DreamerGirl27 Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 This sort of mentality men still have of where they want to chase a woman and it's the "thrill of the chase" that gets and keeps them interested. I was just listening to something my mom was watching and even though it's 2011, that still seems to be the mentality. Men want what they can't have. I don't play that game. I don't play hard to get. Ya know, I'm not some wildebeest in nature with a lion on my tail who wants to catch me and if I were, once it did, I wouldn't be too happy, now would I? When I like a guy, I don't want to act aloof and tell him "I'm busy" on occasion to make it seem like my life is so busy I just don't have time for him. I want to shout it on top of a mountain, I want to tell him how cute his dimples are, hell...I want to tell him how cute his butt is, even. I want to let him know that I am in love with him and only him and I don't and couldn't imagine myself being with anyone else. When I like a guy, I don't want to run in the other direction, I want to run TO him. I WANT to be caught. If I'm playing hard to get, it's because I'm not interested. I will never be some game you can conquer and convince to like you because you're so awesome. I don't function that way, never have, never will. If I don't like you, I don't like you and no amount of "chasing" will ever do you any good. In fact, it'd probably make me ignore you, block you, and get a restraining order against you if need be. Anyway. Just wanted to vent about how stupid it is that men love the "thrill of the chase". Now...some women cave. I always hear the line, "I didn't think I liked him at first" or "he wasn't really my type, but then I got to know his personality." and yada yada yada. Hog wash. No amount of personality can make me love your beer gut, ugly face, receding hair line or anything of that sort. So guys. If you have to "chase" a girl. It's probably because she's not interested. At least that's how it is in my case. I hate games. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 This sort of mentality men still have of where they want to chase a woman and it's the "thrill of the chase" that gets and keeps them interested. I was just listening to something my mom was watching and even though it's 2011, that still seems to be the mentality. Men want what they can't have. Bull. If it's something I can't earn, I'll never want it. When I like a guy, I don't want to run in the other direction, I want to run TO him. I WANT to be caught. If that's true, you have a man's mind trapped in a woman's body. I will never be some game you can conquer and convince to like you because you're so awesome. I don't function that way, never have, never will. If I don't like you, I don't like you and no amount of "chasing" will ever do you any good. In fact, it'd probably make me ignore you, block you, and get a restraining order against you if need be. Look, if I'm not interested in a woman, it isn't going to do her any good to get all coy and flirty, because I won't let my buttons be pushed. If some women find that frustrating, well TOUGH. I hate games. Better yet, I don't play them. Link to post Share on other sites
plasma Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 not for nothing but a majority of american women are not worth chasing, again no offense, american women tend to be miserable, vendictive and lazy. i expect to get pounced on because thats what american women do, defend your turf all you want but the quality of women abroad and beyond is much much more appealing. Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 not for nothing but a majority of american women are not worth chasing, again no offense, american women tend to be miserable, vendictive and lazy. i expect to get pounced on because thats what american women do, defend your turf all you want but the quality of women abroad and beyond is much much more appealing. Stereotyping is cool. Actually, no it isn't. Link to post Share on other sites
plasma Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 im american and love the usa but when i finally became sucsessfull i started traveling around the world in my 20's i realized that theres women who love to be treated like a WOMAN. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 not for nothing but a majority of american women are not worth chasing, again no offense, american women tend to be miserable, vendictive and lazy. i expect to get pounced on because thats what american women do, defend your turf all you want but the quality of women abroad and beyond is much much more appealing. I used to think this way until I quit watching daytime television. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
