During NC how much should you change your routine?

[erica01]

I just started NC yesterday and I have been trying to decide how much to change my routine. Me and MM live basically less than a mile from each other and we also know a lot of the same people. I don't want to change things too much but I also don't want him to think that I'm going places hoping to run into him, his friends, or family.

 

The major thing that I am worried about is that some of his family and I even go to the same church (not him though). It is a very small community church and I originally decided not to go this Sunday or find another church. But I have promised the pastor that I would talk to him about some business matters on Sunday and I don't have a good number for him anymore. It's important that I handle that this week though.

 

I don't want to run into his family (bro, sis, etc) but I know at least 2 of them will be there. And I really need to go. They are definitely gonna speak to me, they do every sunday. Any suggestions?

[Emme]

Well you can make one exception and go this week. It will be your last. Or you can find a contact for the church and leave a message for the priest. The main idea is to not have contact with him. His family seems to be ok but you need to not bring his name up. Are you going to this church on sunday or you haven't decided yet?

[erica01]

Well you can make one exception and go this week. It will be your last. Or you can find a contact for the church and leave a message for the priest. The main idea is to not have contact with him. His family seems to be ok but you need to not bring his name up. Are you going to this church on sunday or you haven't decided yet?

 

I am trying to go on a regular basis now and have been for the past several weeks. A coworker invited me to her church so I think I will go one way or another just want to handle things sunday because on last week I promised that I would.