Why Do Men Run ? Is It Me? Should I Contact Him ?

[juju]

so i saw this guy for about 2 months, we were starting to get close, we were very similar and he made me want to be a better girlfriend and treat him right and he did the same for me. BUT there were issues such as age that made us worry. he said he believed i was his true love. he took a trip and when he came back everything was fine, about 3 days later he started avoiding me, i asked him if his feelings were changing and he said it was the opposite, that he liked me alot and it was scaring him because of the age factor and the fact that he would be leaving the country for 2 months, so he pretty much ran away and wont even see me anymore or return my belongings.. he wouldnt see me on the night we broke up because he said he was scared. ive noticed he has the tendancy to run from problems and would rather get over it than work it out. i feel discarded though.if he still had feelings for me i dont understand why he ran away? >? i still would like to date him again maybe in the future or even persue him when he gets home after his 2 month trip, good or bad idea?? should i let it go? or a second chance maybe in the future?

[reasontosigh]

How big of an age difference are we talking here? Just wondering.

 

...ive noticed he has the tendancy to run from problems and would rather get over it than work it out. i feel discarded though.if he still had feelings for me i dont understand why he ran away? ....

 

Some people are simply like that, for any number of reasons. I can understand why you would feel that way, however, and it does suck.

 

.....i still would like to date him again maybe in the future or even persue him when he gets home after his 2 month trip, good or bad idea?? .....

 

Pursuing him is definitely not a good idea. If there's going to be another chance later on it will have to come from him, though to be honest, I wouldn't bet on it. He's got issues, to be sure, and I don't think he's going to be sorting them out while he's gone.

[juju]

yea ur right to ask he was 15 years my elder. and im only 19. but it never bothered him until he came back from that trip?? i think someone made a comment to him>>?

[reasontosigh]

Could be.

 

Then again, there is a world of difference between 19 and 34. Age may be just a number, but I think it's more of a question of life experience here. Whether someone pointed it out to him or he figured that out on his own, he's still feeling some pangs of conscience here. Thats the vibe I'm getting, anyway.

 

Best thing to do at this point would be to move on with your life. If he wants to pick up again when he gets back, that's one thing. But like I said before, it's really something I would not count on.