action Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 Hi! I was in a relationship for 3 months with someone who rarely had any time for me at all. She didn't have any time because she went to school, worked full-time, and had tonnes of homework. As a result of this she was failing a class, and was getting in trouble with her parents. I decided to confront her about not spending any time with me, because it felt asthough she didn't want to spend time with me. I told her it seems like she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. She said it's just that she doesn't have time for a relationship right now. Now, I know we were only together for a short time and in a previous topic this was noted as the 'trial period'. But I feel as though we never really got to know eachother because we never spent time together. I told her that it doesn't bother me if we don't spend time together now, because I know that we would be able to in the future (when she is done school). But she said that she would like her spare time to be able to find herself. She just got out of a dependant relationship and after feeling like a 'we' for so long, she wants to feel like a 'me'. She also said that it would be unfair for me to wait for her, and not experience new relationships, because I wouldn't be happy. I asked her if she thinks that we will be able to get back together when she has more time. She said maybe. But she doesn't want to hold me back. The fact that she is willing to let me go proves how great she is. But I can't help but feel asthough I did something wrong that she won't tell me. Although we barely spent time together. The time I did spend with her was amazing. I can't let someone so great go so easily. Do you think it would be a good idea for me to keep in touch with her? Give her time? And try in the future? Or does it seem as though I am full of false hope? Does it sound like I could have done something wrong? And, do you think there is a good chance for us to get back together? I have been reading the e-book 'How to Get Back Your Ex', and I've also ordered 'How to Get Your Lover Back' and 'Bonds That Make Us Free'. So that if we ever do get back together, I will know how to get her back and how to keep her. She means that much to me. I can't let her go so easily.. please give helpful advice. Any who has been in a similar situation would probably be helpful too. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted April 12, 2004 Share Posted April 12, 2004 It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. It sounds like she has her hands full. If you want to keep in touch with her, I don't think there's anything wrong with that as long as you're not pestering her for a relationship. It's better for you to simply try to move on with your life for the time being. She's made it clear that nothing is going to happen for now, and I know that probably hurts. But let yourself heal and then get out there and start meeting other people. If she wants something in the future, she can approach you then, if you're still available. But there's no sense in waiting for something that you don't know will ever happen. Good luck to you! Moving on is difficult, but not impossible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author action Posted April 12, 2004 Author Share Posted April 12, 2004 Another question I have is. If you knew that you found the love of your life, wouldn't you do anything in your power to be with him/her? Link to post Share on other sites
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