WTF? What makes me sick about all these stupid porn discussions

[HokeyReligions]

Originally posted by Sundaymorning

wrong!

His feelings would not get as hurt as mine would, but he would be like , what is up with this?

 

Why wouldn't his feelings get as hurt as yours?

[Fedup&givingup]

Originally posted by dyermaker

Every porn-watcher's SO who feels that the reason they are being turned down for sex is BECAUSE of porn is doing themselves a disservice, it's delusional. A preference to porn over sex is a SYMPTOM of intimacy issues, not a cause.

 

Some people just refuse to take responsibility for things.

 

And I can't believe some people are actually naive enough to think that there's no male porn out there, I'm not even ever looking for it, and it's everywhere.

 

I don't think it's not out there...I can't find any, woe is me

 

LOL

[Fedup&givingup]

Originally posted by zarathustra

I deem chronic, oppositional spousal porn consumption to be a species of infidelity committed by passive-aggressive, hostile husbands. Their goal is not just to get off. Rather, these pornboys wants to get off at the expense of their loving wives' self-image, feelings of self-worth, and love. Pornboy orgasms trump their marriages.

 

 

Porn is the marital WMD.

 

DING!!! DING!!! DING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We've GOT a winner in the house

[UCFKevin]

We're now in round 92, and neither sides are going down any time soon! AMAZING! Neither side is wavering, not even close! It's like these two behemoths are just going at each other with everything they have and it's not doing a THING! For those of you watching on Pay Per View, just be glad it's not an hourly rate!

 

Back to you, Bob.

[UCFKevin]

DING!!! DING!!! DING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We've GOT a winner in the house

 

Orrrrrr not.

 

See, what zara said COULD be true, but it also couldn't, it could just be a case of what *I* said. Guy gets horny. Guy jerks off.

 

What happens when you get hungry? You eat.

 

What happens when you get thirsty? You drink.

 

What happens when you're tired? You sleep.

 

What happens when you smell bad? You shower.

 

What happens when you're horny and you've got nothing else to do and the option of sex isn't an easy task to accomplish? You jerk off.

 

It is as SIMPLE AS THAT. For me, anyway, and I'd wager to say it's the same for most guys out there. They aren't doing it to make women feel worthless or unloved, or to ruin their self esteem.

 

Jesus H.

[Fedup&givingup]

Originally posted by UCFKevin

We're now in round 92, and neither sides are going down any time soon! AMAZING! Neither side is wavering, not even close! It's like these two behemoths are just going at each other with everything they have and it's not doing a THING! For those of you watching on Pay Per View, just be glad it's not an hourly rate!

 

Back to you, Bob.

 

True, true. I am not posting my thoughts on the matter to "win" anything. I'm very comfortable with my views, etc. I've come to truly learn a lot about myself...what I will accept/tolerate in a relationship vs. what I will not. I REALLY feel comfortable with myself, and I am REALLY learning to love myself.

[dyermaker]

Zara, do you honestly think that porn causes the problems? That's the cause?

[faux]

Originally posted by moimeme

It drives me absolutely up a wall that so many people are stressing themselves to death because their spouses want to look at other women. Why?

 

BECAUSE IT'S ONLY ABOUT APPEARANCE!!!!!

 

The thought of my significant other watching porn does not bother me. I have dated a few women who admitted that they loved porn. I suppose that I can understand why people fret over pornography, but I still think that this is a silly behavior.

 

I noticed many people have been talking about the media's influence on appearance. I tend to stress out over my own physical appearance. I exercise regularly and eat right, but I'm nowhere near the ideal physique that I would like to be. There are brief moments where I will think to myself, "Why am I even bothering? I have been working so hard at this, but will it ever get me looking great?"

 

I keep exercising, however, because it makes me feel happy to know that I am doing what is good for my body. Still, I do wish that I looked more like those attractive men in the media in many respects. I try to dress decently and keep well-groomed, but I find that I compare myself to others quite often.

[Fedup&givingup]

Originally posted by UCFKevin

Orrrrrr not.

 

See, what zara said COULD be true, but it also couldn't, it could just be a case of what *I* said. Guy gets horny. Guy jerks off.

 

What happens when you get hungry? You eat.

 

What happens when you get thirsty? You drink.

 

What happens when you're tired? You sleep.

 

What happens when you smell bad? You shower.

 

What happens when you're horny and you've got nothing else to do and the option of sex isn't an easy task to accomplish? You jerk off.

 

It is as SIMPLE AS THAT. For me, anyway, and I'd wager to say it's the same for most guys out there. They aren't doing it to make women feel worthless or unloved, or to ruin their self esteem.

 

Jesus H.

 

What I meant by "he's a winner" Kevin, is what he said works VERY well for me. Jerking off is one thing, but watching and engaging in virtual sex is off limits for me. It's the fact of using another person beyond your own imagination to get YOU off. I just won't tolerate it. It causes problems for me, and it might not for other women. I don't feel that I'm insecure, or that my self confidence is in question. Contrare.

[UCFKevin]

Then find a guy who feels the same way you do. Don't try to change who you are with to be like that.

[Darkangelism]

What is the difference between watching porn and say reading a romance novel, they have basically the same effect.

[Fedup&givingup]

Originally posted by UCFKevin

Then find a guy who feels the same way you do. Don't try to change who you are with to be like that.

 

Thanks, Kevin. That's exactly my point....it's all about compatibility. Not trying to change anything, other than my circumstances.

[UCFKevin]

Okay then.

[Arabess]

If a man didn't give me enough sex in a relationship....I don't CARE if it's due to porn, titty bars or because he's masturbated 3 times in the shower since breakfast. The bottom line is.....he isn't meeting MY needs....therefore he is now unnecessary.

