EmperorR Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Well my mom still talks to my ex, and I have not spoken to her in over 3 months, finally doing great. My mom tells me today I know you don't want to hear abut your ex, but she;'s in the hospital and may have to have emergency surgery done on her stomach, and asked me if I can follow to the hospital she lives about a hour away, and I said No. I don't hate my ex, I still care about her alot, but why should I set myself back to day 1 in seeing her, just because she's sick. No one knows the pain my ex caused me, what she did to me and I don't really feel like sharing that with my family, they want to talk to her fine, but don't expect me to go out of my way to visit my sick ex. However on one side I feel bad, I don't know if it is extremely serious it could be, I haven't felt this good in almost a year I just don't want to risk it all to be back to day 1:( Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 (edited) That's tough for your ex and you're absolutely right. You're sticking to the boundaries you've set up for yourself because you're not your ex's support anymore! That's what she gave up when she decided to end things with you. And it's great that you've accepted that how your family's acting (by keeping in touch with her, I mean) isn't anything personal against you. That choice is definitely on them. I hope the surgery goes well and I know you do, too. Does she not have other friends? Geez louise... So happy to see you're not bitter, Emperor. Your feelings of irritation at hearing about this are validated, as well. Edited May 15, 2011 by 0hpenelope Link to post Share on other sites
Author EmperorR Posted May 22, 2011 Author Share Posted May 22, 2011 (edited) Update her appendix burst and she almost died, my parents visited her in the hospital her own family did not. I guess her new clubbing friends and all the new guys she talks to didn't care to visit. I called her to see how she was doing forgot to turn off my caller I'd so now she has my number. My mom visited her in the hospital and spwnt almost 100 bucks on toothbrushes, clothing etc for her , and when she discharged and she still had pain and went back to the hospital and guess who went there again my mom and my mom waited with her till 12am and then drove her home. And my ex lives a good hour and a half from where my parents live, yet my mom went up there 3 times in a four day span. It's such a slap in the face, I hate how in the end she had no one and ran to the only people who actually cared about her, and all we got is a pathetic thanks. I wish I never broke nc now, I feel like I've been set back all the progress I made I'm happy she's alive to look after her son etc., but she's such a poisonous person, if my mom knew everything she did to me, I mean she almost died and the only people who cared was my family who thinks shes such a sweet human being, when she lied repeatedly cheated repeatedly and took advantage repeatedly. She sent me some corny txt msgs and some lame pokes on fb but I'm not falling into that trap, I may have to change my number again or figure out q way to block her. Edited May 22, 2011 by EmperorR Link to post Share on other sites
2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 What in hell is your mother doing? Can you not tell her what she (the ex) done and to stay away and stop talking to her? She gave you up why should your mum still care about her even her own family or friends didn't bother? 2011 Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 It's a tricky situation, what concerns a couple should stay between them only, I mean why poison other people's minds with the relations of all the evil our exes did to us? Probably, that same evil ex is nice and sweet with other persons... if I were to say some things about my ex to some friends that know her, they wouldn't believe me because she has being nice with them, and how not? They are not with her most of the time... On the other hand, if your folks are close to your ex, you shouldn't expect a strict NC on your side because in a certain mode, your ex is still in your life... in the end I think you did the best thing for you, because you are still angry at your ex and even if you had gone there and help her, it would have been forced rather than out of the heart... I don't know... but when I was a kid, this girl who had rejected me used to go home and spend lots of time with my mom and I had to tell her (my mother) that please didn't tell me anything about her... but you know how parents are... Link to post Share on other sites
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