He's just like me and I'm happy no matter how it turns out !!

[Owl]

I won't feed this one (or this version) either.

[vweb1218]

As my bestie says "seems like most everyone on here is scorn woman".. I hate to say I'm starting to agree with her..

 

I want support and not people who call my MM a liar and a drunk. Or people who think it is unrealistic that I could end up with him. People leave their spouses all the time, divorce rate is over 50 %. I know of several people who had affairs and "stole" the man away and ended up happy. Jesus the boy is a newlywed and so changed and confused.

 

Why would he stay, he will be miserable forever if he does...I think and hope he cares about himself more than that.

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I hate how people on here try to say he is faking being so similar as me, how on earth or why would anyone do that. I don't even like people like that.

 

And 100 % retarded that people think I will stay around for years if he stays with her. Not a chance.. I will be there for him for sure but will for sure distance myself. As a matter of fact I am ignoring him for a while so he can figure things out. Cell phone is off and deleted the other form of our communication. Just a break though !!

 

And one more thing: I can't stand how people on here would try to say I'm not my age or that I ignore my own child or am a crappy intern.. It's one thing to comment on my A but another to try to discrace my character.

[BB07]

I swear.......I laughed out loud when you said your mm is not a liar.

Hello.........you mm lies to his wife in order to cover his ass when talking with you for 11 hrs, that's just one of many I'm sure. As to if he lies to you, that stat is probably about 95% likely but if you choose to not believe it, well good luck with that. Yep.........there are scorned women on here, yep I'm one of 'em. By the way.......I'm wiser for it and getting wiser sure hurt like hell. Oh one more thing, I don't recall one time you asking for support, you haven't asked for any, you just came here to tell your story and maybe you hoped someone would identify with it and tell you it would work out. Maybe it will, maybe it won't..........good luck with that because you are gonna need it.

 

I'm over and out.

[Mimolicious]

As my bestie says "seems like most everyone on here is scorn woman".. I hate to say I'm starting to agree with her..

 

I want support and not people who call my MM a liar and a drunk. Or people who think it is unrealistic that I could end up with him. People leave their spouses all the time, divorce rate is over 50 %. I know of several people who had affairs and "stole" the man away and ended up happy. Jesus the boy is a newlywed and so changed and confused.

 

Why would he stay, he will be miserable forever if he does...I think and hope he cares about himself more than that.

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I hate how people on here try to say he is faking being so similar as me, how on earth or why would anyone do that. I don't even like people like that.

 

And 100 % retarded that people think I will stay around for years if he stays with her. Not a chance.. I will be there for him for sure but will for sure distance myself. As a matter of fact I am ignoring him for a while so he can figure things out. Cell phone is off and deleted the other form of our communication. Just a break though !!

 

And one more thing: I can't stand how people on here would try to say I'm not my age or that I ignore my own child or am a crappy intern.. It's one thing to comment on my A but another to try to discrace my character.

 

Btw, what your bestie said.... umm... was exactly written before by another poster.

I guess cover blown!? I don't get it... take ya meds!

[greengoddess]

bestie dude chic

 

contrived...

[fooled once]

 

And 100 % retarded that people think I will stay around for years if he stays with her. Not a chance.. I will be there for him for sure but will for sure distance myself. As a matter of fact I am ignoring him for a while so he can figure things out. Cell phone is off and deleted the other form of our communication. Just a break though !!

 

As an aunt of a mentally challenged 8 year old niece, I am beyond offended by your use of the word "retarded" in your above sentence. If you are indeed 37 years old, you would know that the use of that word is beyond insulting.

 

I have reported two of your posts for calling other posters names and a few other TOS violations.

 

LS posters, if we don't feed them, they will go away. Not sure why they can't stay on their site and stop these games

[bentnotbroken]

As an aunt of a mentally challenged 8 year old niece, I am beyond offended by your use of the word "retarded" in your above sentence. If you are indeed 37 years old, you would know that the use of that word is beyond insulting.

