You Are Beautiful

[HeartShineGirl]

Look into the mirror and realize that you interpret what you see based on what you believe. If you don't understand this statement realize that some people that are anorexic actually see a fat person when they look into the mirror. Our mind really can affect what we perceive. Remember that and know that if you look into the mirror and think "Gah, I look horrible!" or "OMG I'm ugly!" or "I have a horrible nose!" or whatever you might think, remember that your mind has been programmed to think that by the beliefs you have in your mind. Thus if you have always believed that you were imperfect than you will see imperfections when you look into the mirror regardless of how many people tell you that you are beautiful, you will think they are just blind and you will not believe it.

But, you must remember that you really are what you believe you are. In other words, since your belief in yourself is what brings you UP or DOWN in self esteem why not start by reprogramming your beliefs?

Start by telling yourself every day when you wake up that you are lovely, loved and beautiful, or handsome? Why not stop thinking negative and start complimenting yourself. Instead of thinking negative, be positive! Instead of thinking all the worst situations start thinking the best. If a guy you like doesn't call you when you expect him to, stop imagining the worst, or worse yet, stop imagining that you don't deserve love. You do! Think positive. It will not only work, it will work better than anything else.

Don't you WANT to feel amazing, beautiful and wonderful every minute and look into the mirror and actually love what you see? Well, you may not think it's possible right now while your brain has been programmed to see "ugly" in the mirror, but it will happen, you have to just trust me and try it. Surround yourself with positive people, do things that let you express yourself.. and love yourself. You are a beautiful person!

[betterdeal]

What a lovely post by a beautiful poster!

[Rinnix]

This is a wonderful message. I agree that we are our own worst critics, most people won't see half the flaws that we claim to have.

 

I also think it's worth looking at yourself and finding things that you love abot yourself. whether it be physical or character traits, we all have something positive to give to the world.

 

[betterdeal]

Reminds me of this:

[HeartShineGirl]

What a lovely post by a beautiful poster!

 

I try to spread love...

.... and if my words can help someone change for the better...

 

................. than all the better for the entire world!

[HeartShineGirl]

Reminds me of this:

 

 

Oh yes! Beautiful song.

[HeartShineGirl]

We need to all be just like this little girl, every day of our life!

 

Check this video out! And, please share it around the forum, it's amazingly motivational.

 

 

 

 

Love it!

[somedude81]

For the past few months or so, I've been starting to get very angry at seeing my face. Some days when I'm feeling bad, I have a strong urge to just shatter the mirror with my fist.

 

At first I didn't think I was ugly, maybe even slightly above average, but if women think I'm ugly, then I must be. And now I've started to hate how I look.

[betterdeal]

That doesn't sound like much fun. Why have you chosen to judge yourself based on (what you think) other's judge you to be?

[somedude81]

I haven't chosen to, it just happened that way.

 

It's anger and frustruaton from not being able to get what I want. Constant rejection has simply led me to believe that I'm just not attractive.

 

Throw in a little self-hate, and there you go.

[betterdeal]

Oh well. If you can't chose how you think about things then it must be quite frustrating, I'm sure. I guess you just have to hope other people start thinking nice things about you and then you will do the same.

[somedude81]

Oh well. If you can't chose how you think about things then it must be quite frustrating, I'm sure. I guess you just have to hope other people start thinking nice things about you and then you will do the same.

Exactly.

 

I try my best to look good, and hopefully one day somebody will recognize it.

 

But until then, I don't think I can change how I think about myself.

[Rinnix]

Exactly.

 

I try my best to look good, and hopefully one day somebody will recognize it.

 

But until then, I don't think I can change how I think about myself.

 

Everyone has a different eye for beauty. I'm not everyone's cup of tea either, to some I look like a troll.

 

Just be happy with how you look, and everything will come into place eventually.

[HeartShineGirl]

For the past few months or so, I've been starting to get very angry at seeing my face. Some days when I'm feeling bad, I have a strong urge to just shatter the mirror with my fist.

 

At first I didn't think I was ugly, maybe even slightly above average, but if women think I'm ugly, then I must be. And now I've started to hate how I look.

