. You involvement, although involuntary in some ways, could be very helpful, as I am hoping for this paper to be published in one or several journals, studying the personality traits present when someone cloaks themselves behind the anonymity of the internet.

 

It has been nice meeting all of you. I hope you get the professional help many of you desperately need.

 

 

I knew you weren't getting laid, dude.

[Garrgoil]

Who's Hannibal?

 

Some guy who rode a bunch of elephants from Africa to Greece.

 

Or something.

[SidLyon]

Oh wow! Priceless!

 

This really takes the cake (the one the OP wishes "he" was eating, that is).

 

:lmao:

 

I guessed it was a con quite a while ago but was fooled for the first page or so.

[dreamingoftigers]

There is one thing about this thread that is correct.

 

I am a 22 year old college student. I am working on an extensive research project. It is a detailed analysis of internet "self help" and "advice" forums and those who frequent them, especially those who frequent these forums the most and for the longest period of time.

 

I have a meeting with my professor Friday morning and will present him a written copy of this entire thread. He has glanced over it several times over the last several days and we are both amazed at what we have found, not only in this forum, but in others.

 

The extreme psychological dysfunction present in forums like this make it an extreme detriment to anyone mistakenly finding a discussion forum like this and expecting rational, logical, advice.

 

Forums like this and about a dozen others I have frequented in the last several months show a disturbing, mentally unstable, mob of self-righteous, delusional, individuals. Part of my summary will be how you react to my analysis in this posting.

 

To anyone visiting forums like these, please seek professional help and disregard the comments made by betrayed spouses, drug addicts, sex addicts, those afflicted with extreme sexual dysfunction and mental illness. The majority of these people are in no position to offer sound advice and only use these forums as a way of feeling powerful in their otherwise unsatisfying lives.

 

Forums like do harm not only the regular "experts," but those who may take any advice given by these people. The "experts" get a false sense of unnatural worth by the power and and anger they wield and their misguided and biased advice could be extremely damaging to anyone with the belief that these people have any advice worth following. Extreme bias, misappropriated emotion, and anger, most often discriminatory in nature toward the opposite sex, would lend to a high probability that many of the regular posters in forums like these use them as an escape for real life situations, which they are afraid of, can't adapt to, and cannot integrate themselves into successfully. I would be extremely cautious of those who disclose the use of hard drugs and recommend violence, as research shows these people can especially be prone to violent outbursts, many times toward their own children.

 

This last forum experiment here on Love Shack is being approached in a different manner, with disclosure of the post as a fraud and analysis of the resulting responses.

 

Keep posting your thoughts, reactions, and feelings about spending so much of your time talking to an anonymous individual and being drawn in to a fantasy world, taking you away from real life responsibilities. I will keep reading, printing, and analyzing.

 

This post will be part of the final research paper. You involvement, although involuntary in some ways, could be very helpful, as I am hoping for this paper to be published in one or several journals, studying the personality traits present when someone cloaks themselves behind the anonymity of the internet.

 

It has been nice meeting all of you. I hope you get the professional help many of you desperately need.

 

This is so funny for a few reasons.

 

1. Under the influence of infatuation the brain does not send any bloodflow to the neocortex, thereby severely impairing reasoning. Knowing that, finding a trigger that would snap a potential WS out of "affair fog" would be difficult at best. But, if given a variety of logical triggers there might be one. So I thought after compiling a broad spread that I might give it a very non-judgmental shot. Glad to have had the opportunity to broaden my horizons for any potential WS in the future.

 

2. I've been pretty sick this week but mostly following the thread. If this is research, you have a very poor sense of controls and consistency. Not to mention that any ethics office worth half of it's grain of salt would toss it so fast your head would spin. Having worked at U of C for four years in a graduate studies department, even lightly trying to pass this off as something pre-approved is just.......

 

3. Everything points to Narcisscism. Very sad. I would suggest seeking out the help of a professional that performs EMDR therapy as it is the only treatment I am familiar with that would treat layers of shame so deep. Furthermore the attempt to shame the posters, especially those who tried to reach out to you, says nicely and solidly that you yourself have some issues regarding shame. Say what you wish about Mme. Chaucer, her life experiences have given her the gift of hyper-vigilance. In lay terms: she knows what a rat smells like a mile away. Busted.

 

4. If we are part of some "grand research" project, then we have the glorious right to know which institution and which department. Feel free to post anytime. I look forward to hearing your "results." With your scrutiny comes your responsibility.

 

Hopefully you are able to seek the help you need.

[dreamingoftigers]

There is one thing about this thread that is correct.

 

I am a 22 year old college student. I am working on an extensive research project. It is a detailed analysis of internet "self help" and "advice" forums and those who frequent them, especially those who frequent these forums the most and for the longest period of time.

 

I have a meeting with my professor Friday morning and will present him a written copy of this entire thread. He has glanced over it several times over the last several days and we are both amazed at what we have found, not only in this forum, but in others.

 

The extreme psychological dysfunction present in forums like this make it an extreme detriment to anyone mistakenly finding a discussion forum like this and expecting rational, logical, advice.

 

Forums like this and about a dozen others I have frequented in the last several months show a disturbing, mentally unstable, mob of self-righteous, delusional, individuals. Part of my summary will be how you react to my analysis in this posting.

 

To anyone visiting forums like these, please seek professional help and disregard the comments made by betrayed spouses, drug addicts, sex addicts, those afflicted with extreme sexual dysfunction and mental illness. The majority of these people are in no position to offer sound advice and only use these forums as a way of feeling powerful in their otherwise unsatisfying lives.

 

Forums like do harm not only the regular "experts," but those who may take any advice given by these people. The "experts" get a false sense of unnatural worth by the power and and anger they wield and their misguided and biased advice could be extremely damaging to anyone with the belief that these people have any advice worth following. Extreme bias, misappropriated emotion, and anger, most often discriminatory in nature toward the opposite sex, would lend to a high probability that many of the regular posters in forums like these use them as an escape for real life situations, which they are afraid of, can't adapt to, and cannot integrate themselves into successfully. I would be extremely cautious of those who disclose the use of hard drugs and recommend violence, as research shows these people can especially be prone to violent outbursts, many times toward their own children.

 

This last forum experiment here on Love Shack is being approached in a different manner, with disclosure of the post as a fraud and analysis of the resulting responses.

 

Keep posting your thoughts, reactions, and feelings about spending so much of your time talking to an anonymous individual and being drawn in to a fantasy world, taking you away from real life responsibilities. I will keep reading, printing, and analyzing.

 

This post will be part of the final research paper. You involvement, although involuntary in some ways, could be very helpful, as I am hoping for this paper to be published in one or several journals, studying the personality traits present when someone cloaks themselves behind the anonymity of the internet.

 

It has been nice meeting all of you. I hope you get the professional help many of you desperately need.

 

These are normative and judgmental statements (as well as items that would need to be individually researched and sourced) I hope you would never intend on using them in any type of paper.

 

At best, you must be a first-year.

[betterdeal]

It's okay to ask for help.

[Carrot2000]

How did this "research" get past the IRB?

 

Oh wait, it didn't...

[bentnotbroken]

How did this "research" get past the IRB?

 

Oh wait, it didn't...

 

 

Exactly!:laugh:

[Baroness67]

Right, now it's a student conducting research. My goodness, how silly.

[Eve]

How did this "research" get past the IRB?

 

Oh wait, it didn't...

 

LOL!

 

Although darkly amusing.. liars are a funny breed..

 

Take care,

Eve x