ringo0206 Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Me and my girlfriend were going out for over a year and a half, and we both had feelings that we were meant for each other even though we were only 20 and 22. I had a smoking problem, and i don't mean cigarettes, that she didn't like, but she did do it with me sometimes. Not only did she have a problem, but so did her mom, and i was living with them. I ended up moving out, after about a year, back with my parents, since her mom didn't like my drug problem, and me and her mom stopped talking completely which put a lot of pressure on my ex and me. We were best friends for about 2 years before we started dating. Around december we broke up for a week, but we talked just about everyday and got back together. A few weeks later we broke up again, but this time i found someone a few days later, and started having sex with her right away even though i waited 5 months with the one i really loved. My ex called about 3 times for the 3 weeks that we were broke up, and i answered but wasn't very talkative. Then as i was walking through the mall with my new girlfriend, my ex came up to say hi, but we both couldn't really talk since both of our hearts stopped. I broke up with the rebound girl and told my ex the truth that i had had sex with the girl. My ex and me got back together, but i don't think that she could forget me for what i had done. For the 2 months we were together we played around but didn't have sex, which i told her didn't bother me. About 2 months after getting back together, she broke up with me for another guy. I sent her text messages but she wouldn't respond. Finally i wrote her a letter saying how special she was to me and wrote about all the things we had done. I left it in her car, and waited for her to respond. After a few hours i didn't get anything, so i took a flower and a card into her work and told her i need a response so i would know what is going on. She wrote back that "she read the letter, but we can't be friend, and that she was ready to move on". Ironically i walked right by her the next day with one of her friends. Her friend said hi to me, but she put her head down and away so she wouldn't have to look at me. I find it very hard to believe that she can completely hate me since she stayed friends with her ex, and i feel that i meant more to her then what he did, since she told me that she did have thoughts about marrying me before. After i saw her i felt so betrayed that i wasn't even worthy of a hello after all we had gone through. So i did something stupid. I called her and left a message saying she is fake and superficial, and i also said that i was the best that she could get since she said the same thing to me when we got back together after i had went out with someone. Do you think i should send her a text message saying sorry for the last thing i said to her. How long do you think it might be until she calls me to talk if she does want to talk. I really feel like she doesn't hate me, but that she's just very angry at me for what i did. It's been 3 weeks since i saw her, and my pain doesn't seem to be getting any better. I have a note that i want to send to her mom to apogolize for what happened between me and her since we were really good friends too before we went sour. Do you think i should send it, and if so, how long should i wait before i send it. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Do you think i should send her a text message saying sorry for the last thing i said to her. No, let it be, whats said is done. How long do you think it might be until she calls me to talk if she does want to talk. Weeks,months, years, never. Do you think i should send it, and if so, how long should i wait before i send it. Don't send it. If you do want to send it wait for 3 months. By then you'll be thinking much differently. Link to post Share on other sites
cantforget Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Unfortunatly I have to say it sounds like she has moved on. Dont stress about the message you sent her, we all say dumb things when we are hurt and I am sure she knows that. Text her and apologise tell her you still love her and then leave the ball in her court. If she wants you she will contact you, if not at least she wont go through life remembering those as the last words you ever said. She may never call you again and I know that hurts but if you push her then you will push her away and then you will never know if that was why she never called again. Good luck and I hope my advice has helped. Link to post Share on other sites
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