Would you date a web cam model?

[oaks]

its still pays though. im not proud of it but we didnt have enough coming in and i had a little boy. it managed to put food on the table and because of that im not ashamed of doing it.

 

You should be proud of it! You took decisive action to get a paid job to provide for your family.

[perfectlyunique]

You should be proud of it! You took decisive action to get a paid job to provide for your family.

 

well i didnt really enjoy it, and now im unemployed again as having a child apparently your not flexible enough. at the time it seemed to be the only thing i could do.

 

ive done loads of courses now and volunteered for over a year and still its got me nowhere... how ever bad the webcaming thing was it still bloody paid. not being able to bring money in does get to you. i suppose one day though summit will come up without having to resort to doing the webcam thing

[oaks]

well i didnt really enjoy it, and now im unemployed again as having a child apparently your not flexible enough.

 

Fair enough. Good luck with the job search!

[perfectlyunique]

Fair enough. Good luck with the job search!

 

thanks very much

[Feelsgoodman]

just because someone is a webcam model in no way does it make them a bad person. i used to be one when i was struggling for money. i regretted it yes but now i help families with kids and im going to be helping families with disabled kids also, i think that says a lot about the type of person i am. i care . i only did the webcam modelling bebcause i wasnt flexible enough to get any other job and its easy to do that as its in your home and you could do it whenever you want.

 

i did stop doing it and im volunteering and doing courses. There are hardly any jobs out there at the minute. there are 1.4 million people claiming jobseekers and not enough jobs to go round. sometimes you cant be picky

I don't, even for a second, buy your argument that there are no jobs out there. That's just your way of rationalizing your choice. Of course there are jobs out there. How else do you explain the fact that millions of people come to the US from places like Mexico in search of jobs??? (and I can I assure you that most of these people do NOT work in the porn industry) If a Mexican woman, who barely speaks any english, can support herself and her kids without stripping in front of a web cam, then so can you.

 

Let's face it, you took that job because it was easy and paid better than a typical "working class" job. I'm not saying you are a bad person, and it sounds like you've regretted your decision, but please, don't try to rationalize your choice by saying you had no other alternative.

[Ruby Slippers]

In stead of saying "how convenient" for women, I'd say "how stupid for men to pay money for this".

Good point.

 

Oh LS. A woman having sex before X number of dates, or having Y number of partners and she is damaged goods, a slut, gross. But a webcam model, cool!!!

Another good point.

 

Personally, I would not date someone who participated in and profited from the sex trade. We just wouldn't have compatible values. I have had acquaintances who did this kind of thing and stripping, and they had some major issues.

[Jazzari]

I don't, even for a second, buy your argument that there are no jobs out there. That's just your way of rationalizing your choice. Of course there are jobs out there. How else do you explain the fact that millions of people come to the US from places like Mexico in search of jobs??? (and I can I assure you that most of these people do NOT work in the porn industry) If a Mexican woman, who barely speaks any english, can support herself and her kids without stripping in front of a web cam, then so can you.

 

Let's face it, you took that job because it was easy and paid better than a typical "working class" job. I'm not saying you are a bad person, and it sounds like you've regretted your decision, but please, don't try to rationalize your choice by saying you had no other alternative.

Getting a job relies on many factors and for some, its very difficult.

 

A migrant worker can easily get a job in my area. But the people who hire them would NEVER hire me. I'm not physically able to do the work, and an attractive white girl working with the migrants is just not accepted here. Also, (hate to say this) but many people like to hire migrants because they can pay them under the table, fire them without cause, and even treat them badly.

 

And no, in some areas there are no Mcjobs around. The competition is huge and if you don't have prior experience, you are SOL.

 

I don't think stripping in front of a camera is "easy". Besides the mental stress, it also requires some investment in terms of props, lighting, computer, camera, costumes, etc. Not to mention being treated badly by both your customers and those that might find out. Getting a typical job would be MUCH easier if they were available.

 

Web Cam models can also choose their hours. Nighttime seems to be best. A mother can use the day to take care of her children instead of putting them in day care - then work after they are asleep. The value and importance of that can't be stressed enough.

 

I'm very grateful that I don't have to do this type of work. But I won't judge anyone who does.

[Feelsgoodman]

Getting a job relies on many factors and for some, its very difficult.

 

A migrant worker can easily get a job in my area. But the people who hire them would NEVER hire me. I'm not physically able to do the work, and an attractive white girl working with the migrants is just not accepted here. Also, (hate to say this) but many people like to hire migrants because they can pay them under the table, fire them without cause, and even treat them badly.

 

And no, in some areas there are no Mcjobs around. The competition is huge and if you don't have prior experience, you are SOL.

 

I don't think stripping in front of a camera is "easy". Besides the mental stress, it also requires some investment in terms of props, lighting, computer, camera, costumes, etc. Not to mention being treated badly by both your customers and those that might find out. Getting a typical job would be MUCH easier if they were available.