 

I'm not going to blame the porn industry or anyone else. I'm not going to try to take away his toys to 'fix it'. I'm going to pack up his crap and send him down the road.

[Fedup&givingup]

Originally posted by Arabess

If a man didn't give me enough sex in a relationship....I don't CARE if it's due to porn, titty bars or because he's masturbated 3 times in the shower since breakfast. The bottom line is.....he isn't meeting MY needs....therefore he is now unnecessary.

 

I'm not going to blame the porn industry or anyone else. I'm not going to try to take away his toys to 'fix it'. I'm going to pack up his crap and send him down the road.

 

Right, right, RIGHT, right, RIGHT

[zarathustra]

If a man didn't give me enough sex in a relationship....I don't CARE if it's due to porn, titty bars or because he's masturbated 3 times in the shower since breakfast. The bottom line is.....he isn't meeting MY needs....therefore he is now unnecessary.

 

I'm not going to blame the porn industry or anyone else. I'm not going to try to take away his toys to 'fix it'. I'm going to pack up his crap and send him down the road.

 

 

 

AND THAT, AS THEY SAY, IS THE BOTTOM LINE!

[Juggs]

Originally posted by Fedup&givingup

 

 

That's exactly my point....it's all about compatibility. Not trying to change anything, other than my circumstances.

 

It really is about compatibility. Read earlier about someone whose S/O threw away his porn when he hooked up with her.... Not all men watch porn after marriage...

 

If I ever came home and found my husband's porn in the trash, I would run inside and check his pulse and his temperature to make sure he was still alive.

[UCFKevin]

Here's the thing, though.

 

Here's how *I* think.

 

Sex is awesome. LOVE SEX.

 

BUT.

 

Masturbation? Just me. Only have to worry about myself. Don't have to worry about the girl finishing first. Don't have to worry about going too fast. Don't have to prep things up, work things up to a sexual fervor. It's just SO much easier to jerk off than have sex sometimes.

 

Granted, given the choice, I'd take sex 10 times out of 10, but still, jerking off is the quick, easy way out when there's no booty around.

 

I've never been married, though, so I haven't had a girl living with me all the time, maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. I dunno. Feh.

[Fedup&givingup]

Married people DO masturbate, and most likely for all the good reasons you suggested.

[Juggs]

You let him make videos of you? Then when he watches porn, he's watching you.....

[Fedup&givingup]

Originally posted by Juggs

You let him make videos of you? Then when he watches porn, he's watching you.....

 

Nahhhhh, don't think so! As much of a sex kitten I am (purrrrrr LOL), I wouldn't want myself to be video taped in the act...I've got my pride. Besides, there's no telling on where or whose hands a video like that may fall into. That would be a disgrace

[Juggs]

I hear ya.... There are some angles of myself I just simply do not need to see....

 

Have a good night, folks!

[Tony T]

"You'd think that people would've had enough of silly porn threads." - Paul McCartney

[Arabess]

Originally posted by Tony

"You'd think that people would've had enough of silly porn threads." - Paul McCartney

 

 

I'll never hear the song again without remembering those change of words. It's too funny!!

[echocrush]

I never understood the concept of jealousy either... but I think most people are talking about two different things when they complain about their men looking at porn.

 

A. We have the jealous type who can't stand the thought of their man looking at another woman, the "is she prettier than me girls"... with them it's a personal issue, low self esteem etc. This is the kind of girl who made porn popular in the first place. The girls who think all men are dogs and meant to be kept on a leash.

 

B. We have the men taking care of their own needs while leaving hers unmet, too lazy or selfish to worry about pleasing anyone but himself, lying about it, hiding it, seeking higher and higher levels just to reach the same results, risking their home and family life to get another fix, hurting people, high risk behavior... sounds a bit like addiction doesn't it?

 

I take my husband to strip clubs, I pay for lap dances, I buy him porn and look at it with him, I taught him how to find it on the internet. He looks at it and then turns to me, if I am not interested in sex he can take matters into his own hands ahemm I don't care. He does not have a problem... I don't have a problem.

 

I did all of these things with my ex too, but I began to notice he couldn't get excited without outside stimulation. Then he lost interest in me all together, in most women altogether except one night stands. He was in love with the fantasy. I take him to the strip club, and he goes home and ahemm you know... That's messed up! I am on my knees begging for some attention and he would rather be his own best friend. And if he did crawl into bed then it was a strict two second thing, my needs no longer mattered, I stopped existing... I did everything to get his attention... and he couldn't see me. He complained about it to his friends and his friends all started hitting on me... Then he got pissed about that lol.

 

I had needs being left unmet, he was meeting his own needs. The essence of every good relationship?

I was being lied to, hiding it, sneaking out of bed in the middle of the night, all of the elements of an affair without the discretion, like having the other woman living with you.

It progressed from naked women to things that are illegal in most states to things that aren't legal anywhere and shouldn't be possible. To be blunt, okay I can accept that I'm not meeting his needs, but a woman with a barnyard animal is??? maybe I'm in over my head hmmm?

 

So call me selfish, but this bothered me... I don't want to have to keep a man on a leash, a dog will always be a dog, and I prefer to know if they bite or not.

 

So it would be prudent to discover if it is an issue with him or with her before asking why she would be upset... saying porn is normal and natural when it comes to a little peek now and then is fine. Saying it is with a man who no longer functions as a man in the real world makes about as much sense as defending an alcoholic having a drink.

 

I always wondered how to you type with just one hand???

 

BTW I just answered your initial question... I know the topic has mutated a bit since then.