 

You cannot base who you are by your face alone, lets put how you look on the outside to the side, and concentrate on what you have going on ... inside. Women are almost always attracted to confidence, not to be confused with arrogance. Also the way a man talks, who he truly is, and the kind of person he is. I am personally turned off by attractive men who act like they are gonna "rock my world" just because they have a **** between their legs. I'm sorry but to me that's just boring. I am not into guys like that no matter how attractive they are.

 

I much prefer a more confident man, who shows leadership abilities, who is self confident and who doesn't worry about his looks. That is attractive to me. And, if the man is romantic that's a bonus!

 

You cannot use your face as the punching bag (even in a mirror) just because you are not getting girls. It's gotta be more than that. Girls are not looking "just only at your face" when they meet you. They are listening to your voice, the way you talk, whether or not you are confident, how you treat others, your sense of humor and body language, just to name a few of the things.

 

So, you may be above average. If women are telling you that you are ugly, it's probably NOT your face's fault. Have you ever asked them "How do you mean?" To see what they say?

 

Trust in this... the most beautiful people I know in this world walk around with their head high and don't care if their faces are not perfect. And, no one sees those imperfections trust me, all we see are beautiful people.

 

 

Beauty truly is "on the inside" as cliche as that might sound. It's absolutely the truth. And, when a person is in love with someone it doesn't matter what that person looks like on the outside, it honestly doesn't, because more often than not they fell in love with what was inside anyways.

Edited May 7, 2011 by HeartShineGirl

[somedude81]

You cannot base who you are by your face alone, lets put how you look on the outside to the side, and concentrate on what you have going on ... inside. Women are almost always attracted to confidence, not to be confused with arrogance.

Yeah, I'm lacking that too .Plus I often don't know what to say to women. So ugly and no confidence, what a win.

 

You cannot use your face as the punching bag (even in a mirror) just because you are not getting girls. It's gotta be more than that. Girls are not looking "just only at your face" when they meet you. They are listening to your voice, the way you talk, whether or not you are confident, how you treat others, your sense of humor and body language, just to name a few of the things.

Yeah I know it's more than just looks, though good looking men have it much easier than everybody else.

 

In the end women decide whether I'm attractive or not.

So, you may be above average. If women are telling you that you are ugly, it's probably NOT your face's fault. Have you ever asked them "How do you mean?" To see what they say?

BTW, I haven't actually heard a woman say I'm ugly. I just have never heard anybody said I'm good looking. Added to always getting rejected, it must mean that I am ugly.

 

Beauty truly is "on the inside" as cliche as that might sound. It's absolutely the truth. And, when a person is in love with someone it doesn't matter what that person looks like on the outside, it honestly doesn't, because more often than not they fell in love with what was inside anyways.

I hate to be such a downer, but I'll believe it when I see it. So far, nobody has ever come close to falling in love with me.

[betterdeal]

If you had the ability to choose, would you choose either of these statements when describing yourself?

 

1. I am ugly as sin and twice as fun

2. Of course she fancies me - she's got eyes

 

Too many people confuse beautiful with pretty. To me, pretty is the physical appearance, gait, posture &c. Beautiful is the full package, it is how you make other people feel.

 

Have a look into Serge Gainsbourg.

Edited May 7, 2011 by betterdeal

[Ross MwcFan]

I have no idea how I look.

 

Sometimes I can look in the mirror, and think I look great. But then if I look at a reflection of the reflection of myself in another mirror, so I'm seeing a flip image of myself (how other people would see me), my face suddenly looks distorted and I look awful.

 

Also, on photo's I can look like a totally different person from one photo to another. On some photo's I'll think I look very attractive, and on others I think I look really ugly and dweeby.

 

I've been told that I'm good looking, but I've also been told that I'm ugly.

 

I just wish I knew what to think.

[HeartShineGirl]

Yeah, I'm lacking that too .Plus I often don't know what to say to women. So ugly and no confidence, what a win.

 

 

Yeah I know it's more than just looks, though good looking men have it much easier than everybody else.

 

In the end women decide whether I'm attractive or not.