 

Web Cam models can also choose their hours. Nighttime seems to be best. A mother can use the day to take care of her children instead of putting them in day care - then work after they are asleep. The value and importance of that can't be stressed enough.

 

I'm very grateful that I don't have to do this type of work. But I won't judge anyone who does.

Give me a break! There are plenty of jobs you could get in spite of your handicap of being a"pretty white girl" . I doubt McDonald's or Walmart would turn you away because you're too pretty for them. And if you're indeed as attractive as you say, you could make pretty good tips waiting tables. And these types of jobs are available everywhere.

 

People go into stripping/porn because it's an easy way to make money, not because it's their only option for putting food on the table.

[perfectlyunique]

I don't, even for a second, buy your argument that there are no jobs out there. That's just your way of rationalizing your choice. Of course there are jobs out there. How else do you explain the fact that millions of people come to the US from places like Mexico in search of jobs??? (and I can I assure you that most of these people do NOT work in the porn industry) If a Mexican woman, who barely speaks any english, can support herself and her kids without stripping in front of a web cam, then so can you.

 

Let's face it, you took that job because it was easy and paid better than a typical "working class" job. I'm not saying you are a bad person, and it sounds like you've regretted your decision, but please, don't try to rationalize your choice by saying you had no other alternative.

 

if you google uk, north east lincolnshire im sure you will find out. im not lying about the fact theres hardly any jobs it a fact and has been on the news. The figure is 1.4 million jobless. people are being made redundant left right and centre. You can choose not to believe it but that doesnt mean its not true. what reason would i have to lie about it?? it was my only option because i couldnt get a job elsewhere at the time.

i did the job as a webcam performer because i could work around my little boy and i got money from it. No way would i go back to it BUT that doesnt mean im lying about the uk's job situation its a FACT

[Star Gazer]

Is web cam model a euphemism for live masturbation porn? Or is it just like, having your webcam on and having them watch you do whatever (cook dinner, paint your toes, etc.)? I'm just not familiar with the terminology...

 

Can someone answer this? I'm dying to know...

[Jazzari]

Give me a break! There are plenty of jobs you could get in spite of your handicap of being a"pretty white girl" . I doubt McDonald's or Walmart would turn you away because you're too pretty for them. And if you're indeed as attractive as you say, you could make pretty good tips waiting tables. And these types of jobs are available everywhere.

 

People go into stripping/porn because it's an easy way to make money, not because it's their only option for putting food on the table.

LOL! Way to twist "pretty white girl" out of context and to a ridiculous extreme.

 

McDonalds hires young people. Walmart hires the old and minorities. There are no jobs waiting tables. There are too many people with prior experience in those types of jobs and I have none.

 

I stand a better chance looking for work in my field. Unfortunately, to date I have been only partially successful. I will continue to work at it, and hopefully things will change.

 

At this point, I will agree to disagree with you about options. Some people go into the porn industry for the reasons you stated. But many people don't have options and it's a shame they are judged so harshly. It's terrifying to be helpless and I don't blame people for doing whatever it takes.

[Jazzari]

Is web cam model a euphemism for live masturbation porn? Or is it just like, having your webcam on and having them watch you do whatever (cook dinner, paint your toes, etc.)? I'm just not familiar with the terminology...

 

Can someone answer this? I'm dying to know...

It's sexual. Each girl decides how far they are willing to go and what they will do. There are no requirements.

 

Obviously, the more you do, the more you earn.

[EasyHeart]

Can someone answer this? I'm dying to know...

Me too!

 

If you're just letting guys look at you, then what on Earth is the big deal? If you're having sex in front of them, then I can see where people would be uncomfortable with it.

[Star Gazer]

It's sexual. Each girl decides how far they are willing to go and what they will do. There are no requirements.

 

Obviously, the more you do, the more you earn.

 

Ah.

 

Well, I'm not a guy, but I couldn't and wouldn't date a male webcam model.

[perfectlyunique]

Getting a job relies on many factors and for some, its very difficult.

 

A migrant worker can easily get a job in my area. But the people who hire them would NEVER hire me. I'm not physically able to do the work, and an attractive white girl working with the migrants is just not accepted here. Also, (hate to say this) but many people like to hire migrants because they can pay them under the table, fire them without cause, and even treat them badly.

 

And no, in some areas there are no Mcjobs around. The competition is huge and if you don't have prior experience, you are SOL.

 

I don't think stripping in front of a camera is "easy". Besides the mental stress, it also requires some investment in terms of props, lighting, computer, camera, costumes, etc. Not to mention being treated badly by both your customers and those that might find out. Getting a typical job would be MUCH easier if they were available.

 

Web Cam models can also choose their hours. Nighttime seems to be best. A mother can use the day to take care of her children instead of putting them in day care - then work after they are asleep. The value and importance of that can't be stressed enough.

 

I'm very grateful that I don't have to do this type of work. But I won't judge anyone who does.

