CBlasek Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Hi. This Is Prolly Something Easy But I Dont Know. Im 19, and the girl I want to date is 19 as well. Problem is, its my best friends ex, they are over and weve become closer since the broke up.They have been apart for over 6 months now. I finally asked her out tonight, we are going to a hockey game this Sat. We both love hockey plus its playoffs baby!. I got great seats lower level, with passes for the restraunt a really "swanky" place i hear. My problem is, how do I find out if she thinks we could be a couple or if she wants to leave it as friends. I really really like her, and I think she likes me as well. My second problem is what do I wear? I have never been on a date with a "dress code", the restraunt is a really nice place. Must be VIP to get tickets. I wanna look my best but still fit in for the hockey game. Any Tips Would Be Appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
MustBeGoingCrazy Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Ask her, man! It sounds as if she likes you as well, but ask her how she feels, obviously. You'll have to eventually anyways, if ya get my drift. Just tell her that "at first you found it weird to think of her in other light (as it sounds you have, as you mentioned your friend), but recently you've found her different" or something along those lines, either you'll get a yes or a no, but either way, hey-- still friends, right? and dress... well... wear something inbetween! You wanna enjoy the game, right? but also be good for dinner? Either that, or wear something casual, and take a blazer with you... but I don't know what type of a club it is really So median, or bring spare/change of clothes... but be sure she knows too, she's probably in the same dilema. Link to post Share on other sites
gaia Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Is your best friend OK with this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author CBlasek Posted April 12, 2004 Author Share Posted April 12, 2004 Havent asked him yet. Wanna see how things play out before I do Link to post Share on other sites
Believer69 Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Personally, if her Ex really was my best friend, I wouldnt have asked her until I was sure it was ok with him. Now, you are young so six months is a long time, and you know the reasons why the broke up better then any of us, but sometimes that is a real no no in a friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
MustBeGoingCrazy Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 On a side note of friendship, you should let him know, but were he a true friend, he would put aside any harsh thoughts he has for this girl, and although he wouldn't simply forgive her, he would still wish you the best. You should definately tell him that you have feelings for this gal, and see where things go from there-- but love is one of those weird things that regardless of how ridiculed, hated, etc. you are for making the choices you make/made, it somehow doesn't matter. It always hurts when a friend turns on you for whatever reasons, but it's real friends that put up with you, even with all your quirks and problems that you bring to the table. People who are serious, in relationships, or just as friends, always work things out because they want the relationship/friendship to continue. Link to post Share on other sites
gaia Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 I think he'd appreciate being told early rather than later, especially if anyone else tells him first! Link to post Share on other sites
Author CBlasek Posted April 13, 2004 Author Share Posted April 13, 2004 Well I told him, hes actually cool with it, gave us his blessing. Hed rather see her happy than not happy, which she was cuz the guys she were dating were a**h***s Link to post Share on other sites
gaia Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 Go for it, then - good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyann Posted April 14, 2004 Share Posted April 14, 2004 On what to wear.... I am a hockey fan myself. Lets see what would I want my date to wear to a hockey game......... How bout a pair of khakis and a button down long sleeve shirt or a collared Polo like shirt? What do you think? Dressy, but casual. Oh, tuck your shirt in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CBlasek Posted April 14, 2004 Author Share Posted April 14, 2004 Ok. I was thinking that myself. But now I have another prob. I see this as a date, but I am not sure that she does. Is there any tips ya guys/gals have to find that out. without making it awkward if it isnt? Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyann Posted April 15, 2004 Share Posted April 15, 2004 I wish that I could help you on this one as welll. However, I am still wondering about a get together myself..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author CBlasek Posted April 19, 2004 Author Share Posted April 19, 2004 Well We Had A Great Time. We had plenty of fun, game was awesome, the place was rocking aswell. But I still dont know, we held hands while walking to and from the game, I love her so much, but my buddy is starting to hint that he wants to get back with her. I cant stand to see her be hurt again. She has problems with depression and I think this is just a way to get back at me. I love her to much to withstand it all again. Any ideas or am i just being a ass that I wont be able to be with her if he is still in the picture? or am i just jealous now that he is starting to make a move for her again? I feel that if he makes a good move she will get back togethor with him, and he will just hurt her even more. Link to post Share on other sites
Qicah Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 Well, only the girl can decide who to choose between you and her ex. Just hope for the best... We don't know what is in your girl's mind but you did held hands already. Don't know what does that mean to her. I think, if she would have to choose between you and your ex, she would give it a second thought. But there's still two possibilities. Good luck ! Link to post Share on other sites
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