timwagner Posted May 7, 2011 Share Posted May 7, 2011 (edited) I had a 10 months long distance relationship (only 500 miles) and we had a amazing time together, never really having serious fights. she was all over me, and so I was all over hers. One months ago she started to doubt about her feelings; she became edgy sometimes and said I am too pushy. After me asking, she finally admitted her feelings were not strong enough to commit, even though she likes me a lot. After some discussion about it, we decided to break up without fight. This was also the moment she moved to another city for a totally new job. Now one week later, having no contact at all, she suddenly emails me "just to inform" me the job is great and the colleagues nice, and she ends asking how I am. I answered back a couple of hours later to tell her I am happy she is doing well in her new job - keeping it short. What should I think now ? Is she coming back on here decision ? Should I keep the distance for longer and let her settle on her new job first? Edited May 7, 2011 by timwagner Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted May 7, 2011 Share Posted May 7, 2011 It sounds like she misses you. I cant speak for everyone in an LDR but I think its common for people in them to doubt their relationship regardless of how much they love the person. Its just a hard situation having limited physical contact with someone you are crazy about. My guess is her feelings didnt change for you but maybe for the situation and she needed some time to think. Just be nice to her and talk to her like a friend and dont bring up anything about your relationship. Let her do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author timwagner Posted May 8, 2011 Author Share Posted May 8, 2011 Thanks for the reply. I never thought about this. As an active person, she could handle well the long periods of not seeing each other, but when together she repeatedly emphasized how much she misses the physical contact. After my short but supportive, reply to her she immediately answered shortly I should take care too. Should I wait for her now to contact me again ? I have the feeling a couple of weeks of no contact between us is not bad now so I am not anxious to contact her right now. Or is this a wrong signal ? Link to post Share on other sites
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