Starnette83 Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 Hi ... I have been dating my bf for almost 4 years, I love him alot but we have had arguments which have made us have a few 2-3 day split ups or one that was for a month. Anyway I love him alot but i dont think im really that happy anymore, im just attached to him and unable to let go just because hes my first love, but the truth is that no matter what I just dont trust him because of lil things hes done to me- like talked to girls online, on phone, told me that he was curious to be with another person, told me he wouldnt be able to marry me cos that would wind up on cheating, and its all due to his lack of experience, im his first love too, and we have both had sex only with eachother...is moving on my only solution? by the way im 21 and hes 20. Link to post Share on other sites
Crys0369 Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 I think you already know what you need to do. You said it yourself. You don't think you're really happy anymore. Think about it, you're young. And you're probably just use to having his company rather than being satisfied with him. I think that yall should take a break, a real one. Not just a 2 day break. Have no contact with him for a good while and by then you will either move on, or realize he's someone you really want to have in your life. It's hard to let go, but sometimes it's what you need to move on... Link to post Share on other sites
lynnedays Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 I hate to agree, and I know you probably wont' do it for awhile yet...but breaking up (notice not the "taking a break") is a good idea. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now... I am 22 now and he is 24. I was in the same situation as you. He is my first love. Finally, I just felt unahppy and some of the things he had said in the past really hung me up. Not cruel things, just not things that I imagined the love of my life would say/think. I wasn't sure what I wanted anymore...if he was the one for me. It was so hard but I felt like maybe I wans't even in love with him anymore. We broke up. Not a horrible breakup... just decided we needed to take a break but then also realized that would never work (because in the back of your mind you know your getting back together--it cancels out any good the break could do) and made it a true "break up". We could date other people and we wouldn't talk/see/communicate with each other at all for at least a month. This wasn't a knock down drag out bad breakup. It was painful, but both of us decided either way evenutally we wouldn't want to lose the friendship. A month went by, and it was so hard, and more time went by.. but you know hwat... we realized through no contact, and a true breakup, that what we wanted really was each other. It could have ended the other way too-- but either way it was something we both had to figure out. Better then than another 3 years later. I"m much happier now..and I think so is he. We know for sure that we want each other... and things are just better now--less confusing--and i'm not stuck up at night anaylizing and wondering. Thats my advise. I just feel like we were in like situations. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 I've never gotten over the end of my first true love, so the only advice I can give you is try and do it as amicably as possible so that you can still remain friends. I have no idea where she is now, but I would love to be friends with her. Anyway, best of luck Cheers, A.G. Link to post Share on other sites
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