Nutmeg617 Posted May 14, 2011 Share Posted May 14, 2011 I am just curious to know how many people on this forum are themselves children of divorce. And if you will share your stories, at what age did your parents divorce and how has it impacted your life? My parents are each other's second marriages, but have been happily married to each other my whole life, so I don't know what life looks like from the other perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted May 14, 2011 Share Posted May 14, 2011 My parents divorced when I was seven. I honestly don't think I'd been any better off if they had stayed together, my problems with my parents are more related to my relationships to each of them, rather than the home being broken up. The one thing that did bother me after they divorced is that my mother would bad mouth my father, and very occasionally my father would do the same. It's horrible to be trapped in between parents in that way when you are small. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted May 14, 2011 Share Posted May 14, 2011 I was somewhere around 8-9 when my parents divorced. To tell the truth it was for the best for both me and my younger sister at the time. It was one of the rare times when a young child could actually be relieved by divorce. In the end all parties involved where much healthier for it. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
UntoldStory Posted May 14, 2011 Share Posted May 14, 2011 My parents divorced when I was 8, and both remarried the year I turned 10. My stepbrothers and stepsisters on both sides were all around the same age as me and my brothers, and both my mom and my dad made huge efforts to blend the families. It was more successful on my mom's side, but I still consider all my step-siblings to be family. If my parents had stayed together, I would still have had daddy issues, because my dad is just emotionally unavailable. But he totally jumped ship emotionally on us after they divorced (my mom corroborates this; my dad still won't admit it) and bonded as quickly and completely as possible to his new wife and her daughters. It totally shaped my subsequent choices in relationships.... but more importantly, it didn't have to be that way. It wasn't divorce that was the root cause of my daddy issues. His behavior after the divorce just made it worse. FWIW, my 2 brothers are both in happy marriages - maybe because they had an opposite-sex parent (my mom is an amazingly skilled parent) who made them feel really valued. /shrug Link to post Share on other sites
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