 

I have reported two of your posts for calling other posters names and a few other TOS violations.

 

LS posters, if we don't feed them, they will go away. Not sure why they can't stay on their site and stop these games

 

 

I missed that:sick: I too find it offensive the use of the word "retarded" (I have chewed my own children's azzes off for it's use).

[vweb1218]

Mim: Have zero idea what on earth you are talking about ?? If someone else's Best friend said the same thing maybe it's true. Everyone lies at some point.. I doubt he straight out lies to his wife, she was no where around that day so she wouldn't even know if he was chatting or not, maybe she should ask him if his needs are being met?

 

Rest of you lighten up !! I have worked with special needs people in would never call any of them that. As a matter of fact I was their favorite by a long shot and cried like a baby when my assignment was up. But then again 99.9% of special needs people would NEVER be as mean or pessimistic as some of the woman on here..

 

However people on here, yeah sure I would call you that !!

[26pointblue]

Okay, whatever you say, Daisy !!

 

[With special emphasis on the double exclamation points . . . at least switch up your writing style if you are going to try to fool us. Oh & I love how you took special offense to the notion that you might be in this relationship for YEARS down the road! I didn't even notice when/ in what context it was posted but it sure seemed to jump out at you enough to deny it vehemently . . . Uh huh . . .]

[BB07]

Wonder how many other previous persona's this one has or maybe it's someone who has been booted previously. It's pretty sad that someone would go to such lengths to have their fun at the expense of people who try to help.

[Silly_Girl]

Wonder how many other previous persona's this one has or maybe it's someone who has been booted previously. It's pretty sad that someone would go to such lengths to have their fun at the expense of people who try to help.

 

But, BB, it doesn't seem to stop otherwise sensible posters jumping all over them. This thread, loads of Daisy's, couple of other 'smelly' threads, wall to wall with folk determined to make their point and make the OP see the(ir) light.

 

It's genuinely surprised me. I don't suppose it matters but I think it would be sad if genuine need for support were being marginalised as a result.

[vweb1218]

How could I be this "Daisy" person when she is on here posting on my threads !! You are really searching. Instead of thinking everyone is a Troll and insulting their stories why don't you listen or be helpful.. Your life might suck or your MM might be a Jerk but that is not so in every case !! Once again lighten up !! Some people like being the OW you know.

[leftfordead2]

How could I be this "Daisy" person when she is on here posting on my threads !! You are really searching. Instead of thinking everyone is a Troll and insulting their stories why don't you listen or be helpful.. Your life might suck or your MM might be a Jerk but that is not so in every case !! Once again lighten up !! Some people like being the OW you know.

 

Lol. ok. We know you like being the OW. No one is stopping you from being the OW. Can you explain to us the purpose of creating this thread?

You're not looking for advice. You think there's nothing wrong with your situation....so...why are you here again?

[Mimolicious]

*facepalm*....

 

I can't.... I think we should all wear our best black couture dress and mourn this one with a cocktail. *DEAD*

[Rose1977]

I know men more than you could ever imagine. I was the only female working with over 250 guys in NYC. Trust me I have seen and heard it all... Me and MM started out as friends and then realized the attraction. He is nervous around me and for one you can't fake that. Sorry that your ex is a womanizing scum bag... Not all men are like this. I am a good read on people especially the boys. Lets's just say I have never been completely wrong and stay in contact with almost every man I have dated. How dare you act as it you know my MM, he is for sure not the typical man in so many ways.

 

And he in not getting real sex from his wife hardly ever and when he does he does mention that he actually got some. He told me of her non-sexualness way before we noticed our attraction

 

A stranger!! WTF !! Did you not read my post.. I have known him for over two years !! How is that a stranger ? I am the only friend he really made all though college and the only one he stays in contact with the exception of a blond guy who's last name he just can't remember and who he chats with very rarely.

 

Plus I don't think his wife can have kids..I don't think he realizes the seriousness of her medical condition but I looked it up and it doesn't seem very safe or likely she can even have children although he thinks she can.

