Ross MwcFan Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 I always hear that this is supposed to mean they're physically attracted to you. I noticed a girl do it today. But I was thinking, wouldn't they also do this if they were just shy, or unconfident? I don't think it has to mean they must find you physically attractive. But then again, if they were shy or unconfident maybe they wouldn't have made eye contact in the first place? Kinda confusing. What do you peeps think? Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 I heard its usually held eye contact and a smile if they like you.. If the sign was staring away or not evne looking at you when you give eye contract id be the biggest player in the world because thats all i get Link to post Share on other sites
CambridgeGirl Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 When someone is embarrassed fleetingly if you catch them looking at you, and they like you in any way, they look down, if they are not interested or were looking at you out of contempt etc, they look away sideways. This is involuntary and is something all humans do except for those so skilled in body language they can choose how to react in a millisecond. Watch people and see... Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 When someone is embarrassed fleetingly if you catch them looking at you, and they like you in any way, they look down, if they are not interested or were looking at you out of contempt etc, they look away sideways. This is involuntary and is something all humans do except for those so skilled in body language they can choose how to react in a millisecond. Watch people and see... Haha, the bolded part is so true on my behalf.lol Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 When someone is embarrassed fleetingly if you catch them looking at you, and they like you in any way, they look down, if they are not interested or were looking at you out of contempt etc, they look away sideways. This is involuntary and is something all humans do except for those so skilled in body language they can choose how to react in a millisecond. Watch people and see... Holy cow. You could be right about this! Like Smile Face, this is true for me also. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 Holy cow. You could be right about this! Like Smile Face, this is true for me also. I think the side ways turn is a form of turning up your nose at someone. Which I am guilty of. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 I think the side ways turn is a form of turning up your nose at someone. Which I am guilty of. I'm sitting here imagining different men and scenarios and testing this theory . It's mostly true but of course not 100%. Yes, looking away is like saying "Yo, don't get any ideas. The potted plant a few feet away is just as interesting." Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 18, 2011 Author Share Posted May 18, 2011 When someone is embarrassed fleetingly if you catch them looking at you, and they like you in any way, they look down, if they are not interested or were looking at you out of contempt etc, they look away sideways. This is involuntary and is something all humans do except for those so skilled in body language they can choose how to react in a millisecond. Watch people and see... I'm sure usually when I make eye contact with guys though, that when braking eye contact, I automatically look down (my head doesn't go down, just my eyes). Obviously I wasn't attracted to them. I guess it's a beta male, being unconfident kinda thing. So surely girls could sometimes do it for the same reason? Link to post Share on other sites
CambridgeGirl Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 If someone dislikes you and wants you to know, they will never look down, they will just avert their eyes sideways, it is an obvious dismissal, and can be very insulting. It also says, I am not subordinate to you, I just don't care. Looking down is an obvious show of submission, conscious or not, and usually means, I like you and am nervous around you, and are looking down to make it clear there is no aggression meant here either. I suspect if you watch our ape friends, who cannot speak or lie, you will find they do this exactly the same )) Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 I'm sure usually when I make eye contact with guys though, that when braking eye contact, I automatically look down (my head doesn't go down, just my eyes). Obviously I wasn't attracted to them. I guess it's a beta male, being unconfident kinda thing. So surely girls could sometimes do it for the same reason? Do people actually use "beta" and "alpha" outside of forums, lol? Yes I think it has to do with confidence. When I look down after looking at a guy it is more I am embarrassed for being caught. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 18, 2011 Author Share Posted May 18, 2011 If someone dislikes you and wants you to know, they will never look down, they will just avert their eyes sideways, it is an obvious dismissal, and can be very insulting. It also says, I am not subordinate to you, I just don't care. Looking down is an obvious show of submission, conscious or not, and usually means, I like you and am nervous around you, and are looking down to make it clear there is no aggression meant here either. I suspect if you watch our ape friends, who cannot speak or lie, you will find they do this exactly the same )) So what would someone do if they don't dislike you and don't want to insult you, but also don't fancy you at the same time? Look up? Link to post Share on other sites