 

BTW, I haven't actually heard a woman say I'm ugly. I just have never heard anybody said I'm good looking. Added to always getting rejected, it must mean that I am ugly.

 

 

I hate to be such a downer, but I'll believe it when I see it. So far, nobody has ever come close to falling in love with me.

 

 

Okay, so lets say you are ugly, as you put it. Now, think about all the ugly men out there in the world that women love. I can think of a bunch of actors right off the top who I do not find attractive in the least. But, lets stick with people we know. Do you know any men that are happily married that are not exactly “beautiful” to look at? I'm sure we all know a lot of them, because the truth of the matter is, only a very small percentage of people are actually “perfect” or what we would consider “beautiful”. Go to the market and start looking around at all the people you see together, or go to the mall. Look at how many of those men are actually really handsome. I bet you will see a lot of not so handsome, probably over weight, “ugly” looking men walking around with their wives and families.

 

What I am trying to get at is that you shouldn't be focused on your looks when it comes to wanting a relationship, nor should you view the world that way. If you do that then you will go around hating yourself for not being perfect and be miserable that you don't have love. The love is not going to come to you if you are in that state of mind in the first place. No woman in her right mind wants to be with a guy who needs to constantly here how good looking he is or has a chip on his shoulder because no girl ever told him he was attractive.

 

 

You need to work on that. You need to stop dwelling on looks as a reason for not getting love. Just the fact that you post such negativity is proof alone at why you don't have love in your life. You are what you attract. Simple as that. You attract what you are. It's the law of attraction. If you are negative about your looks, negative about never having love, then you will not be able to attract love.

 

 

You need to work on your self esteem, your confidence, your love for yourself... honestly. That is what you need to do, you probably are attractive, but you probably don't appear attractive because of your thoughts about yourself, and your lack of love.

 

 

If you want to gather opinions of your looks, start asking people “Do you think I'm attractive?” But, that is not the answer, but if you want an opinion on that you could do that. The real answer to finding love is to love yourself. We all have something to love about ourselves. But if you prefer to be negative and hold onto that negativity all you will get is people who feel sorry for you or people who try to help you out. It's so much better if you want love to love yourself first though, and that's the best answer I can give you.

[HeartShineGirl]

I have no idea how I look.

 

Sometimes I can look in the mirror, and think I look great. But then if I look at a reflection of the reflection of myself in another mirror, so I'm seeing a flip image of myself (how other people would see me), my face suddenly looks distorted and I look awful.

 

Also, on photo's I can look like a totally different person from one photo to another. On some photo's I'll think I look very attractive, and on others I think I look really ugly and dweeby.

 

I've been told that I'm good looking, but I've also been told that I'm ugly.

 

I just wish I knew what to think.

 

You are a lot like me. You have some very genuinely nice features to look at, and thus you can see those features accentuated in some poses in photos and love those photos. On the flip side you have some features that are just sorta "okay" and in your eyes especially you will be critical of those. They're not "ugly" but because our eyes are looking for the "best" in ourselves when we look at ourselves (as we are hypercritical of our own faces) then we will criticize or be critical of what we see.

 

I personally know that I am just average, however you wanna say it, I am not a super model though I have a lot of attractive features that "other people" admire when they see me, thus I sort of cast a spell on them with those features and it is that "casting of magic" that we do when we "charm" others with our good looks.

 

Look at how we feel when we look at the most beautiful super models in the world. It's like we are instantly buzzing because of their beauty, just like a magical spell put on us, and we are like "WOW" right?

 

That is the magic that is happening when a person has their features so in proportion our minds tingle with excitement at what we see and admire.

 

Okay so we have (you and I) some features which other people like and will attract others. By the way a lot of people have such features. Ever see a person who you would not find attractive whatsoever talk to you and you hear the most sexy voice you ever heard in your life and WHAMO you are hooked and interested in knowing her more? This is what I am trying to say.... there is always some "things" about us people like.

 

So, remember that when you look at a photo of you that you don't like. You are seeing the things you don't like about yourself since the features you do like are not showing through, and the features could be anything you chose.

