DreamerGirl27 Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 refuses to do anything I like to do. This is a girl friend. She's easily made jealous of her friends. Her best friend is engaged and she is having a hard time being happy for her. She also gets jealous of girls skinnier than her. She has said to me that she doesn't want to go to our college youth group at church because they have a bunch of "stick thin" girls there. Now...personally, I find this preposterous. I don't get why she's so jealous all of the time of what other people have. Especially the weight issue, because that's something she could have herself if she really put some effort into it. She's just constantly envious of other people. I just don't know how to deal with her. She's also the type that constantly wants a boyfriend and while I get that, it's kind of over kill. She gets really depressed over the fact that she doesn't and she's willing to take anything she can get, basically. I get depressed about it, too. But only because there is actually a certain someone I'm interested in and I'm depressed over the fact that he doesn't like me, not really over the fact that I'm single. I'm depressed over an actual person, not just the idea of being single. Being single is absolutely fine to me. I only get depressed if there's someone or something to be depressed about. It's like, she's the type of person that wants a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. I really don't know how to talk to her, she's one of my best friends, but her jealousy really gets annoying. The other thing... She also only ever wants to go to places that I don't like going to. She reminds me of the girls I knew in elementary school who came from really strict, religious backgrounds. I love going to concerts and shows, she loves going to clubs and church. (A bit of on oxy moron, eh? haha) I hate clubs. I don't like to dance. I like to go to shows because I can stand there while someone else entertains me. Church is "eh" I come from a Christian home, but not a really strict Christian home and I did the church thing in high school and I'm ready to be done with that now. Anyway, so she refuses to do stuff I like to do. Meanwhile, I will go to places I don't particularly enjoy, like church (there are cute guys there, what can I say?) and clubs, even though I don't particularly enjoy them, but she won't go to shows with me. This is exactly what my "Christian" girlfriends did with me in high school. We could hang out, but only on their terms. She's even told me she finds it "weird" that I want to go to concerts and shows. She said it seems to odd to her. Well, I find clubbing and church odd. But I go anyway. I'm ready to put my foot down. I'm tired of 1) her jealousy and 2) catering to what they wanna do just for the sake of not having to stay at home. The guy that I like loves to do things I like. He's a musician, so he loves going to shows. He also likes to do other things I find enjoyable, part of the reason why I like him, but he's got me friends zoned, so I can't hang out with him all the time. Well, I guess I could, but I can't bring myself to ask him to do anything... : / Anyway... there's also kind of a tension between me and him, 'cause I really like him, so I'm nervous around him and that makes it kinda not fun to hang out with him all the time, especially seeing as he doesn't like me...so, that's kind of...well, that's I have no idea at this point. The only point is, he's like me as far as stuff he likes to do. I just can't hang out with him all the time. My best girlfriend, I would do things with ALL.THE.TIME...IF, she didn't live across the country. She loves going to shows, she's not a clubber and she hates church. It's like I found my twin!! But she doesn't live here. So, either, I put my foot down and tell the friends I DO have "no" when they ask me to go to clubs and church and basically have nobody to hang out with and spend all my time at home. Or I give in and do what they want only, just so I can get out of the house and do something with someone...anyone. I'm in a rock and a hard place, here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 anyone? ... Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 Okay that made absolutely no sense whatsoever at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Badenov Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 How about compromise? Is she open to taking turns on who gets to pick that nights activity? Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 How about compromise? Is she open to taking turns on who gets to pick that nights activity? No, like I said, they never do things I want to do. It's always me catering to what they want. If I suggest going to a show, they won't go. Link to post Share on other sites
Kari Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Perhaps try and expand your social circle, meet some new friends that you share interests with? Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 I've been trying to do that for years. Very few girls are into the whole heavy rock music scene. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Yeah, I got it now, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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