DreamerGirl27 Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 I honestly don't think you can. I've had few crushes in my life. I've most certainly never been in love, or at least love that's requited, and that's sad to say at 26. I'm sort of in love with a friend, but he's taking so long to get wise and realize the greatness that's right in front of him, that that's slowly fading. But... out of the few crushes I have had, or guys that I have liked, it's always only one guy at a time and I don't get over the guy until I find someone new to crush on. With that being said, after this guy, I haven't found anyone new. It's been about a year and a half since I started talking to him and about 2 years since I laid eyes on him and I haven't found anyone else I like in those entire 2 years. I feel like I can't like anyone anymore. I'm just spent. Like, I have no more love to give, because it's always ALWAYS not reciprocated. I liked 2 guys before him at separate times. I had a huge crush on this guy in high school. That went nowhere. I liked him for about 6 years until I finally gave up. Then, I met this other guy and liked him for about 3 years, which is the only thing that got me over the first. (Any guys before high school I don't count, because I don't even remember and feel I was too young to like anyone, so it didn't matter). Anyway, the guy that I liked in between my high school crush and my crush now lasted for about 3 years, that went nowhere as well, so I finally gave up on him, but the only thing that made me able to do so, was meeting my now friend. With him, at least I have his friendship. I don't even have the friendship of the first 2 guys. When I say friends, I mean, someone you can hang out with and talk to on a very personal level (and won't ignore you when you try to do so). Not just another number on your facebook account. Anyway. Since my friend has gotten me over my past crush, I haven't found anyone else. I'm at a point where I literally do not like ANYONE. Needless to say, since I haven't found anyone else, I'm still not over my current crush and I've liked him for almost 2 years. Maybe I just don't like people in general very much. I have a really hard time liking guys. Are any other girls like this? Link to post Share on other sites
Irishlove Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Not in love, but like Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Taylor Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Infatuation and like maybe, but not love. You think Osama loved all 9 of his wives? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 I'm seeing a pattern where you get stuck on a guy who doesn't like you. Being in an unrequited love situation for two years is way too long. I'd say that you are just torturing yourself. Give up on this guy. Don't spend more than a few months on them hopeing that they will "get wise and realize the greatness that's right in front of him." It might also be a good idea to think about why these guys are turning you down. Dating isn't exactly hard for a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
OldSkool Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Can you love more than one child? If not, better have only one! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 I'm seeing a pattern where you get stuck on a guy who doesn't like you. Being in an unrequited love situation for two years is way too long. I'd say that you are just torturing yourself. Give up on this guy. Don't spend more than a few months on them hopeing that they will "get wise and realize the greatness that's right in front of him." It might also be a good idea to think about why these guys are turning you down. Dating isn't exactly hard for a woman. That's where you're wrong, somedude. Dating is extremely hard for women because men don't play the game of love, they play the game of sex and if you're a woman not looking for sex, you'll have a really difficult time. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 That's where you're wrong, somedude. Dating is extremely hard for women because men don't play the game of love, they play the game of sex and if you're a woman not looking for sex, you'll have a really difficult time. No girl, you're dreaming The men you are attracted to are looking for sex. But you're not even noticing all the guys out there that are dying to be in a relationship. I'll just quote myself "It might also be a good idea to think about why these guys are turning you down." How are these guys similar, what do they all have in common? How do they see you? Are you finding any patterns? There are more questions to ask yourself. I believe that you can easily date a quality man but you are holding yourself back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 12, 2011 Author Share Posted May 12, 2011 No girl, you're dreaming The men you are attracted to are looking for sex. But you're not even noticing all the guys out there that are dying to be in a relationship. I'll just quote myself "It might also be a good idea to think about why these guys are turning you down." How are these guys similar, what do they all have in common? How do they see you? Are you finding any patterns? There are more questions to ask yourself. I believe that you can easily date a quality man but you are holding yourself back. I don't even know any guys that wanna date me that I'm not interested in. To be completely honest. I haven't met anyone new in awhile. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 12, 2011 Author Share Posted May 12, 2011 Disinterested and OldSkool... seeing as you're not "in love" with ice cream, you may "love" ice cream, but you can't be "in love" with it, the same goes for your children, this seems to be a moot point. Please don't respond to my posts with sarcastic answers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 12, 2011 Author Share Posted May 12, 2011 No girl, you're dreaming The men you are attracted to are looking for sex. But you're not even noticing all the guys out there that are dying to be in a relationship. I'll just quote myself "It might also be a good idea to think about why these guys are turning you down." How are these guys similar, what do they all have in common? How do they see you? Are you finding any patterns? There are more questions to ask yourself. I believe that you can easily date a quality man but you are holding yourself back. Somedude, none of the guys I like have anything in common and to be completely honest, I've only ever liked one guy that I actually care about. The rest of the guys I have moved on from, I can't move on from this one, he's too special. I don't see him as turning me down because he is still around. A guy who really doesn't like you, will not stick around as your "friend" if he truly wasn't interested. I'll probably wind up with him at some point in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
SteveC80 Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 (edited) Yes.. While i think love is a commercialized made up word i think its naive to beleive in soulmates and that the person you are in "love" with is the only person in the whole world filled with billions of people that you could possibly form a extremely deep bond with physically and emotionally.. Edited May 12, 2011 by SteveC80 Link to post Share on other sites
OldSkool Posted May 13, 2011 Share Posted May 13, 2011 Disinterested and OldSkool... seeing as you're not "in love" with ice cream, you may "love" ice cream, but you can't be "in love" with it, the same goes for your children, this seems to be a moot point. Please don't respond to my posts with sarcastic answers. DG27: I actually do respect your opinion. That being said, any parent who is not "in love" with their children is NOT worthy of the Responsibility of raising an innocent child! No sarcasm here... Link to post Share on other sites
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