 

When I look at your photo I am immediately drawn to the endearing quality of your lower face. I mean your chin, lips and smile. I see lovely features there. I am not drawn to your hairstyle, or hair color (though It's not to say that it's not perfectly fine, it's just I prefer longer hair on men and curly dark hair the best - imagine Antonio Banderas) okay so I am not drawn to that part of you.

 

But, someone else might be.

 

Let me tell you about me.

 

I do not have flawless skin, and I do not have perfectly balanced features. My eyes are not very big and they are probably too close together and I wear glasses. My features might appear "Jewish" looking to some people. My neck tends to do like a double chin type look even if I am skinny. I have blue eyes that look green. I have a crooked jaw, it's slight but I notice it when I look at my face, and so did my orthodontist when I first got braces. I have an amazing smile. I also have a very sexy voice (thats what I am told- I don't hear it) . I have a tan, and I have long hair that is naturally wavy, it's a combination of light brown and bright blonde highlights, it's naturally 'dirty blonde" so the colors are multifaceted I guess you could say. I have a proportioned body and some people say I am pretty and some people say I am beautiful and some people have said "she's ugly" referring to me...so.... what do I care what they think? It's what I think that matters. It's do I love myself, and do I try my best to look good and I do feel comfortable in my own skin?

 

It doesn't matter if a lot of people tell me I'm beautiful, or if anyone tells me they think that I'm ugly. I know what I see when I look in the mirror and I see an average person who has a lot of flaws and also a lot of charming qualities. Of course I wish I was beautiful to everyone, don't we all... but I see a human with a big heart and that is what I know of myself. And, beauty is on the inside. Isn't it?

 

That's all that matters.... is how we feel, if we are happy and what the people who love us think.

Edited May 8, 2011 by HeartShineGirl

[PollyIvy]

You are so right. I look in the mirror, and I see attractive. I like my face and my figure.

But I see this too: old.

Old feels bad. I have got to stop that voice in my head "you're getting old..."

I think I also have to change the lighting in my bathroom... ;-)

[HeartShineGirl]

You are so right. I look in the mirror, and I see attractive. I like my face and my figure.

But I see this too: old.

Old feels bad. I have got to stop that voice in my head "you're getting old..."

I think I also have to change the lighting in my bathroom... ;-)

 

Everyone ages, what you should be thinking is "Wow, I look great for my age!"

By the way... old is relative. That means, you are younger to some people, and considered "youthful" still. Remember that? Think of everyone who is 10 years older than you?

 

Also.... since age is inevitable, and we are all going to age, you must learn to love yourself and all your wrinkles, lines and flaws... remember your skin is aging, and the best thing you can do for it is eat healthy, eat less... and do some type of exercise. Yoga or swimming perhaps.

 

Don't buy into the collagen lotions like I did, collagen is too "fat" to be absorbed, it just sits on the surface and doesn't really do anything. The moisturizers are good but not worth THAT astronomical price.

 

I recommend going to a health store and purchasing virgin coconut oil and using that as an all over body moisturizer. You can take it internally or rub it all over your body. It's amazing both ways though I hear internally is far superior, I've been using it on the outside, and since I use the only jar I have for the outside, and stick my fingers into it, I wont eat from that same jar, but I do plan to go back and get myself another jar soon for consumption.

 

Remember, the way you talk, the way you walk, the way you smile, the way you smell... these are all extra add-ons to make us beautiful. We have a lot we can work on to improve our over-all attractiveness. Not to mention how we dress.

 

So, age as gracefully as you can and love yourself every day. Yes, and please stop saying anything negative when you look into the mirror.

[Livin Lrge]

I think your Hot

[Livin Lrge]

Everyone has a different eye for beauty. I'm not everyone's cup of tea either, to some I look like a troll.

 

Just be happy with how you look, and everything will come into place eventually.

 

 

I Think your Hot

[HeartShineGirl]

I Think your Hot

 

 

I agree, Rinnix is a very pretty lady.

[PollyIvy]

Oooo I'm gonna get some virgin coconut oil! My skin is dry as a bone. But since my H doesn't love me anymore and we are splitting up, I'm also getting a little laser treatment done on my face....