 

thats exactly right and tbh id never go back to it. it was never my type of job. i dont know if you are in the uk or not but if you are you will know how the job work front is here. from you mentioning walmart i assume your from the us as we dont have a walmart here we have asda who walmart own

but this is one example of how bad its getting

 

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/jobs/hr-news/8224169/UK-jobs-market-under-real-pressure-in-2011.html

 

and its getting worse

[Jazzari]

Yes, I'm in the USA. Based on that article, I guess I shouldn't move to the UK hoping to find work!

[perfectlyunique]

yer defo dont its really quite depressing, it even harder when you have a child because i have to take him to school and pick him up so my hours are restricted. i can work weekends as my little boy goes to his dads then but no one seems to be advertising for then or there advertising for jobs i couldnt possibly do like an engineer (havent got the qualifications). i mean i could get my boy a child minder but with him away at weekends and in full time school id never see him, and then id be working just to pay for childcare. i cant win either way lol i cant believe how bad its got!

[Feelsgoodman]

LOL! Way to twist "pretty white girl" out of context and to a ridiculous extreme.

 

McDonalds hires young people. Walmart hires the old and minorities. There are no jobs waiting tables. There are too many people with prior experience in those types of jobs and I have none.

So let me get this straight: you are too old for McDonald's (though apparently not too old for porn...) but too young for Walmart? And, on top of that, you are not an immigrant and speak fluent English, which apparently reduces your chances of finding respectable employment to zero. Hilarious!

 

I'm willing to bet that you haven't even tried applying for any of those jobs that you claim to be "not qualified" for. You probably just figured okay, I can't get a job in my field, so I'll go into porn.

Edited May 19, 2011 by Feelsgoodman

[Jazzari]

So let me get this straight: you are too old for McDonald's (though apparently not too old for porn...) but too young for Walmart? And, on top of that, you are not an immigrant and speak fluent English, which apparently reduces your chances of finding respectable employment to zero. Hilarious!

 

I'm willing to bet that you haven't even tried applying for any of those jobs that you claim to be "not qualified" for. You probably just figured okay, I can't get a job in my field, so I'll go into porn.

As far as age goes and porn, MILFs are the hottest thing out there right now. So my age is perfect for that.

 

And you lost your bet. Why you think porn is the top of anyone's list of job opportunities is a mystery. Sounds like you have a personal issue?

[yessy21]

I see nothing wrong with being a webcam model. there is absolutley no physical contact unless its with yourself so i dont see it as an issue.

 

Some men are overly protective or jealous and dont agree.

others understand that its not something out of this world.

[perfectlyunique]

So let me get this straight: you are too old for McDonald's (though apparently not too old for porn...) but too young for Walmart? And, on top of that, you are not an immigrant and speak fluent English, which apparently reduces your chances of finding respectable employment to zero. Hilarious!

 

I'm willing to bet that you haven't even tried applying for any of those jobs that you claim to be "not qualified" for. You probably just figured okay, I can't get a job in my field, so I'll go into porn.

 

ive applied for mcdonalds 3 times and each time they have never gotten back to me. ive even had a careers advisor who i met up with every week.She got me applying for alsorts and the only time people got back to me is when they said id been unsuccesful. i did the webcaming thing because i was quaranteed a job. it brought money in so personally whats the problem? at the end of the day all it is, is a job.

[Feelsgoodman]

As far as age goes and porn, MILFs are the hottest thing out there right now. So my age is perfect for that.

 

And you lost your bet. Why you think porn is the top of anyone's list of job opportunities is a mystery. Sounds like you have a personal issue?

The only issue I have is with people who make lame excuses.

 

As for why people go into porn, there's no mystery: it's an easy job and pays better than McDonalds.

[perfectlyunique]

The only issue I have is with people who make lame excuses.

 

As for why people go into porn, there's no mystery: it's an easy job and pays better than McDonalds.

 

in what way was mine a lame excuse? and really its a job like anything else. does that mean you have a problem with watching movies? most of them have females stripping off ..for one reason and one reason only ..for the blokes to oggle at ...

[Feelsgoodman]

ive applied for mcdonalds 3 times and each time they have never gotten back to me. ive even had a careers advisor who i met up with every week.She got me applying for alsorts and the only time people got back to me is when they said id been unsuccesful. i did the webcaming thing because i was quaranteed a job. it brought money in so personally whats the problem? at the end of the day all it is, is a job.

I'm not familiar with the job situation in the UK, but in North America, getting a "McJob" is pretty easy.

 

I have to ask you though: what do all those women in the UK who are not suitable for work as webcam models by virtue of their physical characteristics do for a living? Besides, you told us that you are no longer involved in that line of work, so presumably you now have a different job...which kind of defeats your whole argument.

[MrNate]

I don't have a problem with it.

 

Actually getting on camera and getting paid to play with my **** don't sound half bad. lol.