Gapinthesidewalk Posted May 6, 2011 Share Posted May 6, 2011 (edited) Hey, what's going on? This is my first post and whatnot so bear with me. Mkay, so might as well say it right off the bat. I'm a 20 year old virgin (not by choice) and pretty much never had a girlfriend. There were a few girls in my past. The first girl I met online and it only lasted a month. We hung out a few times, but then she moved away and it didn't really go anywhere. For lack of a better word it was weird. Anyway, the second girl I had went to school with but she moved away. Facebook reconnected us and she seemed to want to hang out, but due to **** with her family she ended up moving back to DE (I live in PA), and despite my attempts to set up "dates" (concert, movies, etc.) she didn't really go with it. So that brings me to where I'm at currently. Any other girl I've ever developed feelings for ultimately never went anywhere because I never acted on it, and here's why. Stemming back to high school, every girl I've ever had a thing for had a boyfriend. So that being said I never did anything about it. After a while the feelings just faded and the process would repeat itself. Over time I realized how pointless things were since I knew that the feelings would eventually fade away. So, cool, I just discovered the proccess of human emotional attachment, but that didn't help me with my situation. Ultimately, it lead to me being really apathetic about, well, everything in the realm of romance. I guess the question I'm really trying to ask is how do I break this cycle? Being an introverted individual sucks and being that I just transferred colleges this past semester has left me with little to no friends. I really WANT to change and meet people and girls and develop relationships, but at the same time my apathy prevents me from acting upon it. Any suggestions are welcomed and appreciated. Edited May 6, 2011 by Gapinthesidewalk Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredReality Posted May 6, 2011 Share Posted May 6, 2011 Hmm....well I would say first make some female friends. That's the best way to form an attachment. If it's just physical then you won't have as much of an emotional attachment and that won't help with your introversion. So maybe a girl in class who you think seems nice...strike up a conversation....tell her you're new and just trying to branch out to make friends if you need to...but basically if you can get yourself to a few functions you might be able to strike up some frindships....go from there. The next time you get that fuzzy feeling for a girl ask her out...or try to become her friend at least. I am trying to get you emotional connections...if you just wanna get laid then it's a bit different. Link to post Share on other sites
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