69ways Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Was together for 4,5 years LD engaged. She left me and it was a really bad one. Its been 4 months and two weeks I initiated NC but got a txt today. Just wondering how you are. I want her back.....Now what?
allie_lgh Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 don't read into it too much. Just because she broke NC doesn't mean this is an open invitation back into the relationship. It may just be that she misses you, but that doesn't mean she misses you enough to get back with you. Those are two different things! Just respond with something light and sweet. "I'm doing well. Thanks for asking! Hope all is well with you!" If she misses you enough that this is an invitation, she'll respond and continue the conversation and WILL tell you that she wants back. If she doesn't say those words to you move on. At least this way you kept your pride by not sounding needy or broken.
betterdeal Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Call her, say you want to reconcile and rebuild the relationship. That or nothing. Either tell her what you want or get what you want in other ways. What you want, IMO, is to be happy. This small-talk text has unnerved you. That's not a happy feeling, is it?
SlowBlues Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 don't read into it too much. Just because she broke NC doesn't mean this is an open invitation back into the relationship. It may just be that she misses you, but that doesn't mean she misses you enough to get back with you. Those are two different things! Just respond with something light and sweet. "I'm doing well. Thanks for asking! Hope all is well with you!" If she misses you enough that this is an invitation, she'll respond and continue the conversation and WILL tell you that she wants back. If she doesn't say those words to you move on. At least this way you kept your pride by not sounding needy or broken. This is spot on advice right here
Author 69ways Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 I did exactly this but told her also that I had been sick, I really was, so she called me and we spoke for a bit. She asked me if I could let her know what the analysis have and also said it was nice to speak to me.
Sugarkane Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Don't get your hopes up. An ex of mine contacted me recently. He promised that everything would be different between us. He said that he'd missed me the whole time we've been separated. Fast forward a month and he still hadn't bothered to even meet up with me. It was all just an ego boost to see if he could get me back.
bl22 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Call her, say you want to reconcile and rebuild the relationship. That or nothing. Either tell her what you want or get what you want in other ways. What you want, IMO, is to be happy. This small-talk text has unnerved you. That's not a happy feeling, is it? no dont call her, how desperate must that look. 1 tiny txt then she recieves a call ' i want to reconcile' wtf. any remaining respect she had for you will be gone if you do this
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