TooMuchPride Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 my eyes r literally filled with tears right now...i guess i brought this upon myself...ive been strict nc about 2 months now..n today i kind of broke it...a mutual friend of ours started speaking about my ex...and out of curiousty i asked if he was seeing someone new..i know for a fact she wont tell my ex i asked..but it turns out he has....and i was doing so good...and now i feel so broken...i have no idea what to do or say...i literally felt my heart crack...i just feel so used. Link to post Share on other sites
kris-26 Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 I just went thru the same thing. Found out there was a possibility he was seeing someone. I have been nc for two mths also, so it sucks bc then u feel like you took ten steps back. But I've been talking to a lot of my friends and the main thing is you didn't contact him when you found this out. You stayed strong. Its just a feeling of rejection. Bc deep down there's this hope of some sort. Now its like wow he moved on so fast. I made a pact to myself to not look up anything on fb or anything else. Bc imagination will make ur mind wander. Someone posted on here that we are imagining they are as happy as we think. Plus guys move on so much quicker. Its so annoying. But try to stay positive and keep doing what your doing! I'm right w you. Just hoping it keeps getting better Link to post Share on other sites
usabup Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 I feel for you, I really do. What you have to remember is that its all part of the process. I know it sounds strange, but its the best thing you could have heard and ill tell you why. After a break up, our biggest fear is having to hear our ex is with someone new. We know that when it happens it is going to be the worst pain possible. Its just happened to you and I know what your going through. But the reason why its such good news is becauser this is the worst you are ever going to feel....and its all uphill from now on! You know that nothing you can hear about your ex is going to feel any worse then this so you can really start to heel now. Everyday you will feel a little better about it and accept the situation a little more. Then you will just stop caring. Its gonna be a tough couple of days for you but believe me when I say it only gets better from now on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TooMuchPride Posted May 19, 2011 Author Share Posted May 19, 2011 I just went thru the same thing. Found out there was a possibility he was seeing someone. I have been nc for two mths also, so it sucks bc then u feel like you took ten steps back. But I've been talking to a lot of my friends and the main thing is you didn't contact him when you found this out. You stayed strong. Its just a feeling of rejection. Bc deep down there's this hope of some sort. Now its like wow he moved on so fast. I made a pact to myself to not look up anything on fb or anything else. Bc imagination will make ur mind wander. Someone posted on here that we are imagining they are as happy as we think. Plus guys move on so much quicker. Its so annoying. But try to stay positive and keep doing what your doing! I'm right w you. Just hoping it keeps getting better you made a good point there we think they are so happy..and our imaginations make us wonder...its kind of an assumption based on what she told me but either way it stings because whether its his girlfriend or not its something..but you are right! we still havent contacted...and though it may be "hope" i just cannot buy that he isnt thinking about me as much as i think about him...but at the same time im so convinced that he has a million girlfriends and never loved me..the mind does crazy things...this burns but i already had a lil cry and im feeling better...the hardest part of breaking up is getting rid of that "false hope" this just took a big chunk out of it...it will only make me stronger. but thankyou Link to post Share on other sites
Author TooMuchPride Posted May 19, 2011 Author Share Posted May 19, 2011 I feel for you, I really do. What you have to remember is that its all part of the process. I know it sounds strange, but its the best thing you could have heard and ill tell you why. After a break up, our biggest fear is having to hear our ex is with someone new. We know that when it happens it is going to be the worst pain possible. Its just happened to you and I know what your going through. But the reason why its such good news is becauser this is the worst you are ever going to feel....and its all uphill from now on! You know that nothing you can hear about your ex is going to feel any worse then this so you can really start to heel now. Everyday you will feel a little better about it and accept the situation a little more. Then you will just stop caring. Its gonna be a tough couple of days for you but believe me when I say it only gets better from now on. very good points! thankyou Link to post Share on other sites
kris-26 Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Yeah the mind plays crazy tricks! But just bc someone isn't contacting u doesn't mean they aren't thinkin about you. I mean look at us, were not contacting but were still thinking about them. But I doubt the whole give it time thing. But I guess we really have no choice but to keep going fwd. And oh boy does it sting, makes you feel like we meant nothing. But deep down we know that's not the case. Stay strong. Link to post Share on other sites
NicoleM Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 I understand how you feel. I did the stupidest thing today by wishing my ex a happy birthday and now that I think about it probably came off desperate and stalkerish. He never responded ( even though I was hoping) and now I know that is it is time to move on. Sometimes we do stupid things when we are in love and sometimes we wish they would come back but once it's over it is over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TooMuchPride Posted May 19, 2011 Author Share Posted May 19, 2011 Yeah the mind plays crazy tricks! But just bc someone isn't contacting u doesn't mean they aren't thinkin about you. I mean look at us, were not contacting but were still thinking about them. But I doubt the whole give it time thing. But I guess we really have no choice but to keep going fwd. And oh boy does it sting, makes you feel like we meant nothing. But deep down we know that's not the case. Stay strong. yep yep! we will get through it! n in ur earlier post u said guys get over things so much quicker & i believe thats only because its so much easier to find a girl willing to settle down and be faithful and put their energy into without being hurt than it is to find a guy!..but yes ill stay strong you too! Link to post Share on other sites
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