Do you think it's possible to be happy if you have no friends, family and single?

[J200]

About the single thing; I have decided to stay single forever (I'm 33, trust me, it's not a phase). I don't want a bf or ever get married. For one I find marriage old fashioned and don't care for it but I also just am not a believer in relationships in general. I think eventually I will get screwed over; no actually I KNOW it, so I don't bother. I don't date or talk to any guys at all.

 

I also have no friends, I mean none. Zero. I haven't talked to another female over the phone since my falling out with an ex friend which was around a year ago. I don't talk to anyone at work either; I'm a loner. Going to functions, meeting, sporting events is not going to make me "make friends" because I just can't relate to people. I am just not sociable and not into making small talk and not really interested in hearing about other people's lives and what they did over the weekend etc. It doesn't feel natural to me. I have always been a loner, even back in high school.

 

I don't really have a family. I talk to my aunt and see her when she comes to Cali but she is the only family member I talk to and she tells me about what's going on with the rest. However I cut my mom out of my life (never had a good relationship with her) and don't talk much to my dad either (he lives on another continent).

 

Is it possible to be happy like this do you think?

[Mr.Raindrop]

Sure, if you're content with living your life that way.

 

It's not a matter of what everyone else thinks about it, it's all on the individual to decide. You'll most likely have many people think its a sad, miserable, existence to live that way, but so what? Never let other people dictate how you want to spend your life. I, too, have no true friends, live alone, and am single. It doesn't bother me at all, and despite the way it sounds, I am a very happy person most of the time.

 

It's all up to you.

[thehead]

Sure, if you're content with living your life that way.

 

It's not a matter of what everyone else thinks about it, it's all on the individual to decide. You'll most likely have many people think its a sad, miserable, existence to live that way, but so what? Never let other people dictate how you want to spend your life. I, too, have no true friends, live alone, and am single. It doesn't bother me at all, and despite the way it sounds, I am a very happy person most of the time.

 

It's all up to you.

 

I 100% agree.

[Ross MwcFan]

Sure it is, if you like being that way.

[crazyd]

Excellent thread, and great question. I can partially relate to some of your situation. While there are days I wonder if something is wrong with me, I've come to accept that I am who I am; and can't force myself to be someone I'm not.

 

It is possible to be happy if that's what you really want.

[orangelady]

Yes, go for it.

[little.skittles]

Well I can certainly relate to what your saying, especially the marriage thing. It's just a piece of paper with two signatures on it. Who really cares. If I ever got married it would be strictly for health insurance.

 

I think it's definitely possible to be happy without friends or a life partner. You never have to worry about getting attached or getting hurt. If you like being alone, than you'll never feel lonely. You prefer solitude and being on your own. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Of course not all people are going to see it this way, I only understand because I'm in the same boat as you. They say women who never marry or have kids not only live longer but are less stressed than women that do marry.