actingup Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 I am a 40 yrs old my husband and I are separated for 11 months now, he currently in a re-hab. I just started an affair with a 23 yrs old kid I work with, he is currently in a relationship and his girlfriend is 8 months pregnant. I am also pregnant with his child! I am stuck, I dont want to end my relationship with this young man, I can trully see us having a long term relationship. I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore, perhaps if he would get sober... I dont know Please someone I need help!!! Link to post Share on other sites
krbshappy71 Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 Do you have any other children? Link to post Share on other sites
Velveteel Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 Wow. That's a hard one. The odds aren't great for you and the 23 year old, but stranger things have happened. And does your husband know you've been dating during the separation? If you keep this child, it sounds like you are entering a new life, whether you really want to or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Sundaymorning Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 DId yall see this kid has TWO women pregnant!??! Lady, I think you are not thinking straight. You cannot have a long term relationship with this guy- HE HAS A GF AND SHE IS PREGNANT WITH HIS KID TOO. I think we cannot help you. I think you need counseling. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 DId yall see this kid has TWO women pregnant!??! Are we sure it's only two? Those are just the ones we know about!! Actingup, the young guy is NOT a long term guy for you. Unless you want a lot of cheating and unexpected children popping up for the foreseeable future. And I'm really sorry about your husband. I don't know the chances of him actually getting and staying sober, and I wouldn't recommend having a life with him unless he is. So you have no acceptable man in sight, and a baby on the way. Ouch. Well, the options are terminating the pregnancy, adoption, or rearing the child yourself. Have you considered these possibilities? Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 None of those options are easy either. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 Originally posted by krbshappy71 Do you have any other children? This is a good question. We know about him, it seems, but not her in this respect. I hear a first pregnancy when you're 40 is not necessarily as easy physically as at a younger age. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 The guy at work is just a child relative to you. He could be your son for heaven's sake. What kind of future do you see in that. And in 15 or 20 years, he will see you as old and drop you like a hot potato in favor of some young chick. Wise up...or get your doctor to get you off your current medication. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 JER-RY. JER-RY. JER-RY. JER-RY. Link to post Share on other sites
actingup Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 Originally posted by actingup I am a 40 yrs old my husband and I are separated for 11 months now, he currently in a re-hab. I just started an affair with a 23 yrs old kid I work with, he is currently in a relationship and his girlfriend is 8 months pregnant. I am also pregnant with his child! I am stuck, I dont want to end my relationship with this young man, I can trully see us having a long term relationship. I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore, perhaps if he would get sober... I dont know Please someone I need help!!! I dont have any children, Link to post Share on other sites
swtbonita Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 Did you use any protection or did you want a child? Link to post Share on other sites
Karlise Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 It sounds like you were lonely, in a bad situation and made some careless decisions. That said, you have to face reality and take at a look at your options. First off, will you keep the baby? You may choose to give the child up if you cannot adequately care for the baby or if the 23-yr-old BF is not ready to be a father. That is certainly a noble gesture; many infertile couples would love to have a baby given to them. If you have decided you are keeping the baby no matter what, I'd make sure you get proof of paternity the minute the child is born. You want to make sure the biological father keeps up with his financial obligations. I have no idea how deep into this relationship either of you are: you mention he has a girlfriend? So he obviously thinks cheating is OK. I hate to break it to you, but most cheaters continue to cheat. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Originally posted by SoleMate Well, the options are terminating the pregnancy, adoption, or rearing the child yourself. Have you considered these possibilities? I think this pretty well sums up the options available to you. Link to post Share on other sites
dontwannaregister Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Since you dont have any children, then, I believe you would like to keep this child But just dont exepct that you and the 23 year old would have a future together, this kind of thinking sure is STUPID! or the STUPIDEST! "I can truely see us having a long term relationship" this idea lowers your IQ to zero! You didnt meet a decent guy, you meet a scumbag who's messing around while his g/f is carrying his child. If your husband is willing to accept this child, then, great, work things out wiht him. if he is not,and the separation is leading a divorce, then, get ready to be a single mom. and I dont believe this is a rich kid, I doubt you will be able to get much child support from him since he is having another child at the same time. Having parents like this is a shame! being born like this is unfortunate! I feel sorry for the children! Link to post Share on other sites
mintjulep Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Originally posted by dontwannaregister Since you dont have any children, then, I believe you would like to keep this child whoa...unless she doesn't have children for a reason. I had to call out the blatant assumption and knock it down as an unacceptable form of "advice" along with the rest of that highly opinionated and, I might add stupid post - sorry I don't have any helpful words, actingup, but I believe they've all been said. Sometimes people on the internet just suck. I guess they're chicken, too - or they would register. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Indeed your baby will have a future with you or somebody else but I don't see you will have one with a 23-year old "kid" as you may think. Link to post Share on other sites
GetOverYourself Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 no way you have a future with this guy the age curve will increase, when is young man of 33 you will be a rapidly aging 50 - the age difference will become even creepier than it already is and you will be the oldest of all the mommies at mommy and me yuck Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 I am stuck, I dont want to end my relationship with this young man, I can trully see us having a long term relationship So could his gf, in which when all said and done he will be with neither of you two. You need to focus on this baby right now and truly IMO I hope you don't abort it. If you can't take care of it then please put it up for adoption. Don't make killing an innocent baby another problem on top of what you have so far. If you are not in love with your husband anymore then don't abort because you want to keep this a secret from him. Start working on improving your own happiness in life. You were looking for something that you were missing in your husband, but what you really found was just a horny 23 year old with no care about responsibilities. No need to bash you what has happened. You live it everyday. It's time to start to pull yourself together and get yourself situated on living life for you and your child. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 Why are we responding to a post that has been dead for almost a year?!?!?! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 Kinda makes you wonder what happened. Did she have the baby? Is she single? Did she get back with her ex? Was this all a hoax? Do the babies play together? I understand people stop by and leave all the time, but I wish sometimes they would come back and let us know if anything that was said here made any kind of impact on their lives and what the outcome of their problem or issue was. Its none of our business, really, but they come here for a while and make us curious! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 Why are we responding to a post that has been dead for almost a year?!?!?! Because people see the month and don't bother to look at the year. Or else everyone has collectively forgotten that we are now in 2005. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 Isn't it funny that a man can "be pregnant" with two women at the same time, but a woman can't be pregnant with two men at a time? Good that we're still trying to convince her to (not) keep the baby! The baby is at college already. (if born) Link to post Share on other sites
Jonny Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 Listen people. Condoms are good. They do actually exist. Consoms aren't some conspiracy to sell more latex. Please please PLEASE use them. I just don't get it, why on earth did you think you would NOT get pregnant? Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 You're 40 years old you should know better than to engage in an affair with a 23 yearold kid. Link to post Share on other sites
kkat Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 It's funny that we are posting to this year old post on the day of Mary Kay LeTourneau's wedding to her child student boyfriend.... Link to post Share on other sites
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