 

And about me hanging on for years, yeah right !! I am moving to the other side of the country in August and he knows that !!

 

Please don't lump all MM's into the same cateogory. It has been observed by a dear instructor that as it got close to the wedding time that she thinks he wanted to get out and just got to involved in the event.

 

By reading his wife's post on a popular social network, it is obvious that she is not so happy herself. Taking her married last name off the site over a month ago and whinning how she can't wait to get a full-time job because she can't stand staying at home during the day. (that's mostly when he's home)

 

Trust me they have problems. And he is not just making all this up. And we are super similar even classmates noticed and said so.

 

Is he a drinker for sure.. He is not an alcoholic but could become one if he doesn't find a better way to deal with his emotions...

 

It doesn't really matter because he is in my life for a reason !! And there is no way I'm going to break the contact until I discover why and what our connection really means.

 

And about being similar: it is usually something he mentions first that I am like OMG me too, not usually the other way around !!

 

And by the way I am grown, 37 to be exact !!

 

 

OP, you're going to do what you're going to do and if you're this happy, that is fabulous. From a BS standpoint, I can tell you that should this R invoolve a Dday, it will be DEVASTATING to the W that you not only know intimate details about her reproductive system but that you have shared that with friends who are helping you research it. I would keep that part to yourself IRL. Dealt with something similar when I was betrayed and it KILLED me that she knew about things so personal to me. She knew things some of my friends didn't know.

[Mimolicious]

OP, you're going to do what you're going to do and if you're this happy, that is fabulous. From a BS standpoint, I can tell you that should this R invoolve a Dday, it will be DEVASTATING to the W that you not only know intimate details about her reproductive system but that you have shared that with friends who are helping you research it. I would keep that part to yourself IRL. Dealt with something similar when I was betrayed and it KILLED me that she knew about things so personal to me. She knew things some of my friends didn't know.

 

 

I second that Rose. Been there! VWED, yeah do yourself the favor and don't ever admit to doing such research and knowing the deets either. I mean, besides making you look super-psycho, it is not something that you want to use against someone. It was never really your place to know. Imagine if it was done to you.

 

Also- just as a precaution method. Be careful what you ditch out to your MM. There is not a switch to turn off/on when someone has no discretion. You never know what he can be telling his male friends about you.

 

You may not think so but I am trying to look out for you. Not like I am going to lose sleep over VWEB, but while I am here posting I am. I mean that. It is a hurtful thing trying to sleep with a broken heart and you my love, are going head over heels.

 

Keep your eyes as opened as your heart.

[26pointblue]

How could I be this "Daisy" person when she is on here posting on my threads !! You are really searching. Instead of thinking everyone is a Troll and insulting their stories why don't you listen or be helpful.. Your life might suck or your MM might be a Jerk but that is not so in every case !! Once again lighten up !! Some people like being the OW you know.

 

Ummm c'mon really? You could be one person posting as two different posters in the same thread. But I know I didn't really have to spell that out for you . . .

 

My life doesn't suck & my xMM was no more of a jerk than most. Good try though. I have no problem with you being a 'happy' OW but you & Daisy if you're not one & the same, which I think you are, seem to think everyone is jealous of you or bitter when really I just feel bad for you & hope you can wake up from your delusions soon. Just like Daisy you ignore everything everyone says & then accuse us of having some issue . . . hello, look within.

[26pointblue]

*facepalm*....

 

I can't.... I think we should all wear our best black couture dress and mourn this one with a cocktail. *DEAD*

 

Ha ha Mimo you crack me up. Please pass me one of those cocktails while I go change into my little black dress.

[vweb1218]

I have and have no intention to mention anything about his wife's medical condition. He told me the name of it and a couple restrictions she has and that is all I would ever say about it. I never ever plan to talk to her anyway. Why would I ever have to.

 

If he does ever leave her, they don't have kids so why would we EVER need to speak.

 

As much as I do NOT feel she is right for him, I feel she is a sweet girl and hope she ends up happy. If I thought either one of them were in a happy relationship I'm pretty sure I would not of got this involved.

