Boyfriend treats me differently! Is it normal?

[jenko]

I have a great boyfriend, I know I do but he used to be more affectionate and even more caring. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years and broke up for six months after that. When he came back to me he tried so hard to make me feel secure, but after 1 year he gradually stopped caring as much. It seems like he never get jealous of other guys talking to me anymore and he keeps saying that he doesn't feel motivated in life. From what he says is that he wants to give me more, but I don't believe him.

 

I know I have a lot of issues I need to work on like being insecure and not believing him when he tells me he loves me. I know he loves me but I'm so paranoid, and i don't know why. I know that when people are in relationships for a long time the passion start disappearing... but is that normal?

 

& he's stopped doing really sweet things like he used to, but lately he's been worried about his ticket and money related problems. I tell him that I am willing to help him because he's done everything for me in th past but he says he doesn't want my help.

 

Do men act differently when money is tight/not motivated OR when a realtionship is boring.

 

Please help!! Thank you.

[VicJay79]

Jenko,

 

There are a couple issues

 

1. Your insecurities in terms of being loved or not. Trust me, as a man I have this same problem. If I don't get enough calls, or enough attention I feel the person doesn't love me.

 

2. Its hard to do things romantic when your BROKE! Also as a man, its not really an awesome feeling when your girlfriend has to help out in this area.

 

3. Breakups are hard.... Maybe there is some hurt there as well.

 

The problem you need to focus on is #1. You are not alone Jenko. Many of us have this problem and it sucks! It could be related to fears of abandonment.

 

 

I have a great boyfriend, I know I do but he used to be more affectionate and even more caring. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years and broke up for six months after that. When he came back to me he tried so hard to make me feel secure, but after 1 year he gradually stopped caring as much. It seems like he never get jealous of other guys talking to me anymore and he keeps saying that he doesn't feel motivated in life. From what he says is that he wants to give me more, but I don't believe him.

 

I know I have a lot of issues I need to work on like being insecure and not believing him when he tells me he loves me. I know he loves me but I'm so paranoid, and i don't know why. I know that when people are in relationships for a long time the passion start disappearing... but is that normal?

 

& he's stopped doing really sweet things like he used to, but lately he's been worried about his ticket and money related problems. I tell him that I am willing to help him because he's done everything for me in th past but he says he doesn't want my help.

 

Do men act differently when money is tight/not motivated OR when a realtionship is boring.

 

Please help!! Thank you.