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I can't stop thinking about my ex. It's only been 3 weeks, but from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed she's on my mind. I try to keep myself busy, but I don't even enjoy the things I used to love to do. I'm a personal trainer and real fitness fanatic, but I feel so unmotivated. I still train or run or do something physical every day, but I don't enjoy it anymore. Feels like I'm just going through the motions. I can honestly say there is nothing that makes me happy right now. I'm so down.

 

It's messed up. I had a terrible break up years ago with a woman I was engaged to. Walked in on her with another man in our bed. It was so much easier getting over her because I instantly hated her. This latest relationship was the first time I really opened up and let my wall down and now I got crushed. I have nothing but fond memories and don't feel any ill will towards my ex. I just want to be with her so badly. This thread isn't going anywhere. I just don't know how to deal with my life going forward. I've never been depressed before. It's ruining me.

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I can't stop thinking about my ex. It's only been 3 weeks, but from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed she's on my mind. I try to keep myself busy, but I don't even enjoy the things I used to love to do. I'm a personal trainer and real fitness fanatic, but I feel so unmotivated. I still train or run or do something physical every day, but I don't enjoy it anymore. Feels like I'm just going through the motions. I can honestly say there is nothing that makes me happy right now. I'm so down.

 

It's messed up. I had a terrible break up years ago with a woman I was engaged to. Walked in on her with another man in our bed. It was so much easier getting over her because I instantly hated her. This latest relationship was the first time I really opened up and let my wall down and now I got crushed. I have nothing but fond memories and don't feel any ill will towards my ex. I just want to be with her so badly. This thread isn't going anywhere. I just don't know how to deal with my life going forward. I've never been depressed before. It's ruining me.

 

Well, there's your problem. You've NEVER been depressed before. It's going to take you a bit longer to get back into the things you love to do. Give it time, don't rush the healing process. Try not to think about healing, either, just let it happen.

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My fiancé left and I didn't stop crying for two weeks. Similar situation to yours in that I don't wish her bad. Infact I wish her nothig but happiness.

 

I realised something was up after not eating and being unable to control my emotions at all. Like I'd cry at work, in the car and when I'd talk to her I'd basically have a breakdown.

 

Now I was never a hard man but wouldn't ever have imagined myself acting like that! I mean, seriously!!

 

So I go to the doc and he prescribes me some anti depressants and suggests talkig to a therapist.

 

I did both and it has changed my life.

 

I still dearly love the ex would love to take her back, but so many positives have come from this awful break up that I find it hard not to think it happened for a reason (I was never very spiritual before but I'm changing my out look on even that!)

 

You are not alone in your pain and we all feel for you. It's not a nice place to be but it does get easier. I HATED hearing that, but it's about the only thing that's guaranteed.

 

If you take good care of your self you will come out the other end a better person.

 

Good luck :0)

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