[vweb1218]

No wonder you don't like anything I say !!

I hope you rise again soon !! (honestly) not being sarcastic

I am not battered and will never be !

I am for sure not worn !

Heartbreak is a part of life that makes you stronger !

Weft and torn, well I don't know but that sure sounds bad !

 

If this is all about a man that is sad ! I have been heartbroken before, but rest of this sounds really bad and I for one LOVE myself way to much to fall into these other states.

 

Not trying to be mean like you do, but what a mess of a statement this is !! except the rise again part !

[Mimolicious]

No wonder you don't like anything I say !!

I hope you rise again soon !! (honestly) not being sarcastic

I am not battered and will never be !

I am for sure not worn !

Heartbreak is a part of life that makes you stronger !

Weft and torn, well I don't know but that sure sounds bad !

 

If this is all about a man that is sad ! I have been heartbroken before, but rest of this sounds really bad and I for one LOVE myself way to much to fall into these other states.

 

Not trying to be mean like you do, but what a mess of a statement this is !! except the rise again part !

 

VWeb, really wth is your problem? People are actually trying to have a mature conversation with you and coming from a place of knowing and you diss them with shyte like this. You see why some of us think that you are a dup?? Because you are behaving in the same manner.

 

People learn through experience. They are posting those experiences here in light of support, yet you turn around and insult them? Classic.

 

Send me a postcard sweetpea. Ciao Bella!

 

(the list goes on...)

[Mimolicious]

Ummm... I am the parent of two "special needs kids" and , if you are real, you are just about the most patronizing sack of @#$$% I have ever seen and if you acted like that round my kids, would have you butt fired so fast your head would spin.

 

BUT...

I think you are someone who is just on here trying to get a rise out of people for your own amusement. Not sure why someone would waste time doing that, but to each their own. And I suggest that you research your persona on here a bit better... stick to one, and don't constantly try to change your character to suit the different critiques that you get.

 

Sorry to TJ but I want to say- God bless your heart and much respect to you for being a parent of 2 children with special needs. Be blessed.

[26pointblue]

Wow, someone who sounds a lot more wise & stronger than you tries to give you advice & you make personal attacks against that person. What does that say about you? Look in the mirror & wise up, whoever you are! Life is not all roses & sunshine- if you look hard at yourself & try to change yourself for the better, you will see why you have no right to criticize anyone for coming through hard times.

 

No wonder you don't like anything I say !!

I hope you rise again soon !! (honestly) not being sarcastic

I am not battered and will never be !

I am for sure not worn !

Heartbreak is a part of life that makes you stronger !

Weft and torn, well I don't know but that sure sounds bad !

 

If this is all about a man that is sad ! I have been heartbroken before, but rest of this sounds really bad and I for one LOVE myself way to much to fall into these other states.

 

Not trying to be mean like you do, but what a mess of a statement this is !! except the rise again part !

[26pointblue]

Thank you... I already am very blessed... three great kids, a happy home, friends I adore, a chance to do good work for others, ( and I didn't set my lawnmower on fire today... just overheated it:laugh:)

 

I am happy for you & thank you for sharing. You have given me good, balanced advice while I was an OW & now that I'm not, so, thanks for being here & for sharing even when other people attack you.

[Lucky_One]

One small point. If you can multi-task and carry on an 11 hour conversation via text with a MM, then he, too, can be multi-tasking and doing a myriad of other things (cooking, working in the yard, having sex with his wife, taking a shower, planning a kitchen renovation with his wife, reading a book, napping with his wife, etc).

 

Another small point. Unless you are in the same location with BS, you have no idea where she is at any given time. You have zero idea of what their marriage is like. You have no idea what sort of needs she meets for him. You are clueless about her medical health and history.

 

The ONLY person you know in this triangle is yourself (and I could even argue that you are denying yourself full knowledge of your situation, but I won't); but taking a known habitual liar's word as Gospel is just foolish, especially in an EMA situation.