To Invite Or Not To Invite?

[Art_Critic]

This is a great idea! If you want to cut cost by not having it catered, finger sandwiches, loaves and other types of goodies, can be premade, frozen and then defrosted.

 

Edit - The Safeway grocers where I live, do sandwich and other types of trays for pickup. Don't know if it's the same where you live.

 

Yeah.. I think is is a great idea too.....

You aren't being cheap.. just spending in with what you guys can afford..

 

One thing to remember Pyro is nobody wishes years later that they wished they had spent more money on a wedding...

[Pyro]

THAT is a good, and cost effective idea ! Now since the catering company will factor in how many people you can invite, and you want to fit in as many as possible, don't forget that good friends or family members will be happy to contribute some of their favorite dishes.

 

We rented a condo clubhouse for my mom's 60th and though it was catered, many of us made extra stuff : I made a HUGE sushi platter.

 

Also, ask a close relative if their gift to you could be supplying the wine and beer. Then that's covered as well = being able to invite more people !

 

Good luck, VERY exciting ! ( if you two ever want to visit the disney parks in Florida, I'm buying a place an hour away, a few minutes to the beach, and you're officially invited to stay in the guest room !)

 

not a bad idea to see if some of the family wants to bring a dish or two to add.

 

Thanks for the invite. We will keep it in mind.

 

Would it be possible to have a sit down meal after the wedding, just for family and the bridal party...then have an evening reception in a function suite somewhere? Some places will lay on nibbles for free as long as they know there's going to be a good crowd there buying drinks.

 

I can't say that there is a place like that around here that I know of. Time is getting so close that I most likely wouldn't have time to investigate.

 

This is a great idea! If you want to cut cost by not having it catered, finger sandwiches, loaves and other types of goodies, can be premade, frozen and then defrosted.

 

Edit - The Safeway grocers where I live, do sandwich and other types of trays for pickup. Don't know if it's the same where you live.

 

I think we are about the only place in the free world that does not have a safeway.

 

For those of you who's green card radar starts whooping, Australia is not an economically depressed country. If anything, it's actually a better country to live in than the U.S., no offense intended to patriotic Americans.

 

We have discussed moving over there once we start a family. I am willing to bet that their education system is much better than ours here.

 

Yeah.. I think is is a great idea too.....

You aren't being cheap.. just spending in with what you guys can afford..

 

One thing to remember Pyro is nobody wishes years later that they wished they had spent more money on a wedding...

 

Ideally we wanted to get a nice hall where we could've invited everyone on the list and have dancing and the open bar, but I am just fine with how things are turning out.

 

I never thought people had to get married to get the green card. Must be Creig Ferguson married an American woman then.

 

it may be different with our situation since there is a fiance visa involved.

[Citizen Erased]

For those of you who's green card radar starts whooping, Australia is not an economically depressed country. If anything, it's actually a better country to live in than the U.S., no offense intended to patriotic Americans.

 

Thanks TBF. I am prepared for the ignorant few that will assume I'm doingthis for a greencard. It's actually kinda funny, Sydney is frequently named as one of the best places in the world to live. And it really is, I'll miss it a lot. Unfortunately for me Pyro isn't here so it won't do.

[Citizen Erased]

Yeah.. I think is is a great idea too.....

You aren't being cheap.. just spending in with what you guys can afford..

 

One thing to remember Pyro is nobody wishes years later that they wished they had spent more money on a wedding...

 

I think we will be fine with the catering, we have a bit to spend, just not 10k to shell out or whatever. That was a more important thing to do together I think.

 

We actually spent quite a bit of money on Pyro's trip to Sydney. We had an amazing time and it was worth it.

 

Plus, I hate dancing. No dancing, woo!!

[Pyro]

I think we will be fine with the catering, we have a bit to spend, just not 10k to shell out or whatever. That was a more important thing to do together I think.

 

We actually spent quite a bit of money on Pyro's trip to Sydney. We had an amazing time and it was worth it.

 

Plus, I hate dancing. No dancing, woo!!

 

except the horizontal dance.

[allina]

I'm bummed that it won't be in Vegas

[laRubiaBonita]

in all honesty the few wedding and receptions that were the most memorable were also the simplest.

 

one was just a basic "old school" reception, in the church's reception hall and we had punch, wedding cake, and pretty candies and cookies. we mingled wish the bride and groom well and that was that.

 

 

i have been to the massive and impressive receptions- and yes they are nice, but i would rather be where i can mingle and chat wiith the bride and groom rather than be placed at a table across the room.

[Star Gazer]

I'm bummed that it won't be in Vegas

 

Me too.....

[Pyro]

I'm bummed that it won't be in Vegas

 

Me too.....

 

we'll let you both know when we visit there:)

[Pyro]

We were able to find a caterer with an unbelievable low price. Once CE moves here we are going to try some of the food.

 

As for the guest list, that is finally finished.

 

62 people will be invited: 35 friends and 27 family members.

 

We are both very happy with how things have turned around in the past couple of days.

[Art_Critic]

Hurray.......

 

I'll bet you feel better...

[Pyro]

to say the least.......

[Fugu]

It's getting down to the nitty gritty friends and we still have a few things to figure out and one of them is if we should invite certain people.

 

One thing that we do lack for the wedding is money and because of that we have done the best with what we can afford. We have selected a very nice place for the ceremony and that is pretty much where we stand.

 

Because of the money situation we can not afford to have an official reception (dinner for all, open bar, DJ, dancing, etc.) at this time. The plan is to have one when we have enough money saved ( for our one year anniversary has been suggested). Our plan for after the ceremony is to have a dinner of some sort for the wedding party and family.

 

Unfortunately we will not be able to afford dinner for our friends and this is where I would like some opinions. Since we can't afford to feed our friends should we even invite them to the wedding? I am concerned that by not inviting them they may be offended that I haven't included them on our special day but by inviting them and not feeding them they may be offended by that as well.

 

Put you and your SO in our shoes and share what you would do.

 

You run the risk of pissing people off no matter what you do. Simply getting married in the first place might even piss them off on some level. Make your own decisions for the right reasons and let others react however they wish. Weddings/marriages are weird...they surprisingly bring out the shyt side of people. Hopefully, you'll luck out and not have those experiences, but brace for them anyway. Good luck.