YellowShark Posted May 7, 2011 Share Posted May 7, 2011 (edited) I would stay completely neutral. Don't give her an inch. No happiness for her, no sadness for her either. You are a wall of bricks towards her, and all she gets from you now is neutrality. She dumped you for another man and that's all she gets. Keep your dignity!! And keep all communications totally neutral. Don't wish her "the best" cuz she threw you under a bus, broke up your family, and left you for another man. To hell with her and how she's feeling! Everything that is happening now is because she left for OM!!! Well it looks like the grass wasn't greener without you after all. She cant even handle a simple task like getting a boost for her car without you. Too bad for her and her "relationship books." Just my 2 cents. Edited May 7, 2011 by YellowShark 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tiberius Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 There are kids involved. Try to get her to agree to an open marriage. You can see who you want and she gets some help in raising the kids. Link to post Share on other sites
TMCM Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 I don't agree with some of the other posters here about what she may be up to or doing. I am probably a lot like your wife but I'm not with someone who broke up my marriage. I met my current boyfriend after the separation. Over the last few months, I've done a lot of introspection about things that went wrong in my marriage. In fact, I just sent an email last night to my STBX about the things I did that contributed to the breakdown of our marriage. I've asked him to add to the list if he so chooses. I'm not looking to reconcile. During my time of introspection, I have recognized that my spouse and I are not really a good match. I think he believes that, too. He has also been going on with his life. There have been times where I've been jealous of that and upset that he may be with someone else now. Silly given I am with someone else now as well, but it is still hard. I was with him for the last 15 years, we have history and children together. I hope one day we can be friends again but it will not be anytime soon. I think that recognizing one's faults is a good thing. Also regardless if you reconcile or not, we all need feedback on ways to improve ourselves so we don't bring these same problems into another relationship. Also, asking you to assist with children isn't a big deal. I help my STBX and he'll help me. It doesn't mean you're a doormat. It just means you are coparenting your children. Just my 2 cents.... Well said. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 I would stay completely neutral. Don't give her an inch. No happiness for her, no sadness for her either. You are a wall of bricks towards her, and all she gets from you now is neutrality. She dumped you for another man and that's all she gets. Keep your dignity!! And keep all communications totally neutral. Don't wish her "the best" cuz she threw you under a bus, broke up your family, and left you for another man. To hell with her and how she's feeling! Everything that is happening now is because she left for OM!!! Well it looks like the grass wasn't greener without you after all. She cant even handle a simple task like getting a boost for her car without you. Too bad for her and her "relationship books." Just my 2 cents. this. Link to post Share on other sites
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