CambridgeGirl Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 I'm sure usually when I make eye contact with guys though, that when braking eye contact, I automatically look down (my head doesn't go down, just my eyes). Obviously I wasn't attracted to them. I guess it's a beta male, being unconfident kinda thing. So surely girls could sometimes do it for the same reason? It isn't always about attraction no, but we can like/dislike/respect/disrespect anybody, so the meaning may vary slightly, but the response will be be the same. When you look down quickly when I man fixes a stare, that is you feeling nervous and signalling hey buddy, I'm no threat to you. An alpha male will slowly look away sideways, he will never ever look down, he would be incapable of this reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 Yes and don't forget omega. You are joking, right? Link to post Share on other sites
CambridgeGirl Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 So what would someone do if they don't dislike you and don't want to insult you, but also don't fancy you at the same time? Look up? They won't choose how to look away! They might blink a few times quickly to help soften the look away, I see people do this too, its neither rude nor passive, sometimes its just "oops", sorry, I didnt mean to stare. The slow sideways look it always a clear message, always. There is also the often cited rule that if you ask someone a question and they answer whilst looking down and to the left, that they might be lying, or are at least uncomfortable with either the subject matter, or you. Try it yourself, its weird. Link to post Share on other sites
CambridgeGirl Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 Yes and don't forget omega. Who knows, but they exist, not sure about omega, some men I know claim to be proud zeta males...? Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 No I am not. SO.... I am more than likely to hear a guy say "What the hell was that? That was so "beta" of you!" Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 No I am not. I don't mean in the technical sense of the word, you know?....60secs60secs60secs Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 When I make eye contact with a guy then look down, yes, it is because I find him intriguing and am too shy to hold the eye contact. And if I look down, blush, and smile, then I find him REALLY intriguing. I just can't help it. When I am just being myself, at first, I tend to act like a shy little girl around a guy I am really drawn to. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 I'm a confident person who generally maintains eye contact when I catch the eye of a cute guy. If I avert my eyes from a man, it's usually because he's made me uncomfortable in some way (e.g., staring). Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 18, 2011 Share Posted May 18, 2011 If they are shy, it might be a sign. I am really shy, and look away after making eye contact when I like someone. Link to post Share on other sites
welikeincrowds Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 What if they look diagonally down? Does that count as to the side? Really, I'm asking. The first thing I imagine for this is it happening while walking down the street in NY, which is fleeting and contained and different from most other situations where you can creep on someone. Although, it's really crazy when you lock eyes with someone walking the other direction, most of the time it's merely odd and slightly awkward, but very rarely, I'll haphazardly stumble into intense eye contact, and instantly become stricken by intense attraction, the kind where you're reminded of your heartbeat. It's like turning the corner and getting punched in the stomach, it's ****ing crazy actually, it will make you believe in Cupid. I usually just let moments like that go, but maybe the next time it happens I'll try to stop that person and talk to them. Unless they end up looking to the side! Link to post Share on other sites
alethean Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 As a shy person, I find myself looking down a lot, regardless of whether or not I like them. But I suppose eye contact is harder or even nearly impossible around guys I am interested in. As far as the sideways look away thing...I have never caught myself doing that. Maybe I don't feel contempt for anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
Knittress Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Shy is a kind of disinterest. I'm breaking eye contact because I don't want to be talked to, whether I consider you attractive or not. It's because I'm uncomfortable with male attention and doesn't have a whole lot to do with my evaluation of the person or their 'game.' Yeah. That's why I'm on the internet, reading about dating instead of going on dates. Link to post Share on other sites
zlatnapolja Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 I always hear that this is supposed to mean they're physically attracted to you. I noticed a girl do it today. But I was thinking, wouldn't they also do this if they were just shy, or unconfident? I don't think it has to mean they must find you physically attractive. But then again, if they were shy or unconfident maybe they wouldn't have made eye contact in the first place? Kinda confusing. What do you peeps think? Well when I'm really impressed by a guy, I'll stare at them but whenever they would look at me I would look away but I'll have a smile on my face!! Link to post Share on other sites
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