DreamerGirl27 Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Acne on males = bad. Acne on females = all too common. The reason: Men can't wear makeup. At the same time, makeup clogs pores and causes acne. But at least we can still cover up what's there. Females tend to have to take better care of their skin than males. That's why women primp and wash their face at night and men don't always have to. My dad has the cleanest complexion and always has. My mom, still has to wash her face and she's in her mid 50's. It's quite common for women to have acne. Not so much with men. Another reason why: MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 I recall you mentioning that your interests were more towards the male end of the spectrum, OP. If that is the case, then it isn't unusual to find it difficult to make friends with those of the same sex. Friendships are often based around similar interests; birds of a feather flock together. If you don't share interests with many females, what can you expect to do during your time together? Sure, getting a meal and chatting can be done by just about anyone, but you probably won't be interested in the pedicures, shopping, etc that the typical female would enjoy doing with friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rinnix Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 I mentioned some girly hobbies in other posts, I do like shopping, baking, gardening, art. What I don't like is clubs, excessive drinking, drugs, drama and gossip. Most of my old friends had them all together. I couldn't find many female friends who liked arcades and videogaming, thats where my male friends came in. Thing is some wanted to be more than friends so I went back to square one. I love the friends I have now but I hardly ever see them. They have children or very busy schedules. Just hoping I can meet some when my courses are up again.. Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 I am interested in a lot of things my girlfriends aren't, but my guy friends ignore me, so, I can't hang out with them, either. That's kind of not a gender thing...that's kind of a personal likes and dislikes thing. Link to post Share on other sites
TokyoG33kyGal Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 omg, i just b*tched about this lately that i cannot find decent female friends most of my female friends are married and now that i am getting married they are being a debbie downer. there is one friend whom i thought would be better for me but she's a little selfish. she would flake on our meetups, she will only meetup with me if her boyfriend is not available and having a conversation with her is so difficult and boring (she interrupts me and cannot wait for her turn). i just felt like my interests are different from theirs as well. they're much focused on the dramas of life. i enjoy gaming too and some girlie activities. i have other great female friends but they are much older than me and not available all the time. so right now i am pretty much a hermit i do join activities such as rafting, snowboarding in my area but never really had a chance to make a connection for such a short time. Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 How can they be your friends if they ignore you? They're not, really. They are just numbers on my facebook account. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 (edited) My oldest friend is somebody I've know since I was 4. We were inseparable throughout childhood and our teens. I was her bridesmaid etc. The usual. We've grown apart with age, but when we do meet up it's always a really happy time. We're friends, but I have never thought of her as being like a sister...despite having known eachother our entire lives. I think an unspoken mutual agreement that friendship is not the same as being family/sisters is probably why the friendship has lasted as long as it has. We haven't had any dramatic fallings out since we were 11. Any time one of us got pissed off with the other, we'd just put in some distance....then after a couple of weeks it would have blown over. No lasting harm done. The most destructive friendships I've had have been with women who came from an "all sisters" (no brothers) set up. Sisters seem to often have a really intense bond, which means that they will offer eachother high levels of support - but when they fall out, God help everybody. What I've found, in those very difficult friendships, is that the women involved took the sister dynamic into their friendships. Regarded female friends as surrogate sisters - and lacked an appreciation of the fact that you just can't enter into the kind of love/hate killer conflict with friends that you might have with sisters. That it will end friendship very quickly. I can't deal with being dragged into that kind of set up. I've tried, but it's not what I grew up with. Three times I have had friendships with "you are like a sister to me" women, that ended up causing me a lot of headaches. I grew up with a brother. We fought as kids - but as adults we have a civilised relationships, where we help eachother out from time to time due to the sibling relationship. I don't understand the intense love/hate sister dynamic some women who come from that background have, and if I'm honest - I don't really want to. I don't enjoy that vitriolic, grudge-harbouring approach to conflict. I'd prefer to have fewer friendships, but lasting low drama ones with women who have a more laid back approach. Edited May 12, 2011 by Taramere Link to post Share on other sites
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