princess xena Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 Im new here, and looking for opinions. Heres my story. I have a true fwb, we talk about everything, from fantasies to money to who we are currently dating. We also hook up for amazing sex whenever we can. This has worked well for both of us for over 2 years. I have even fufilled his fantasy of a threesome with one of my friends. The problem? Recently he ran into some hard times, and I loaned him money. Now he is ignoring my texts. I do not expect or need this money back. Should I back off or keep trying? I really want to keep this guy, he is an amazing fwb. Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 Im new here, and looking for opinions. Heres my story. I have a true fwb, we talk about everything, from fantasies to money to who we are currently dating. We also hook up for amazing sex whenever we can. This has worked well for both of us for over 2 years. I have even fufilled his fantasy of a threesome with one of my friends. The problem? Recently he ran into some hard times, and I loaned him money. Now he is ignoring my texts. I do not expect or need this money back. Should I back off or keep trying? I really want to keep this guy, he is an amazing fwb. Back off until he comes sniffing around again. And then have him explain to you where he went. If it doesn't fly with you (and you will know whether it does or not), then cut him loose. Link to post Share on other sites
Livelovelearn Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 im in a similar situation..but it hasnt been two years more like 4 -5 months..and the reason for his disappearance is that he felt i was getting to attached i guess and got scared..as for your boy..i think you complicated things by caring and giving him money...i would suggest another time for you to not give money because it just complicates things..given what other people have said about fwb its not that serious and hardly ever gets serious..but i would suggest if you really do like him step back and let him contact you..my dude hasnt contacted me in two weeks so i take it as hes not interested and im moving on..i realize im a great catch and a beautiful woman..life is too short to wait on just one man... Link to post Share on other sites
Author princess xena Posted May 12, 2011 Author Share Posted May 12, 2011 Thanks, you both have pretty much confirmed what I was thinking. Its a shame though, I would have helped any of my friends the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 Consider the money a gift and let him know you don't expect it back, if you want to go back to FWB. Then make note that any money you give him in the future is a gift, not a loan so you might decide, for instance, not to give him money in the future. Or cut him loose. If he wants to lose great sex over bad debt, that's his call. Basically, it's the stealing that's made him run away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author princess xena Posted May 12, 2011 Author Share Posted May 12, 2011 Betterdeal......thats the heart of it isnt it? Now he feels weird because of money. I never expected any repayment, saw it as helping a friend. You are right though, if he lets money ruin the friendship, its his loss. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 And your gain ... now you have free time to have even better sex with someone else! Link to post Share on other sites
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