plasma Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 I used to think this way until I quit watching daytime television. LOL jesus not to mention how toxic todays TV programming is. It really is sickening and gut wrenching. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Share Posted May 18, 2011 I like being treated like a woman. In fact, my only desire and goal in life is to be a wife and a mom. I just don't like it when a guy I like doesn't chase me and old Mr. Fatso pants is doing so on the side. If I'm ignoring a guy, it isn't because I want him to chase me, it's because I want him to go away. The longer I talk to a guy the more and more attached I get and the more and more I want him to come after me and I get irritated when he doesn't. I also don't like how it's a turn off when you show interest first. It's really difficult to play this coy attitude where I'm acting like I'm not interested when in reality, I'm ready to jump his bones. I got news for all of you, that is how every woman feels. We get the heebie jeebies when a man we're not interested in is after us, and extremely hurt when we're rejected. That's probably WHY men do the chasing. I just want someone I actually want to chase me to chase me already and I'm easy to catch!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 Women are just as bad. The less you want them the more they want you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Share Posted May 18, 2011 On the contrary, it hurts my feelings and breaks my heart when a guy I like doesn't want me. I never want to be unwanted. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 not for nothing but a majority of american women are not worth chasing, again no offense, american women tend to be miserable, vendictive and lazy. i expect to get pounced on because thats what american women do, defend your turf all you want but the quality of women abroad and beyond is much much more appealing. OTOH a lot of women from abroad act like they have the IQ of a fencepost. Mean-spirited American women or dense foreign women... take your pick. On the contrary, it hurts my feelings and breaks my heart when a guy I like doesn't want me. I never want to be unwanted. Sounds like you didn't have any teenage friends to tell you how it really is. You need to be converted to disagreeableness. Link to post Share on other sites
Wang101 Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 Don't be hating... Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Don't be hating... I'm simply telling it from the POV of my experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Wang101 Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 I'm simply telling it from the POV of my experiences. Oops...I actually talking to the Thread Starter which I think always has negative vibes (no offence TS) Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Share Posted May 19, 2011 Yes, because you can sense vibes through a computer screen. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Bull. If it's something I can't earn, I'll never want it. Yup. You know how men like to hunt? What's the point of dropping a dead moose on a man's doorstep, when he wanted to hunt, kill, and mount it himself? Same idea. Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Women are just as bad. The less you want them the more they want you. Often true. The OP is case in point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Share Posted May 20, 2011 I don't want a guy that doesn't want me. I want the only guy I've ever wanted in my entire life to want me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Share Posted May 20, 2011 Bull. If it's something I can't earn, I'll never want it. What if she doesn't want to be earned? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted May 20, 2011 Share Posted May 20, 2011 I don't want a guy that doesn't want me. I want the only guy I've ever wanted in my entire life to want me. You're funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Share Posted May 20, 2011 May be funny to you, but I'm being honest. Link to post Share on other sites
My-lady-smiles Posted May 25, 2011 Share Posted May 25, 2011 Men love the chase. Last summer I met a guy he chased me like a dog, flowers and the whole shabang and I didnt put out for a while untill we were exclusive, needless to say he got me and that was it over. I was in shock, lesson learned. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted May 25, 2011 Author Share Posted May 25, 2011 Men love the chase. Last summer I met a guy he chased me like a dog, flowers and the whole shabang and I didnt put out for a while untill we were exclusive, needless to say he got me and that was it over. I was in shock, lesson learned. This is why I promote abstinence, quite proudly, at 26 years old and have done so since I was 18. Link to post Share on other sites
Soru Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 I understans entirely. But my situation ended badly. The girl I first fell in love with was a no games kind of girl. It was genuine and innocent. But in the end, she just stepped over me like I was just another stepping stone. I gave her my everything. I wanted to make her feel happy, and did everything in my power to do so. But I couldn't save or help someone who doesnt know they have insecurities or isnt ready to face them. I lost my only real long term relationship and first love over something that was futile on my part, and misleading and it hurts...It hurt a lot because of the romantic that I am. This just happened last week.... Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Men love the chase. I don't love the chase. I must be made of plastic or something. Last summer I met a guy he chased me like a dog, flowers and the whole shabang and I didnt put out for a while untill we were exclusive, needless to say he got me and that was it over. I was in shock, lesson learned. OTOH I'd run from a woman who wants to put out for me. I value my life! Link to post Share on other sites
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